the carnal and the worldly (if there is a difference or not) cannot grasp even the simplest truth, so
your confusion is natural.
you asked how to not be carnal indicating by your own admission(and posts) you are still carnal. you don't show in your posts that you understand yahweh,
only that you think (or 'hope') you are saved 'somehow'? and can't lose your salvation because salvation is free after all
and you 'think' salvation cannot be lost, even in those people who are not even saved... round and round you go....