Please shed your GOD given wisdom as this is serious for me:)

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I like many, have tried to commit myself to no sex before marriage, and I was doing well unitl....the right (wrong) guy came along. I know that my husband is to find me, but I keep getting myself in these comprimising positions, and its a never ending cycle.....me using sex in hopes that he will become my husband. I really want to get out of this way of thinking . My spirit it getting weak and my flesh is taking over. I really dont have anyone i can talk to about this, even in my church. Sometimes I want to just give it all up because I feel like why continue to walk on both sides of the fence. I need your prayers!
 
So where are you meeting these wrong guys? Maybe avoid going certain places where the wrong kind of people are? That's a suggestion.
 
You have my prayers. I have been there, in the society we live in sex is easy its a typical way of life and it b ecomes a way to hold onto those we are afraid of loosing. If your in a relationship now I would take a step back, if hes christian (or even not) tell him that you want to slow things down physically and than make a plan to actually acheive this, cause the words dont mean anything if not followed (this was the trap i fell into). If your not in a relationship, than think about the guys you are gettin involved wiht ask yourself if he would ask you to compromise yourself or if he is the type of guy who would help you stay strong.

With your spirit getting weak I recommend starting a study group somehow and focusing your attention on God, sometimes he desires us to give up what we want and to focus on him and than in turn puts what we desired b efore back into our lives when are ready. Ill be praying for you, and if you have any other questions just message me :)
 
I think this is a similar fault to the guy who always finds himself falling to porn or jumping in on it.

Renewing of the Mind, by the Spirit, but how do you do that?

The voice of the Spirit is small and gentle, while your flesh is loud, quick, and hard. Practice, quieting yourself before the Lord. Pray and believe in being led by the Spirit and not your flesh. DO not doubt, or you will not receive anything, the Double-minded person is wracked with unbelief

You are carnal, as well as i have been, sold unto yourself. Gutsy Guilt can be good thing, if it's taken in the spirit that your going to entrust yourself to God fully.

As a woman you in a marriage relationship are to represent the Church, the bride. How does a man want his bride? Ask the Lord to renew your mind in what Christ is to the Church His bride.
 
Look for godly men in godly places. Godly men will not ask you to do things that go against your faith in Christ. If they do, what will be next, even if you do marry them?

Fill your life with the things of God and make friends with godly women who can help you be strong when you find yourself wanting to give in. We all need that. And we're here for you too, sister :)
 
I believe that most women give into sex because they think the guy will love them or want them, maybe the word is desire them more BUT............. you have to love and respect yourself enough not to let him manipulate you into having sex............if he doesn't respect and love you unconditionally with your clothes on...........he is not going to love and respect you anymore with your clothes off.........................
 
After my marriage ended my sex drive didnt. LOL. So for that part of my life to now end stunk. So I prayed and still pray continously for my sex drive to die until the time its needed again. lol. A weird prayer perhaps, but I know myself. I know my weaknesses. I needed that feeling to disappear so that my focus would be on whats pure and whats right. Its amazing the things God answers when we ask :).
 
I know what you're sayin EllaD,
Sounds as though you're a healthy vibrant woman, as God made you. Having a sex drive isn't something to be ashamed about or apologize for.
I believe the human race would have died out long ago if God hadn't made man and woman attracted to one another. It's natural and also nothing to hide or apologize for.
It's more that acting upon our personal desires in a sinful nature is where we are called to control our mind and bodies as well as being an example to others. If we can be born again and God can wash away our sins so we are made clean as white as snow he can also spiritually re-virginize us. People still have desires even when they're a virgin, so I don't see how it would be any different in our born again re-virginized state.
The difference now is I agree that in praying, God can give us the power to be in control of any urges and desires we may have as humans.
Being able to control ones own body to the point of abstaining from intercourse until marriage allows a lot of choice and freedom in choosing a suitable future mate. A caring relationship that is developed and nurtured from the beginning as God intended it will be a stronger and more blessed one.
We all may have thoughts from time to time, just as if robbing a bank may seem enticing for a moment, it doesn't mean we would actually act upon or even execute such a thought.
It's inevitable that certain thoughts will pop into our head from time to time, not just sex.
However when they do it's up to us recognize what's happening at that moment, to control them so as not to let them harbor in our mind to the point they start to overtake our own self control.
I'm suddenly reminded of Merle Haggards line in the song Okie from Muskogee
"We don't make a party out of lovin" :D
I don't care who ya are, That's darn good advice right there
God bless:)
EllaD said:
After my marriage ended my sex drive didnt. LOL. So for that part of my life to now end stunk. So I prayed and still pray continously for my sex drive to die until the time its needed again. lol. A weird prayer perhaps, but I know myself. I know my weaknesses. I needed that feeling to disappear so that my focus would be on whats pure and whats right. Its amazing the things God answers when we ask :).
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Thank you all so much for your feedback! Someone a righteous someone, must have been praying for me! I have taken my eyes away from the things of God and this is why my flesh feels as if its in control. This is why the bible tells us to walk in the spirit that we may not fufill the lust of the flesh. I am making an effort to really sell myself out to God. He is so merciful and gracious and keeps granting me a chance to get it right! If I am to be the bride that I am supposed to be, this will be an issue of the past so that I can recieve the love God has for me and will send through the man of God. And to answer some of your questions, the men I meet are in random places the store, a concert, while driving...and none of them profess Jesus. (I just had an ah ha moment:) Ive never had a relationship with a man that loves the Lord......better yet I should be seeking the kingdom of God and then these things will be added unto me! Ok, Im being random but while I was typing something just clicked!! Thanks again for your feedback God bless you all, and thanks for the support.
 
EllaD said:
After my marriage ended my sex drive didnt. LOL. So for that part of my life to now end stunk. So I prayed and still pray continously for my sex drive to die until the time its needed again. lol. A weird prayer perhaps, but I know myself. I know my weaknesses. I needed that feeling to disappear so that my focus would be on whats pure and whats right. Its amazing the things God answers when we ask :).
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I hear you, sister...loud and clear. Once you've known that sort of intimacy, it's VERY hard to live without it, isn't it? Sex is a wonderful gift from God, when it comes into our lives in HIS way. I'm a very passionate person and this is my greatest weakness too. I just try to remove myself from situations where that would be the end result, you know? ( Like Joseph...run :) ) And keep my eyes on the Lord. He's worth it. :)
 
MidniteWelder said:

I'm suddenly reminded of Merle Haggards line in the song Okie from Muskogee
"We don't make a party out of lovin" :D
I don't care who ya are, That's darn good advice right there
God bless:)
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Thanks..now that song is stuck in my head! lol
 
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