Prayers for marriage and family

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Jesus please help this marriage to survive. You know this couple inside and out, touch where it is needed most, humble where it is needed,restore, renew,invigorate,revitalize and bring this couple into harmony, in Jesus mighty name. Amen.
 
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Jlit2sc said:
Stay consistent in my efforts. Even when it seems there's an evilness that is working against our marriage or trying to work through my wife to drive a wedge. Swallow my pride and know even if I mean well, my efforts of wanting to do "a lot right now" may be a wedge as well. Not just allow the tough times to only stoke the fire of turning things over to God. The only things I can do is make the Lord my center and not my wife. Be an example the Lord, then my wife and then any person looking in could say, "he is living God's plan." "He is loving his wife the way God loved the church." Lead myself and my family in the direction of the Lord. Even though that will be tough because my wife takes my efforts in times like these as not genuine. Two reasons for that's is because we aren't consistent in our efforts of church...and her stubbornness. (She is a strong willed, prideful, gonagainst the grain half the time) That is a road block I've turned over to God as I know I can't get through even with my mouth shut and my actions as the only example. I know as well as God, what is in my heart to be pure and true. These are tough tests that have been put in my path to endure.
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Good plan! Consistency works over the long haul. And be aware, it will be a long haul. One of the problems many people have in life is they watch the spouse try for a couple of months, and they know that's just going to end up being the same ole same ole sooner or later. This really is a long haul, because you'll have to accept that is what she is thinking.

And, even when she gets to the point of believing you, it's still a long haul, because your plan sounds like a plan worthy of keeping all the way through until death.

It really is a good plan though. It's what God wants from us in marriage.
 
Some of that has already happened in the past. I try to lead by example, and as soon as I think (sometimes too soon on my part) that's it's safe to bring up what's important to me in the marriage, we end up taking steps back. She has a hard time moving forward and not holding a little bit of a grudge. Her comment is every few weeks or months I say something. I just want to improve our marriage is all. Comes from a good place, but it's not always taken that way. She sees marriage as too much work sometimes...her words, not mine. So this long slow road I'm on, is
def slow, definitely long and fragile. I just pray at some point, during these hard times we're riding in the same car down this road to a place we both enjoy.
 
So refreshing to have a good day with the spouse. At least what I would call a good day. I've lowered my standards throughout the past few years. She has said she basically expects nothing of me (which really isn't true) and that I expect too much of her. It's gotten to where I just would like on a more consistent basis...being kind, curious about my life (I work for a local FD, so there's plenty of stories I could share) actually making effort to sleep in the same bed, occasionally say "hello" when getting home from work...ya know, normal things. I don't bring them up because of what I stated a few posts back. She is so slow to move forward, holds grudges which shapes her attitude for months. Going in for a hug gets a funny look sometimes....then I back off for a while and then it's like she wants that little thing. I wish I could read minds. We'll see if it turns into two good days in a row. Judging from this morning before she left for work...I'm not holding my breath. It's so taxing and I feel drained. I don't know how to live my life as a total individual while I'm married. Two becoming one...not in our house...at least for right now. God, please continue to help heal our marriage and bring us closer to you as individuals AND as a married couple. Amen.
 
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