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Please excuse to my non-Filipino bros and sis here. Need to write in Filipino language for better communication.
Here's the story...
Her status is married. Been physically separated to her husband but not legally for 20years now na meron na ding pamilya after they got married. :While on that state, she met a single guy. Eventually, they got 2 children and they become a Christian. But her and the single man was challenged before they got baptized not to have a steady relationship since she's not legally separated to her husband. But annulment is costly and the woman didn't have money to get legal counsel. Kaya yung status niya ay married p rin kahit may kanya-kanya na silang pamilya. As a Christian, ang opinion ko, kung nagmamahalan sila since nadagdagan pa ng isa ang anak, the third child nila where the church gave discipline to them bcoz they committed again an adultery when they are already Christian when they have the baby. My concern are as follows:
1. The woman has no faith enough and less commitment to work-out her annulment. Always saying lack of this or that. I remember the Parable where Jesus said, "Do you really wanna get well? Sana she stops making excuses. How can the church help her to domestic problem. Are we intruding? But what about church discipline? We just can't compromise.
2. About their relationships. In my opinion, the single man's only attachment to her is just the father to her children. If he needs to see or spend time with the kids, she should not be included, yet lagi siya kasama. Pag tinatanong naman kung mahal niya yung single man until now, magkaibigan na lang daw pero she's not opened to the idea of the guy still has needs to settle down with other girls. Bakit inuubliga niya na magsama ang anak nilang lalaki sa boarding house kasama ang single man na tatay?
3. I'm concerned with the possibility for them falling into temptation at magbunga ulit for the 4th time. What to do now as a sister in the Lord to her and as part of one body- the church with Godly standard about adultery?
Here's the story...
Her status is married. Been physically separated to her husband but not legally for 20years now na meron na ding pamilya after they got married. :While on that state, she met a single guy. Eventually, they got 2 children and they become a Christian. But her and the single man was challenged before they got baptized not to have a steady relationship since she's not legally separated to her husband. But annulment is costly and the woman didn't have money to get legal counsel. Kaya yung status niya ay married p rin kahit may kanya-kanya na silang pamilya. As a Christian, ang opinion ko, kung nagmamahalan sila since nadagdagan pa ng isa ang anak, the third child nila where the church gave discipline to them bcoz they committed again an adultery when they are already Christian when they have the baby. My concern are as follows:
1. The woman has no faith enough and less commitment to work-out her annulment. Always saying lack of this or that. I remember the Parable where Jesus said, "Do you really wanna get well? Sana she stops making excuses. How can the church help her to domestic problem. Are we intruding? But what about church discipline? We just can't compromise.
2. About their relationships. In my opinion, the single man's only attachment to her is just the father to her children. If he needs to see or spend time with the kids, she should not be included, yet lagi siya kasama. Pag tinatanong naman kung mahal niya yung single man until now, magkaibigan na lang daw pero she's not opened to the idea of the guy still has needs to settle down with other girls. Bakit inuubliga niya na magsama ang anak nilang lalaki sa boarding house kasama ang single man na tatay?
3. I'm concerned with the possibility for them falling into temptation at magbunga ulit for the 4th time. What to do now as a sister in the Lord to her and as part of one body- the church with Godly standard about adultery?