Prayers needed

[Jill]

I have a 13 year old son, 21 year old step daughter and I am currently 24 weeks pregnant. The older kids both play basketball and practise with their father. However my husband is a perfectionist and believe if you are going to do something do it right.

There are times where the kids are not focusing etc and he gets angry and starts pushing them, pointing out everything, nickpicking, etc. The kids gets discouraged and then don't want to practise with him and then he feels hurt and feels like they are not appreciating him.

The last 4 years was rough on my husband because he was fired unfairly and basically does not like living where we are (he immigrated from central america to the caribbean) and basically went from being a manager to working as an assistant. He does not feel valued in the country we live or in the work force.

Unfortunatly today our son basically told him during a hard practise session that he doesn't care and he does not know why his dad is how he is (just want to say that my step daughter feels the same but does not verbalize so its mostly my son talking for them both and he alawys gets in trouble) and a huge argument breaks out to my husband basically told them how they end up they end up and not to expect anything from him. No advice, no guidance, nothing.

I know all about his frustrations and have been a support to him but it feels like he justs wants to wallow and use anything as an excuse to leave.

I told him regardless of what the kids may day in anger it does not mean they mean it (our son regrets what he said). But it feels like my husband wants to prove a point and be set in not accepting anything because to him it isnt genuine.

Please pray for me and my family. I am completly broken and do not know what to do.

 

[Deuteronomy]

Praying.......

 

[Deuteronomy]

Hello @Jill, I'm sorry to hear that your family is going through this difficult time right now

Along with praying for you, my advice to you would be to patiently and completely trust God to see you and your family past this .. e.g. Proverbs 3:5-6.

I would also think it advisable to 1. carefully review the Scriptures that speak directly to how a godly family is supposed to function, and to family problems that arise and how to best resolve them, and then 2. to trust Him again by taking Him at His word and obeying it .. see Ephesians 5:22-6:4; Colossian 3:18-21; 1 Peter 3:1-9.

You can discuss these Biblical principles with your husband and your children*, but you should probably do so carefully, gently and respectfully (especially where your husband is concerned). In the end, you (of course) can't make your children, or your husband obey God's word .. but you can certainly choose to do so yourself, even if no one else chooses to do so at first

*(question, are your husband and your children Christians?)​

Praying for you!

God bless you!! (Numbers 6:24-26)

~Deuteronomy
p.s. - I noticed that you are a new member here, so I should also say, welcome to CChat

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[RyanSundstrom]

I’ll totally pray

 

[Thusiserve]

Welcome to ChristianChat, Jill. ♥

I am praying peace, grace, and guidance for you and your family. 🙏

 

[Bingo]

"Let us hope and pray your family comes together with love, acceptance,
and hope. And I hope and pray you find strength and courage in striving to
maintain a God awareness in all your going and coming, and to strive for
discipline and self-control, and to know love being your greatest resource,
when put into daily practice, so long as you work at it with perseverance."
"Amen"

 

[Snacks]

Your husband needs to accept imperfections from everyone, including his own imperfections. Also, remove the term step-daughter from your vocabulary and replace it with daughter. Step is a divisive, demeaning term which promotes a lack of unity and solidarity, as does your husband’s transferred anger.

 

[Seeker47]

Praying for you and your family.