Can I get prayers for my Aunt?
I confronted her tonight through text and kept it short and simple. I am a very quiet and introverted person so I know it carries weight.
My grandmother closed on a town home thursday or friday night, she needs somewhere that she can live out her re imagined last years as my grandfather passed away a year and a half ago. The last few years weren't positive and my grandmother was always oppressed. In the text to my aunt I said that my grandmother needed time to reflect on the past 20 or so years she had at "the farm" and also said that she need's her independence and enjoys time to herself.
My aunt got up in arms and attempted to argue over the matter and I said that I told her all I needed to. The thing is my aunt has been at my grandma's house ever since the closing and is in some ways forcing her to move out because she want's to move in to that house. It is a very selfish move as my grandma said she just want's to take it slow and we offered to move anything when ever she had a place for it in the new home. Yet my Aunt hasn't left since last week. I know this bothers my grandmother because I visit her regularly, not as much as I'd like, and through the grieving process of losing my grandfather she confessed to actually enjoying being by herself.
So my initial text was "grandma needs her independence and enjoys time to herself". She responded "what are you saying?" My reply was the whole bit about taking time and reflecting on the past 20 years. This was followed by self justification and attempts at provocation. I didn't engage.
Now I'm concerned with my Aunt's well being as I never speak up and I know she is in an introspective moment right now. I mean no ill will, but someone has to stand up for my grandmother, who I hold in great esteem.
I confronted her tonight through text and kept it short and simple. I am a very quiet and introverted person so I know it carries weight.
My grandmother closed on a town home thursday or friday night, she needs somewhere that she can live out her re imagined last years as my grandfather passed away a year and a half ago. The last few years weren't positive and my grandmother was always oppressed. In the text to my aunt I said that my grandmother needed time to reflect on the past 20 or so years she had at "the farm" and also said that she need's her independence and enjoys time to herself.
My aunt got up in arms and attempted to argue over the matter and I said that I told her all I needed to. The thing is my aunt has been at my grandma's house ever since the closing and is in some ways forcing her to move out because she want's to move in to that house. It is a very selfish move as my grandma said she just want's to take it slow and we offered to move anything when ever she had a place for it in the new home. Yet my Aunt hasn't left since last week. I know this bothers my grandmother because I visit her regularly, not as much as I'd like, and through the grieving process of losing my grandfather she confessed to actually enjoying being by herself.
So my initial text was "grandma needs her independence and enjoys time to herself". She responded "what are you saying?" My reply was the whole bit about taking time and reflecting on the past 20 years. This was followed by self justification and attempts at provocation. I didn't engage.
Now I'm concerned with my Aunt's well being as I never speak up and I know she is in an introspective moment right now. I mean no ill will, but someone has to stand up for my grandmother, who I hold in great esteem.
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