Please help me break my soul tie with me ex

[ChristopherC]

I need my fellow brothers and sisters to pray for the breaking of my soul tie with my ex girlfriend. She was abusive so I cannot continue on with her despite deeply caring for her. I believe she wants to be a good Christian but nobody should date someone who has borderline personality disorder and is not getting help for it but please pray for her too.

 

[love_comes_softly]

Praying for the Lords strength, guidance, comfort and healing in yours and your ex’s life.

 

[crmvet]

John 8:36

 

[TabinRivCA]

I need my fellow brothers and sisters to pray for the breaking of my soul tie with my ex girlfriend. She was abusive so I cannot continue on with her despite deeply caring for her. I believe she wants to be a good Christian but nobody should date someone who has borderline personality disorder and is not getting help for it but please pray for her too.

A 'soul mate/tie' is someone in sync with you not someone at odds w/you, right? God please guide Christopher thru this situation with your wisdom and peace, and bless them in Jesus name, amen

 

[Amanuensis]

What is a soul tie? Do you mean that you tolerated the abuse for such a long time that you got familiar with it as a way of life. Now you are grieving over the loss of what you never had? You grieve that you lost "what could have been" or "what should have been" but you are grieving over the loss of a fantasy?

Stop grieving over the loss of a never realized dream. Be happy that you have been delivered from an abusive relationship. It is not a soul tie you need deliverance from it is a new reality that you need. Or rather that of "facing reality"

It was bad. It wasn't good. You are not losing anything. When you start to imagine what could have been, remind yourself that this is not real. It is an imagination. Don't make the same mistake and build a new relationship on what "could be" and live in a make believe world in your head that does not exist in real life. Instead find someone who actually demonstrates the godly characteristics in the right now without making excuses for how they will do better in the future.

The desire to forgive others of their faults and believe the best for them and their future change that will never happen is a trap.

Believe the best for their future change from afar. Not while being in a romantic relationship.

Don't accept excuses. Seek someone who is consistently civil and polite even when stressed. There are plenty of them out there but it takes some time to discover how they act. Dating is not the way to discover them.

 

[JohnDB]

I need my fellow brothers and sisters to pray for the breaking of my soul tie with my ex girlfriend. She was abusive so I cannot continue on with her despite deeply caring for her. I believe she wants to be a good Christian but nobody should date someone who has borderline personality disorder and is not getting help for it but please pray for her too.

Well you have to understand that she never was capable of love to begin with. She lied to you.
You were in love with the idea of her and not her herself... because she never supported you or your desires.

 

[ChristopherC]

A 'soul mate/tie' is someone in sync with you not someone at odds w/you, right? God please guide Christopher thru this situation with your wisdom and peace, and bless them in Jesus name, amen

Google's quoted answered:
If you've found someone who makes you feel so intertwined and connected to them, you may have developed a soul tie. "A soul tie, sometimes referred to as emotional or spiritual cording, is an inexplicable, powerful emotional bond to another person

Well you have to understand that she never was capable of love to begin with. She lied to you.
You were in love with the idea of her and not her herself... because she never supported you or your desires.

What is a soul tie? Do you mean that you tolerated the abuse for such a long time that you got familiar with it as a way of life. Now you are grieving over the loss of what you never had? You grieve that you lost "what could have been" or "what should have been" but you are grieving over the loss of a fantasy?

Stop grieving over the loss of a never realized dream. Be happy that you have been delivered from an abusive relationship. It is not a soul tie you need deliverance from it is a new reality that you need. Or rather that of "facing reality"

It was bad. It wasn't good. You are not losing anything. When you start to imagine what could have been, remind yourself that this is not real. It is an imagination. Don't make the same mistake and build a new relationship on what "could be" and live in a make believe world in your head that does not exist in real life. Instead find someone who actually demonstrates the godly characteristics in the right now without making excuses for how they will do better in the future.

The desire to forgive others of their faults and believe the best for them and their future change that will never happen is a trap.

Believe the best for their future change from afar. Not while being in a romantic relationship.

Don't accept excuses. Seek someone who is consistently civil and polite even when stressed. There are plenty of them out there but it takes some time to discover how they act. Dating is not the way to discover them.

Thank you so much for the advice and prayers. You guys are spot on. I need to think rationally about who this person is not subjecting myself to abuse over wishful thinking!

 

[olivetree32]

I need my fellow brothers and sisters to pray for the breaking of my soul tie with my ex girlfriend. She was abusive so I cannot continue on with her despite deeply caring for her. I believe she wants to be a good Christian but nobody should date someone who has borderline personality disorder and is not getting help for it but please pray for her too.

First off, there is no such thing as a good Christian. We’re all a bunch of sinners! Second, your having trouble because your unequally yoked. Third, a soul tie is when your having sex with someone. It’s a soul tie. That’s why God wants us to wait until marriage. Because the two become one flesh. Does that make since? Only you can make the choice to stay or leave her. Everyone here can tell you what they think. But most important it’s what God thinks first. And you praying about it. Keep seeking God’s will.

 

[ChristopherC]

I prayed about it. The relationship has to come to an end. It is a sin to subject myself to such abuse. Even Jesus had to move on because His home town did not want to believe. I was unequally yoked for sure, so time to move on!