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Been married for 10 years, have 2 adorable kids (4 and 6) and currently separated. My husband is in the Philippines with the kids while I'm back in the states 3 months ago. We used to live here but so much instability with his career made us to start a business in my country. I left during the time when he wanted a divorce and the days that followed where constant argument and verbal abuse. I can't live like that especially with the kids around so I prayed to God to lead me to his will. I was able to get my job back so i left my family temporarily with the hope that the separation will bring peace and healing in our troubled marriage. I was hopeful, we have our ups and downs but last week he told me he refused counselling and wanted a divorce in a year as soon as the business kicks off. He said we are not compatible and its not gonna change. It hurts. I am thinking about my kids and their future after divorce yet that was out of the question for him. I think that he is going through mid life crisis with depression and refuse help. I am not perfect but I am willing to work it out and change. He doesn't want to give me a chance. I am financially getting settled with my old job, have friends and family here. I am going home soon to visit the kids and discuss what needs to be done when school is over. He's staying there so either he will have the kids or I will bring the kids with me in the US. It will be very hard on them because they are so young and they think that mommy and daddy still together. I still love my husband but what can I do when he wants out. BTW, I am a christian and he is not, although he has been a wonderful husband and father the past 10 years. Right now, I dont know him anymore, he has changed, depression changed him. I don't know what to do at this time. I can't fix him nor i can't force him to be in a family that he doesn't want to be part of. Its really hard to move on when you still love the person and you have young children. It breaks my heart everyday. I appreciate everyone's advice. Thanks