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Hi everyone, I am new here, and I guess I really need a bunch of help finding my way thru this thing called life right now. I will try to be as brief as possible, but I am dealing with many things all at once. I am going to tell you about the things that are causing me the most confusion right now.
I lost my husband 9 yrs ago, he died after a 17 year battle with cancer. We had one lovely daughter. So when he died I was left running his Hydraulics/machine shop business. After a couple of years of that, the business was going down quick. I sold the business to a couple of guys, and I maintained ownership of the building. for six years I recieved a decent living from the rental of the property. Then they wanted to buy the building, I had sign an option for them to purchase, so basically I had to sell. But in the due dilligence process they found that the property was contaminated, so of course no bank willl lend money for that. so for 6 years now I have been involved in a legal fight over who is responsible for the contamination.
As a side note....we both operated with the contaminant......Also prior to them taking over I did have enviromental testing that showed a very small amount of the contaminant in one area......So I signed on the line that I was responsible for that.
Now there is test showing contamination everywhere on the property, and some very high numbers in some areas.
So the fight started and is still on to lay blame.In the meantime I have been spending all the money I have to fight this. spending to a place that I never felt I would ever be.
In March they gave up the business here and packed it in, So I have had less than nothing for income since then. I am living off the equity in my home.
In June 08 gotten remarried to a nice man, who does the same line of work, My first husband did. He is the same only different. The stress between us now is money for one, but the bigger stress is that he is trying to create his own business in my building, and I do not see him as organized enough to run a business successfully, and it takes money to make money. and we have none (I know I sound like a terrible person) I do respect my current husband ability to do the work and do it very very well, I just see too much disorganisation to become a successful entrepeneur.
so basically I try to let things be, leave it in God hands etc. But I am very scared, the stress is so high I am on basic survival mode right now, and I am trying to be proactive and help myself. But I really don't have a clue what to do.
I think I know what many of you will be saying to me,
but I will wait to hear from you. You can let me have it, I am looking to be told, so I will be as open as I can.
Thanks for allowing me this space and time.
Renee
I lost my husband 9 yrs ago, he died after a 17 year battle with cancer. We had one lovely daughter. So when he died I was left running his Hydraulics/machine shop business. After a couple of years of that, the business was going down quick. I sold the business to a couple of guys, and I maintained ownership of the building. for six years I recieved a decent living from the rental of the property. Then they wanted to buy the building, I had sign an option for them to purchase, so basically I had to sell. But in the due dilligence process they found that the property was contaminated, so of course no bank willl lend money for that. so for 6 years now I have been involved in a legal fight over who is responsible for the contamination.
As a side note....we both operated with the contaminant......Also prior to them taking over I did have enviromental testing that showed a very small amount of the contaminant in one area......So I signed on the line that I was responsible for that.
Now there is test showing contamination everywhere on the property, and some very high numbers in some areas.
So the fight started and is still on to lay blame.In the meantime I have been spending all the money I have to fight this. spending to a place that I never felt I would ever be.
In March they gave up the business here and packed it in, So I have had less than nothing for income since then. I am living off the equity in my home.
In June 08 gotten remarried to a nice man, who does the same line of work, My first husband did. He is the same only different. The stress between us now is money for one, but the bigger stress is that he is trying to create his own business in my building, and I do not see him as organized enough to run a business successfully, and it takes money to make money. and we have none (I know I sound like a terrible person) I do respect my current husband ability to do the work and do it very very well, I just see too much disorganisation to become a successful entrepeneur.
so basically I try to let things be, leave it in God hands etc. But I am very scared, the stress is so high I am on basic survival mode right now, and I am trying to be proactive and help myself. But I really don't have a clue what to do.
I think I know what many of you will be saying to me,
but I will wait to hear from you. You can let me have it, I am looking to be told, so I will be as open as I can.Thanks for allowing me this space and time.
Renee
