I have been dealing with my husbands crazyness for 6 months now my daughter and i found him in another women house drunk 2 weeks ago passed out in her bed. he came to me on the following saturday asking for forgiveness/ we talked for 2 days about our issues mostly his, my daughter was not so forgiving and went off on him like a ton of bricks he blamed me for what she was saying, said he did not like how he was treated and could not promise me he would never see the other women again, still swearing they were just friends and she just wanted him to sleep it off, now he is cold again trying to blame it all on me i tried so hard to forgive, as i feel GOD wants, but i give up on this cold ice person i feel is beyond all my prayer request,s and i feel there is a mental issue beyond all of my strenght and prayers he wont get help so please pray for me and my Daughter she is so sick right now from all the stress/ the praers brought him home to beg for forgiveness then it all went away?
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blessed323
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Hello shortydoe,
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Continue to pray for him, but give him his space. You nor your daughter need to be put through any mental anguish. He's trying to reverse the blame from him to you and that is just game. Take care of your daughter and try to find peace in the midst of this. Never stop praying because sometimes what we pray for is not what God wants for us. Seek God for answers and what you need to do concerning your marriage. May God bless you and and keep you in perfect peace.
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Continue to pray for him, but give him his space. You nor your daughter need to be put through any mental anguish. He's trying to reverse the blame from him to you and that is just game. Take care of your daughter and try to find peace in the midst of this. Never stop praying because sometimes what we pray for is not what God wants for us. Seek God for answers and what you need to do concerning your marriage. May God bless you and and keep you in perfect peace.
Im not sure i undrstand i prayed for my peace to be done with all of this i ased for prayers and he came home and asked for forgiveness i gave it and i thought Jesus answered my prayers 2 days later i got the cold fish again. so confused, i thought he heard my prayers only to get me to go through more by me forgiving him?
Sometimes Jesus answers our prayers in different ways than we expect. I know Jesus loves you and cares for you.
As for your husband, he has committed adultery and you have to decide what you are going to do in light of his confession that he will not give the other woman up. Your daughter is right to be angry at this betrayal. The blame is 100% on the sinner. You are your daughter are the victims and he is not. He has committed a terrible sin against your family.
I would not put up with that from man. He is not repentant towards you or God and that is a basic requirement for a marriage. I will pray that God will show you his plan from now on, and that you will find the peace that only Jesus brings.
As for your husband, he has committed adultery and you have to decide what you are going to do in light of his confession that he will not give the other woman up. Your daughter is right to be angry at this betrayal. The blame is 100% on the sinner. You are your daughter are the victims and he is not. He has committed a terrible sin against your family.
I would not put up with that from man. He is not repentant towards you or God and that is a basic requirement for a marriage. I will pray that God will show you his plan from now on, and that you will find the peace that only Jesus brings.
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Duckies
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Hi shortydoe,Dont lose your faith, God hears you and always has a plan; even though that might sometimes be different from what we have planned Our selfs. If i may suggest, both You and your Daughter should sit together and pray to Jesus for his guidance and for him to work his will in your lives."(Mathew 18:20) For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them."God Bless Your family. Many of us will add you to our prayers!
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simplyme_bekah
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You know I want to say run. Run from this man but keep him in your prayers. No one is worth your health or your life. One thing the Lord has been teaching me is that its not my job to save someone that it is His job, His timing. If he said he cant give up this other woman and you found him in her bed.....come on sister, really? he has already given you reason to walk in your eyes and in Gods eyes if he was unfaithful to you with this woman. run.
I lift you up in prayer asking that the Lord gives you very clear directions on what He wants you to do and that He opens up every single door that you need. I pray He blessed you and comforts you and that He fills your heart with His peace. I ask all on Jesus name, amen.
I lift you up in prayer asking that the Lord gives you very clear directions on what He wants you to do and that He opens up every single door that you need. I pray He blessed you and comforts you and that He fills your heart with His peace. I ask all on Jesus name, amen.
Thank you all for the prayers, I feel stronger today, If he would stop, stopping in at home i could just move on but he finds excuses to stop here every 2 days or so, he did drop off money for us for bills. He must have some hart left. I pray the lord heals his mind and brings the old man i knew back.
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hattiebod
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This is such a difficult and hurtful situation for you...it may not be solved for quite some time? Sometimes we can learn through such pain, we can turn more fully to rely on God, we can learn perseverance, patience and to be forgiving. I know...'easy for me to say' and I do not write to hurt you further but often when we have such a catastrophic event occur, we expect it to be fixed fast. We are not promised quick fixes, we are often asked to wait a long time and to go through difficult times but know as you do go through your 'valley' you do not walk alone. Perhaps your husband keeps coming back because he does not want to leave....he is finding this difficult and confusing too. Yes, I know, he is the one who has cheated on you...but can you forgive? Can you be 'Christlike' in your responses, gentle? Patient and kind? You can be...it will take great courage and strength , which you will only find in Christ. But if you do dig deep, He will reward you. This is a good time to be on your knees, you will hear His voice and i know He wants to cofort you. His promises to you, His precious child, never fail. I do not know if your marriage will be restored, but I do know how we are called to act. You can be firm, you can say it as it is but you can do it with a gentle spirit. I know if you do pray for strength, for wisdom, for restoration with a faithful heart, you will gain peace in this. And as you gain peace, so will your strength grow and your anxiety and confusion over this lessen. God Bless you, <><
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