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I'm sure we've all known these people, and maybe you've even been one of them at a more naive time in your life. I'm wondering, is there a way to deal with these folks when they come to you for advice, or is it even one's job to give advice if they keep ignoring "red flags"? (red flag = clear warning sign)
At one time or another we've all dated the wrong kind of person. Regardless of glaring red flags, some even continue in relationships with them, even if every buzzer, siren and warning sign is going off. (By relationship I mean dating type relationships, not marriage relationships. If it's a marriage relationship, then yeah, you need to try your best to work things out. So please don't hear me wrong.)
What do you do if such a naive person continues coming to you for advice or an ear to talk to about their "situation"? I've literally gone red in the face pointing out huge red flags to people, yet they continue in their dating relationship. Is there a certain point where you just have to tell these people, "Ok, you know what is right and now you have to either make the right move or suffer the consequences?"
There is a certain disturbing part of me that does enjoy listening and trying to figure out relationship issues, so I know God brings these to me, so maybe I shouldn't be shocked these keep coming my way. Yes I actually enjoy it. At the same time, there is a certain point where repeating the same advice to clearly naive and stubborn person just becomes frustrating.
At one time or another we've all dated the wrong kind of person. Regardless of glaring red flags, some even continue in relationships with them, even if every buzzer, siren and warning sign is going off. (By relationship I mean dating type relationships, not marriage relationships. If it's a marriage relationship, then yeah, you need to try your best to work things out. So please don't hear me wrong.)
What do you do if such a naive person continues coming to you for advice or an ear to talk to about their "situation"? I've literally gone red in the face pointing out huge red flags to people, yet they continue in their dating relationship. Is there a certain point where you just have to tell these people, "Ok, you know what is right and now you have to either make the right move or suffer the consequences?"
There is a certain disturbing part of me that does enjoy listening and trying to figure out relationship issues, so I know God brings these to me, so maybe I shouldn't be shocked these keep coming my way. Yes I actually enjoy it. At the same time, there is a certain point where repeating the same advice to clearly naive and stubborn person just becomes frustrating.