Hey Singles,
In talking about dating and relationships, we know that there is a lot of discussion about someone trying to change us--whether it be parents or well-meaning friends saying we need to do this or that to find someone, or maybe it's the person we're interested that in turn tries to change us...
Now, I fully believe in constructive feedback and realize that sometimes, it can include hard truths. After all, the Bible tells that to refuse wise instruction is foolish and destructive, and sometimes, it's God Himself who is trying to change us.
BUT on the other hand... God makes us into unique individuals with our own personalities and quirks. What things do you know are "you" and will never change? What are some things people try to change about you that you know are things you need to stand your ground on?
For example, someone who would want to become close to me, whether as a friend or as my potential spouse, will have to accept that I:
1. Am a natural-born morning person who has to go to bed early and get up early to feel human. I've tried all sorts of experiments to try to change this, but know this is how I am. If I marry a night person, I'm sure we could compromise, but he wouldn't be able to change this about me!
2. Love cartoons and comic strips (Garfield, Dilbert, Scooby-Doo, the old Spider-Man and Justice League of America, etc.) and always will.
3. Have a strong heart for inmates, war veterans, and both perpetrators and victims of abuse--not many guys would want a wife who is interested in talking to these populations... but if that's where God has called me, it can't be changed--though I would be listen to his leadership regarding how I would go about serving in these areas. I hope to find someone who would be supportive of my ministry interests and maybe even share them himself.
4. Am not interested in getting a tattoo or piercings myself (I have no "inkings" and only one piercing in each ear), but am VERY drawn to other people who have them and LOVE to ask and talk to people about them--to me, each one has a story, and I love hearing about other people's stories and experiences.
What about you? What things do you know someone will never change about you?
In talking about dating and relationships, we know that there is a lot of discussion about someone trying to change us--whether it be parents or well-meaning friends saying we need to do this or that to find someone, or maybe it's the person we're interested that in turn tries to change us...
Now, I fully believe in constructive feedback and realize that sometimes, it can include hard truths. After all, the Bible tells that to refuse wise instruction is foolish and destructive, and sometimes, it's God Himself who is trying to change us.
BUT on the other hand... God makes us into unique individuals with our own personalities and quirks. What things do you know are "you" and will never change? What are some things people try to change about you that you know are things you need to stand your ground on?
For example, someone who would want to become close to me, whether as a friend or as my potential spouse, will have to accept that I:
1. Am a natural-born morning person who has to go to bed early and get up early to feel human. I've tried all sorts of experiments to try to change this, but know this is how I am. If I marry a night person, I'm sure we could compromise, but he wouldn't be able to change this about me!
2. Love cartoons and comic strips (Garfield, Dilbert, Scooby-Doo, the old Spider-Man and Justice League of America, etc.) and always will.
3. Have a strong heart for inmates, war veterans, and both perpetrators and victims of abuse--not many guys would want a wife who is interested in talking to these populations... but if that's where God has called me, it can't be changed--though I would be listen to his leadership regarding how I would go about serving in these areas. I hope to find someone who would be supportive of my ministry interests and maybe even share them himself.
4. Am not interested in getting a tattoo or piercings myself (I have no "inkings" and only one piercing in each ear), but am VERY drawn to other people who have them and LOVE to ask and talk to people about them--to me, each one has a story, and I love hearing about other people's stories and experiences.
What about you? What things do you know someone will never change about you?