seeking the truth

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someone said "just like a shoe,if someone is meant for you, they will fit just perfectly. No forcing, no struggling and no pain"
do you think this statement is true? I'll love to know your opinion. Thanks.l
 
I don't think that is true. Love is hard work. It takes a lot of struggle and adjusting to the other person's needs. You go from being single, doing whatever you want, saying whatever you want, to becoming a couple. What you do and say isn't just about you anymore, you have to take the other person into consideration. The person you are with may be more sensitive, have a different sense of humor, different things get on their nerves than you. In order to make any relationship last, you have to talk and work on these things and come to happy medium.
Although Disney movies and Romance movies show love through rose colored glasses, that is not the case. Don't get me wrong, I'm making it sound like it's all bad but it's not. Nothing is better than to see a smile on their face, or to hear those three little words. It's a great feeling to know that you have someone standing beside you, no matter what happens. Someone to be your best friend, your shoulder to cry on, your help mate through this life.

So although it may not be easy, it's definitely worth the struggle. Fighting for love makes you appreciate it so much more in the end because you've worked for it and accomplished something together. A true, deep, lasting bond.
 
only in the beginning. >_< lol. if you struggle to be together in the first two months or so then you're going to have a LOT of struggling in the future. ^_^ but its a lot of work to stay in a relationship with someone. like a WHOLE lot of work.

you can't say they'll just fit otherwise you'll give up on every relationship that get "kinda" hard cause "they don't fit" anymore.
 
Someone may seem wonderfully compatible with you when you're still learning who they are, but as the two of you come to understand each other more, you'll find that there's at least one thing that makes it an imperfect fit. That doesn't mean it's not going to work out. Every relationship has those imperfect fits, even marriages. That's part of where the work comes in, learning to work through and/or tolerate those imperfect fits. Compromise is important.
 
no you change grow and adjust to each other and grow deeper stronger winder and higher in the truest true love for each other allways only within that way.
 
I think its possible to have a good fit in a relationship. There will be times of struggle and pain no matter who you're with, but I don't believe that anything should be forced. There are a lot of people in this world. The odds are that there's somebody for everyone. The problem is finding that person. The bible says that man should not be alone. That being said, I think that God wants us to have a mate, and I think that He will help us to find one.
 
someone said "just like a shoe,if someone is meant for you, they will fit just perfectly. No forcing, no struggling and no pain"
do you think this statement is true? I'll love to know your opinion. Thanks.l

Yes.
Think about it from the perspective of a person who is used to bad relationships, they will have matured to recognize a good healthy struggle as opposed to a toxic one. Love is still work, but you shouldn't have to force anything that doesn't fit.