single mom question

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TiffanyNicole

TiffanyNicole

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Im a single parent to a 2 yr old. But going through a child support battle with my son father.
My son asks wheres daddy but i have no answer only jesus is your daddy. My question is my son mother doesnt know the child exist and tbe father lives with her, do you feel she will find out about her only grand son?
 
Oh....I defiantly think eventually he will tell his mom. Or maybe you can tell her yourself, I don't know how you guys relationship is but maybe if you tell his mom about your child she could probably help with the situation. Like I can completely understand your situation and I saw my mom go through the same thing and it sucked seeing her go through that.
 
gia said:
Oh....I defiantly think eventually he will tell his mom. Or maybe you can tell her yourself, I don't know how you guys relationship is but maybe if you tell his mom about your child she could probably help with the situation. Like I can completely understand your situation and I saw my mom go through the same thing and it sucked seeing her go through that.
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He threaten me not to say anything i really dont know his motives so i just laid off of it plus he owes back child support so hes angry at me
 
My ex-stepdad tried to pull that with my mother. Honestly I would just pray about it and most importantly don't worry about it, just put it in God's hands.
 
Also my grandmother told me that it is good to document when he threatens you or anything else. She would do the same when my biological father would call threatening my mom. She saved the voicemails and everything.
 
gia said:
Also my grandmother told me that it is good to document when he threatens you or anything else. She would do the same when my biological father would call threatening my mom. She saved the voicemails and everything.
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Sounds crazy he blames me for getting pregnant which it takes 2 but we have court aug hes in contempt for not paying. In a way i do fear him last time in court he gave me that your gonna get it look
 
Yea my mother went through the same exact thing with my dad and stepfather. Don't show any fear because your looking out for the best interests for your son. And your son is going to be soo grateful for that when he gets older.
 
gia said:
Yea my mother went through the same exact thing with my dad and stepfather. Don't show any fear because your looking out for the best interests for your son. And your son is going to be soo grateful for that when he gets older.
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Yea i try not to fear him but hes angry at me and has these looks he does so i really dont know him like this. I pray for protection and healing but want his mom to know
 
It may be better not to tell his mum it may anger him.

In the name of Yahshua the Messiah may Heavenly Father strengthen and guide you through this difficult ordeal.

Peace and Blessings.
 
TiffanyNicole said:
Why shouldnt she not know she has a grandson. The dad may not accept but what if she wants too? Wouldnt be fair to her
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I am asking because it sounds like it could cause you more problems. If you think your child and her could and would have a healthy relationship then it is something to consider. But if you think it would just cause more problems or endanger you and your child's safety I would think twice. I don't know her so I can't say either way. She could be very accepting or she could be hurtful and reject your child. Either way you need to weigh things out and decide what is best for you and your child. It isn't easy dealing with these situations especially when children are involved but it is your job to keep him safe and keep yourself safe so that you can take care of him.

I can tell you from personal experience that not all grandmothers care or want to even be involved with their grandchildren. It can be very hurtful for the child and the mother. It is angering when someone who should love them rejects them, being a mother and watching them be rejected and hurt is hard to take. But you can't force a relationship if they don't want it. Just be careful and do what is best for your son, not what you think is best for her.

I really hope it all works out for you. Please give updates I will be praying for you and your son. Take care :)
 
Jocelyn1 said:
I am asking because it sounds like it could cause you more problems. If you think your child and her could and would have a healthy relationship then it is something to consider. But if you think it would just cause more problems or endanger you and your child's safety I would think twice. I don't know her so I can't say either way. She could be very accepting or she could be hurtful and reject your child. Either way you need to weigh things out and decide what is best for you and your child. It isn't easy dealing with these situations especially when children are involved but it is your job to keep him safe and keep yourself safe so that you can take care of him.

I can tell you from personal experience that not all grandmothers care or want to even be involved with their grandchildren. It can be very hurtful for the child and the mother. It is angering when someone who should love them rejects them, being a mother and watching them be rejected and hurt is hard to take. But you can't force a relationship if they don't want it. Just be careful and do what is best for your son, not what you think is best for her.

I really hope it all works out for you. Please give updates I will be praying for you and your son. Take care :)
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He did mention before he was scared but i believe what you run from will follow you until you face your fears. by listening to him this isnt the person i know its something more hes facing but i may be wrong.
 
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