no, youre not dreaming

[Galatea]

she lied to me a lot

i couldnt trust her

What did she lie about? I find this strange, to break up with someone you love.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

What did she lie about? I find this strange, to break up with someone you love.

its embarrassing lol

she cheated on me

i took her back after i broke up with her
then i caught her lying. all the same signs

so i just assumed she was cheating again

wouldnt be home when she said she was

lying about going to dance class

found a number on her dresser (didnt even hide it... she just said it was a girl friend of hers, but i memorized it and it was a man named sean)

 

[Hellooo]

I'm in the insurance field (not really by choice, just kind of where life took me). I learned that:

Speculative risk = Risk that could give you gain, change nothing, or cause loss. Example, gambling. You can win a million bucks, you can break even, or you can lose money.

Pure risk = You can only either do nothing or lose. This is what insurance is, because if you use it, it's always the result of a loss.

I view dating as pure risk right now - it would only change nothing or make it worse, not better.

I think I'll be ready to date again when I view it as speculative.

"Rachel: Bringing insurance into dating since 2017"

It seems very cruel to me, sometimes, that we're born with this need to connect with other people .


Putting yourself out there and letting yourself be vulnerable to someone is a big risk
It's such a high when things go well
And you can't let it destroy you when things dont

 

[Galatea]

its embarrassing lol

she cheated on me

i took her back after i broke up with her
then i caught her lying. all the same signs

so i just assumed she was cheating again

wouldnt be home when she said she was

lying about going to dance class

found a number on her dresser

That is very sad. I don't know. I guess I am a hopeless romantic. I want everyone to make up with people they love. I guess she'd have to want to make up, of course. I was thinking it was not as drastic as cheating. Maybe she's grown up between then and now.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

That is very sad. I don't know. I guess I am a hopeless romantic. I want everyone to make up with people they love. I guess she'd have to want to make up, of course. I was thinking it was not as drastic as cheating. Maybe she's grown up between then and now.

maybe.... but shes found someone else im sure

i find it hard to even talk on any kind of romantic level any more

(by hard its happened twice in 7 years both times i was drunk)

 

[NoNameMcgee]

and i quit drinking entirely ... i could count on my hands the total times i ever drank but every time i did somethin i regret

 

[Galatea]

maybe.... but shes found someone else im sure

i find it hard to even talk on any kind of romantic level any more

It is too bad. If you can forgive her and still have feelings for her, why not look her up? Perhaps she still cares for you, too. I don't know. Love is not something that happens everyday. Anyway, I don't really have any advice for you. I was mostly wondering why you had to break up with someone you love since that sounded illogical to me.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

It is too bad. If you can forgive her and still have feelings for her, why not look her up? Perhaps she still cares for you, too. I don't know. Love is not something that happens everyday. Anyway, I don't really have any advice for you. I was mostly wondering why you had to break up with someone you love since that sounded illogical to me.

haha gotcha

maybe i was too vague

 

[rachelsedge]

What did she lie about? I find this strange, to break up with someone you love.

Someone broke up with me, and they loved me. It probably happens more often than we think. Though I guess it makes you wonder if they really loved you? Both "yes" or "no" makes it complicated, just in different ways.

 

[slave]

ladies dont get too hasty
a single file line is ideal

i understand your excitement but one at a time please


applications below
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hahaha sorrrry bluueeee. i know its not a dating site
ill take my buisness to myspace or w.e

lol dooont scooold me (jp ladies sorry to disappoint... just teasin blue)








on a more serious note
to those of us who ARE single men and women

do you plan on staying single?
waitin for God to reveal his-will on the matter?

have things you LOOK for and standards that gotta be met


how do you look at dating?


to be honest i started early

from 12 to 17 i was intimate with a girlfriend ( 1 at a time but not just 1 all 5 years)

then i had to break up with a girl i loved
my heart hurt

so i just played the field a little for a-cpl years as a single man

and became celebate about 7 years ago with 2 ... speed bumbs

now to avoid speed bumbs
ive become much less willing to entertain the idea of courting

im scared id lose to temptaion
so i flee the whole situation even when i see qualities i like in a female

kinda professional in person

So how do you avoid thinking about women? It's not just about being with them in person...So if God promises to control you in public, can you let God control your mind? If you fail in either areas satan will return with a vengeance to create a stronghold, would you say you have a stronghold issue in the area of lust?

 

[NoNameMcgee]

So how do you avoid thinking about women? It's not just about being with them in person...So if God promises to control you in public, can you let God control your mind? If you fail in either areas satan will return with a vengeance to create a stronghold, would you say you have a stronghold issue in the area of lust?

what do you mean how?

i think about women
but not lustfully for more than a moment

then i pray in my head if im around people or outright if im at home


im not a masterbater
or fornicater

i dont watch porn

or stare at women who dress in a way thats wrong

 

[NoNameMcgee]

i think about lust kinda like i think about fighting

maybe someone will make me mad and for a moment i want to punch them

then i feel like an idiot
i pray

i now dont want to punch them and i feel sorry



and i think about marrige as a concept more than put a face to a future wife

 

[slave]

what do you mean how?

i think about women
but not lustfully for more than a moment

then i pray in my head if im around people or outright if im at home


im not a masterbater
or fornicater

i dont watch porn

or stare at women who dress in a way thats wrong

When I was about 18, I had promised myself that one of the first questions I would ask God when I saw Him was, "What were you thinking? How is an 18 year old supposed to control such a strong craving?" And this was a subject that wouldn't subside for years as I tried with all my might to be pure by the measure God indicates in Scripture. But I went through three steps forward and two steps back, until finally God's Spirit said no more.

Now, to be clear, I wasn't a porn person, nor was I out of control exceptionally, but compared to the Word's criteria, I was a beast. I knew that if I was going to be real with God I had to have victory in this somehow so I had to come to a revelation from the Holy Spirit. And I did! my spirit felt the intuition of His Spirit saying calmly obey Me at all costs.

I had always wanted to, and I had given my all, but He said in a still Spirit "This is my battle not yours, just stand on my rock, and tell satan to get lost. So I yielded my fight to Him, and obeyed (at all costs), but satan had a stronghold on me, and to be honest, I was doubtful, so I continued to fail for awhile because I hadn't let go of the fight to God.,

One day I just was sick of not being right in that area with God and I blurted out emphatically, "NO MORE!!" without doubting and I could feel my surrender becoming complete....I turned and gave satan the what's up in Jesus' name! And God's power filled the room immediately! His power smoked satan and satan fled quietly. satan never fled quietly before. He waited for a weak moment and lunged at me again in temptation, over and over again, but something had changed in me, I was God's now and my thoughts were God's now and over time satans stronghold was snapped, and he didn't waste his time trying anymore.. Now I preface that with the fact I still must guard my heart and mind, but I have victory now, complete victory. I still can't thank God enough for that...

The thing is I am not sure if you have read the Scriptures of God's will on the subject so here are just a few to look at if you would like:

Matthew 5:28New American Standard Bible (NASB)

28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

* 1 Corinthians 6:18
* 1 Thess. 4:3-5
* 1 Corinthians 10:13
* Romans 6:11-14

I had to come to a point of understanding that I was fundamentally not free; external circumstances are not in my hands, they are in God's hands; the one thing in which we are free is in our personal relationship to God.

We are not responsible for the circumstances we are in, but we are responsible for the way we allow those circumstances to affect us; we can either allow them to get on top of us, or we can allow them to transform us into what God wants us to be.

My prayers extend to your corner. There is much more going on in the spiritual warfare than just a girlfriend experience here.

 

[Galatea]

Someone broke up with me, and they loved me. It probably happens more often than we think. Though I guess it makes you wonder if they really loved you? Both "yes" or "no" makes it complicated, just in different ways.

It doesn't make sense to me. I don't know how you can let go of someone you love. I know I could not.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

When I was about 18, I had promised myself that one of the first questions I would ask God when I saw Him was, "What were you thinking? How is an 18 year old supposed to control such a strong craving?" And this was a subject that wouldn't subside for years as I tried with all my might to be pure by the measure God indicates in Scripture. But I went through three steps forward and two steps back, until finally God's Spirit said no more.

Now, to be clear, I wasn't a porn person, nor was I out of control exceptionally, but compared to the Word's criteria, I was a beast. I knew that if I was going to be real with God I had to have victory in this somehow so I had to come to a revelation from the Holy Spirit. And I did! my spirit felt the intuition of His Spirit saying calmly obey Me at all costs.

I had always wanted to, and I had given my all, but He said in a still Spirit "This is my battle not yours, just stand on my rock, and tell satan to get lost. So I yielded my fight to Him, and obeyed (at all costs), but satan had a stronghold on me, and to be honest, I was doubtful, so I continued to fail for awhile because I hadn't let go of the fight to God.,

One day I just was sick of not being right in that area with God and I blurted out emphatically, "NO MORE!!" without doubting and I could feel my surrender becoming complete....I turned and gave satan the what's up in Jesus' name! And God's power filled the room immediately! His power smoked satan and satan fled quietly. satan never fled quietly before. He waited for a weak moment and lunged at me again in temptation, over and over again, but something had changed in me, I was God's now and my thoughts were God's now and over time satans stronghold was snapped, and he didn't waste his time trying anymore.. Now I preface that with the fact I still must guard my heart and mind, but I have victory now, complete victory. I still can't thank God enough for that...

The thing is I am not sure if you have read the Scriptures of God's will on the subject so here are just a few to look at if you would like:

Matthew 5:28New American Standard Bible (NASB)

28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

* 1 Corinthians 6:18
* 1 Thess. 4:3-5
* 1 Corinthians 10:13
* Romans 6:11-14

I had to come to a point of understanding that I was fundamentally not free; external circumstances are not in my hands, they are in God's hands; the one thing in which we are free is in our personal relationship to God.

We are not responsible for the circumstances we are in, but we are responsible for the way we allow those circumstances to affect us; we can either allow them to get on top of us, or we can allow them to transform us into what God wants us to be.

My prayers extend to your corner. There is much more going on in the spiritual warfare than just a girlfriend experience here.

thank you

 

[slave]

thank you

..................

 

[NoNameMcgee]

It doesn't make sense to me. I don't know how you can let go of someone you love. I know I could not.

i didnt know Jesus or anything about him till 6 years after
i left her


i dont know how id feel about my wife commiting fornication with multiple other men now

but i remember the pain i felt then