We have to deal with our problems,for we cannot drink them away,or drug them away,for if we do try to get rid of them that way,we will create a spacey,and distraught feeling in our mind,for where can the problems go,and you will beat up your head to get rid of it,but in the process cause your mind to lose well being,and happiness,for we cannot erase it,which if we try we will erase some of our happiness,for where will the problems go.
We would cause an almost blank feeling in our mind,and thinking,trying to erase the problems,and hurt,and some people develope multiple personalites to deal with problems,and hurt,to totally forget that personality,and develope a new identity,which is not good.
The only way to deal with problems is to acknowledge them,do something about them,and if someone hurt us forgive them,and do not intentionally try to get rid of the problems,or hurt,but think upon other things,and let the hurt lessen,and go away on its own,for trying to get rid of it makes it worse,for you will wonder if it is there worrying about it,trying to see if you can notice it.
Like the people in to Yoga and meditation,and emptying their mind,which is not good,and you do not want to empty your mind,but the mind is meant to think,and the best way for the mind to operate is to keep it moving from one subject to another,and do not think upon something too long,but if you do think upon something take it as far as you cannot think of anything else concerning it,and let it go,for if you try to understand it more you are putting stress on your mind to try to come up with further knowledge of it that does not come.Let it go,and move on.
That is the problem with problems,and keep going over hurt,your mind can only think about it for so long,and then it becomes a stale thing in your mind with nothing else to think about it,and can cause stress,and distraught.
It appears as if it is like lifting weights.If you keep doing barbell curls eventually you will fatigue out and cannot lift it anymore,so if we keep going over the same thing whether a problem,or a hurtful situation,eventually the mind will fatigue out on those things we keep going over,and can cause stress,which it would seem like that would not happen to the mind,but it does.
They say people that have OCD have stress,because that is what happens when we keep going over the same subject,and it also causes an unsatisfied feeling in their mind.
Loss of interest,question,wonder.Waves of fear they pull me under.
I know it will be a natural thing for us to worry,and be upset,sometimes,but we got to let it go,and not keep going over it,but think about other things,and let it lessen,and go away on its own,the mental hurt.
The only thing we should truly worry about is if we hurt others,and do wrong in the sight of God,but then we take it to God,get rid of it,and move on for it is forgiven,and not beat ourselves up to prove to God that we are truly sorry,for that does no good.
Also by the Spirit if we move forward and think upon good things the Spirit is our Comforter,and can lessen all hurt within us,but if we want to worry about problems,and hurt,we will have to deal with the stress,and distraugtness it can cause.
That is why God said,cast your cares upon Me,for I care for you.
We have no need to worry unless we hurt others,and do wrong in the sight of God,but then repent of those things,and move on,and if we do think of problems think about it for the time you must think about it wanting a solution,but then leave off of it if you cannot come to a conclusion,for why beat up your head over it,and cause stress.
bottom line is bad things happen to people all the time and wicked people get away with horrible crimes but you cant suppress your issues, or drink them away as I tried to do. You must face them. 
