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coolgirl

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I just got out of a very abusive relationship. Trying to do the will of God and only struck down because of it. Not everyone including secular people understand what its like to really love someone with out nurting them. When u have a traumatized childhood it seems to make people more aggressive and less socialable. Im not perfect in anyway but the Lord has called me to be a minister and missionary. But why? I am the loner and hate the word love. I will admit i am confused but God has a plan and i dont see it yet.
 
Well, the long and short is that no one (not even you yourself or me) knows themselves as fully as God knows us. He can do all things, and if we allow Him, all things are possible through Christ who'll give us the strength (and wisdom, and change, etc).

Paul, for instance, was a murder and hater of Christians. God turned Him around into one of the champions of the faith. Lee Strobel was a devoted atheist that set out to disprove God's existance, and ended up becoming a Christian because of the overwhelming evidence He found in/for the Biblical witness. He wrote a book about that whole journey called "The Case for Christ."

There are hundred, thousands, or even more possible examples I could give you of all the unbelievable or seemingly impossible things God can do, will do, and has done. It's really all hingent on us. Will we listen? Will we let Him work in, on, and through us?

I often wonder why God would call a wretch like me to be a minister, but He's loved and chosen me despite all my flaws, failures, and frequent mistakes. You see, similar to Peter, who just went ALL IN and would either mess it up royally or hit the nail on the head, God equips the people He calls. He doesn't expect anyone to have it all together and then call them. In fact, no one would be called, because no one can 'get it together' without Jesus. We need His Spirit to teach, guide, change, and help us in every aspect of our thoughts, feelings, actions, choices, and lives.

Only Trust Him, coolgirl, if you dare, and see what happens.

[h=1]John 1:38-46New International Version (NIV)[/h][h=1]38 Turning around, Jesus saw them following and asked, “What do you want?”
They said, “Rabbi” (which means “Teacher”), “where are you staying?”
39 “Come,” he replied, “and you will see.”
So they went and saw where he was staying, and they spent that day with him. It was about four in the afternoon.
40 Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, was one of the two who heard what John had said and who had followed Jesus. 41 The first thing Andrew did was to find his brother Simon and tell him, “We have found the Messiah” (that is, the Christ). 42 And he brought him to Jesus.
Jesus looked at him and said, “You are Simon son of John. You will be called Cephas” (which, when translated, is Peter[a]).
[/h][h=3]Jesus Calls Philip and Nathanael[/h][h=1]43 The next day Jesus decided to leave for Galilee. Finding Philip, he said to him, “Follow me.”
44 Philip, like Andrew and Peter, was from the town of Bethsaida. 45 Philip found Nathanael and told him, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.”
46 “Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Nathanael asked.
“Come and see,” said Philip.
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the Lord has called me to be a minister and missionary. But why?
Fair question. Are you sure that's what you're called to do?

Not sure of the whole background with your breakup, but if you got out of an abusive relationship, I'm glad for you, for what it's worth.
 
Yes i am sure. I n have a drive a willpower that comes from me that is not of me. My pastor has called it out and when i fall into deep prayer the answer is clear to me. I need to learn the differance of empathy and sympathy when i do that ill be in a better position to my calling.
 
I n have a drive a willpower that comes from me that is not of me.
Ah.

when i fall into deep prayer the answer is clear to me.
Well then maybe that's it; more prayer = guidance, clarity, etc. I see a lot of people claim God has a plan, but then they feel blind to it; lost, confused, etc. All good things in their time, coolgirl (speaking of cool things, I like your avatar). :)
 
Yes i agree. I am slightly confused thats why im learning. And that0nks the avatar is part of my ministry
 
Jeremiah 29:11

And being a missionary is a calling..so you need to make sure first, its a no joke calling, you are letting people know about HiM, so if your not sure about it, you think maybe you need to seek Him first..again...then go out to wilderness again? Getting heartbroken can do this to people, i understand that, but the pain will last, and God is close to the broken hearted.
 
Trying to do the will of God and only struck down because of it.

Get used to it, Dear Sister; persecution against Christians is on the rise at an exponential rate. Continue to fight the Good Fight and know God is always with you. We'll be keeping you lifted in prayer that you may be strengthened in all facets while enjoying abundant peace and a strong sense of security as God's plans for you come to fruition.
 
Thank you for that. I am getting a little more stronger everyday thatnis for sure