Relationships thru internet

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Relationships thru Internet: Are they correct?

  • Yeah, why not? The love has not borders.

    Votes: 9 25.0%

  • Not at all. Too many reasons, like distance, and you really don't know the person.

    Votes: 8 22.2%

  • Maybe, it can be possible that one day you get together.

    Votes: 17 47.2%

  • It's a good way to feel beloved.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I don't know.

    Votes: 1 2.8%

  • Is it possible? I've never thought about it.

    Votes: 1 2.8%
  • Total voters
    36
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What do you think about it?

I'm not really sure what to think now. I have a friend who has a "girlfriend" who lives so far far away, and He met her on internet, but she is comming in a couple of weeks. So, Do you think a relationship thru internet is real? Is it good? or is it an ilusion?
 
It's possible. I've known of a few people that met via the web and are married now. However, I think it's a rarity.
 
Most "experts" say that you are lieing to your self your imagining a girl but when you see her you are disappointed and bla allalallalla, but as we all know these so called experts are clueless most of the time :))
i know people that have met on the net and now they are married and have kids
and they said that "thanks to the net they were able to meet and have a nice family"
so yeah its possible and ok and all of that :)
 
DanieruDesu said:
Most "experts" say that you are lieing to your self your imagining a girl but when you see her you are disappointed and bla allalallalla, but as we all know these so called experts are clueless most of the time :))
i know people that have met on the net and now they are married and have kids
and they said that "thanks to the net they were able to meet and have a nice family"
so yeah its possible and ok and all of that :)
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My feeling is, unless you've met the person in real life, they are still a stranger. People can fool you completely online.
 
violakat said:
My feeling is, unless you've met the person in real life, they are still a stranger. People can fool you completely online.
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People can fool you just as much in real life too.

I have many friends who have met and married off the net. Most of my work colleagues are from the net and I assure you they aren't strangers to me.

The stereotypical net ax murder really is just an urban legend.
 
violakat said:
My feeling is, unless you've met the person in real life, they are still a stranger. People can fool you completely online.
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Its true. The internet allows people to show you what they want you to see.

allforfun said:
People can fool you just as much in real life too.

I have many friends who have met and married off the net. Most of my work colleagues are from the net and I assure you they aren't strangers to me.

The stereotypical net ax murder really is just an urban legend.
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Also true.

However in my Net dating experience there is a Reason that people are looking on the internet. There is some big shameful thing that has them hiding from the world they know and pursuing the kind of relationship that comes with being an anomaly.
 
While it is far easier for someone to deceive us online (and we've probably all been there), I don't really know that relationships that begin online are any different than the ones we develop in real life; some turn out well, some don't. People deceive us in real life too and attempt to show us only their best, especially when it comes to dating. We should be no less careful in real life than we are online.

Out of all of the people I've met from online (a very few I've dated, most were just friends - both male and female), only 2 or 3 seriously disappointed me. Most of them were fun, intelligent, caring people I've developed lasting friendships with.

I do think that Liamson is right in that for whatever our reasons, those of us who are here have withdrawn for a season from whatever we perceive the normal "dating pool" to be. I know that for many people it seems odd to develop relationships with people we can't see. But, for some of us, that can be easier because some of us are often seen as no more than what can be seen. At least online we can catch a glimpse of what may lie underneath before we know what the outside looks like.
 
Speaking to others on the net can also be a safe place for those who have been hurt or are inocently wanting to reach out and communicate with others without the hassle of having to actually meet. Some of us arent ready to make real life friends but would still like someone to talk to.
 
violakat said:
My feeling is, unless you've met the person in real life, they are still a stranger. People can fool you completely online.
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But u can use media. Webcam and Mic... so.

And what about the distance. If you life in USA and the other person in Australia... that's a big distance. And the loyalty in a relationship like that.

We have a saying: ''Far relationship, happy the four"
 
Boanerges said:
And what about the distance. If you life in USA and the other person in Australia... that's a big distance. And the loyalty in a relationship like that.
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Thats why for me, it would be a huge trust in God to start a relationship with someone from another country. I'm not saying it can't happen, I'm just saying it's rare. And that I don't believe you can truly know someone as well until you meet in person.
 
Boanerges said:
What do you think about it?

I'm not really sure what to think now. I have a friend who has a "girlfriend" who lives so far far away, and He met her on internet, but she is comming in a couple of weeks. So, Do you think a relationship thru internet is real? Is it good? or is it an ilusion?
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Speaking from experience, it is possible to have a long distance relationship. But it is very hard. Loyalty comes into play a lot, along with faith and long nights on Skype.

What I say to people is that it's no different from dating someone in the military. They go overseas for months on end and the only contact they have is through the internet or a scarce phone call. If you honestly do think you can handle it, then I say go for it. If not then don't.

Another nice thing about LDR's is that if you break it off, you won't run into them on a regular basis... like I have to put up with...
 
Liamson said:
Its true. The internet allows people to show you what they want you to see.



Also true.

However in my Net dating experience there is a Reason that people are looking on the internet. There is some big shameful thing that has them hiding from the world they know and pursuing the kind of relationship that comes with being an anomaly.
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Not necessarily true that there is some big shameful thing that has people hiding from the world.

I consider myself to be a normal well-adjusted person with no big shameful secrets....lol. I brush my teeth, stay active and fit, don't have any annoying habits, no addictions, no shameful past to cover up (other than the fact that I am divorced), no secret vices, no criminal history and I shower daily and don't snore.

I looked to the internet for dating sites because I was not meeting people through my young son's boyscout troop, nor at the supermarket, nor at the bank, nor at my church "single's group" nor throught the hiking group I joined, nor through any other activity that I do on a regular basis (including my work site...).

I think there are a lot of weirdos and losers on those dating sites, though, so I do caution people to be VERY careful and VERY selective...use all safety precautions, don't readily hand out phone numbers and personal info, meet only in public places during the day, etc, etc....
 
Suzie2family said:
Not necessarily true that there is some big shameful thing that has people hiding from the world.

I consider myself to be a normal well-adjusted person with no big shameful secrets....lol. I brush my teeth, stay active and fit, don't have any annoying habits, no addictions, no shameful past to cover up (other than the fact that I am divorced), no secret vices, no criminal history and I shower daily and don't snore.

I looked to the internet for dating sites because I was not meeting people through my young son's boyscout troop, nor at the supermarket, nor at the bank, nor at my church "single's group" nor throught the hiking group I joined, nor through any other activity that I do on a regular basis (including my work site...).

I think there are a lot of weirdos and losers on those dating sites, though, so I do caution people to be VERY careful and VERY selective...use all safety precautions, don't readily hand out phone numbers and personal info, meet only in public places during the day, etc, etc....
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Thank you. And it is more than a little insulting to insinuate that all people on the internet are trolls waiting to deceive everyone. If that is true, then why use it yourself. That is a general statement, not pointed at anyone.

I for one have never met a man in church that is worth dating, but have met men on the internet with the same interests and goals that carried into real life and are still friends to this day. It is 2011, friendships come from all mediums.
 
Financial crisis=massive deception face to face all over the world! There's just certain beliefs about the way ''things are supposed to be'' and people get stuck thinking change is bad. Rock and roll was once said to be from the devil himself! Ask grandparents if they imagined the world the way it is today, with technological advancement and social change (my grandma was born in the 1930s and women did not even gain the right to vote in the United States until 1920!). Imagine how much change she has experienced in her life!

Nowadays all of these things are pretty normal. I think dating is changing because meeting someone online isn't as rare as it used to be. Most people can say I know someone who met their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend on the internet. I think it's going to be interesting to see the way future trends go. I don't know if it will become as widespread as dating someone who you initially meet in person, but I don't think the stigma attached is going to very much longer.
 
I dont think you can have a relationship through the internet. I think meeting on the internet is fine, but after that i think two people need to actually hear each others voice, and see each other. Skype is really good for both.

Typing really can only get you so far, and people can fool you so easily.
 
I agree, Nod. In person, over the phone or via Skype...far better than typed words on a page.
 
The fact is an overwhelming number of marriages these days started online, either through a chat room with a common interest, through a league on Pogo,(my league had three marriages that had their start in our bowling group, btw still going strong), through a social networking site like my Yearbook, facebook, myspace and even Christian Chat.com, or through an online dating site. Ultimately it is only when you meet in person you find out if the chemistry is as present in person as online and on the phone. Churchs fellowship less these days and few areas have christian singles groups outside of big cities, and people lead busier lives. My friend Dave is in a wheelchair and he met his bride online through a seventh day Adventist venue and she lived in the Philippines. they have been married 8 years now. Sure, they have problems like any other couple but no more than couples who met through more traditional methods. I think the biggest challenge they face was Nelia and her son adjusting to the culture here. The advantage of online meetings is you get to know the person more because you talk more in e-mails or in chat than on most dates. You get to know and love the person inside and someone who you might not have given a second thought to, had you met them in person because of appearances, and you find their true beauty and fall in love with the essence of who they are at the core. I am ugly and overweight, most women wouldn't give me the time of day, yet through internet communication they find out I have a beautiful heart and am a true servant of the Most High God, and that appearances don't matter as much any more.
 
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