so tired of my husbands wondering eyes

[mystikmind]

One of my favorite love songs starts off with "i guess its you, though my eyes may wander"

CaJe, Perhaps you can give him this song to remind him that your the one?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1NSrBz-FLHE

I guess it's you
Though my eyes may wander
All I do
Seems to point to you
It won't be long
Though it may seem much longer

Chorus:

All I do
All I do and all want to say
(All I do)
Is lay awake until the night is day
(All I do)
If I be close if I be far away from you

So far

The things I say
The things that go unspoken
All I do
Seems to come from you
And so on
And so on forever

Chorus

Nobody knows where you begin and where I end
Nobody else receives the signals that I send
No misunderstanding
What I feel
What I say

Chorus

 

[breno785au]

I dont think its right to disregard someone just because of previous mistakes. His porn addiction is something he took care of on his own long ago after being saved. And like i said he wasnt acting like this until recently and yes i have told him. He has apologized. I just dont understand what changed. We were courting 2 years. Married dec 2014. Recently pregnantpregnant. Two children from prev marriage.

Married 6 months, ok, understand this is a hurdle and a trial that you both need to work together to get through. Marriage is full of trials and good times obviously but you'll find a lot trials come through dealing with a spouse's flaws. Pray for him, pray with him, nurture an environment where he can be open to being honest with you. And by that I also mean an environment where you don't flip out, get emotional, angry, make it about you etc. Doesn't mean you can't be firm with him though.
It is better for both parties to forgive, reconcile and work through issues than leave them out in the cold to work out their issues on their own. <-- Not saying your doing that, just speaking in general.

 

[seekingg]

I stayed faithful for 4 years of divorce. regardless of what my wife did. It was so very much worth it. The only way possible was with Jesus Christ. Lots of people fall for the lies of Satan saying that it is ok to cheat if your spouse does. That is Satan's lie. What is God's plans is to save you marriage, and he does and your husband comes back with VD and you come back pregnant? Your actions can cause you to loose the blessings that god has for you.

i know this sucks, but if you cheat it will not matter to god who cheated first, because the vapor of mankind is all at one to God. he is seeing all of our actions all at the same time....that's what i think...oh and do you want to please god right this second ... then say Jesus i choose to forgive my husband no matter what i feel right now i choose to forgive him...... i pray for yall

 

[pwrnJC]

You just took the words right out of my mouth, in pure love and respect. I would have been harsher, more like "DUH, what did you expect, especially after you knew about his addiction. I have yet to see a husband write in about his porno addicted wife that took him by total surprise! Imagine a male saying "MY wife no longer looks at my graying, belly over my belt buckled body anymore. She does not think I am important, that I am useless and worthless. I Find her staring at sexier men in public, on TV and the movies."
Sadly, this is a typical scenario...blah blah blah..it's nothing we have never heard before. I do love your advice...it is simple and to the heart. I hope she at least tries, but..it will take a SUPERNATURAL event to change his present chosen actions and attitude. When God's Super touches hubby's Natural.

 

[Godson13]

"I understand it every once in a while" are you kiding? so you believe it is alright for your husband to stare at other women once in a while. even that once in a while is wrong. men staring at women is what you see in TV commercials and immoral hipop music videos. that does not mean that all men want to stare at women. not all men are perverts, so you are wrong in saying "I understand it every once in a while" . if your husband is staring at other women then may be your husband is not a true christian and you should have done your checks on him carefully before you married him.

 

[mailmandan]

I would get an earful if my wife caught me doing this! So I just don't do it.

 

[secularhermit]

Angry depression resentment betrayal insecurity, i think its unfair. I didn't have to give myself to him. He doesn't appreciate me at all.

I´m sorry!

I have heard that, some ppl limits their interactions, their intercourse, during pregnancy... I don´t know what you´re doing and what he´s missing (because I have heard some avoid their spouse)... Please! I hope you could talk to him kindly on those things affecting you (or both).

 

[secularhermit]

I would get an earful if my wife caught me doing this! So I just don't do it.

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The sad thing is some wives also do it (discretely, sometimes) because SOME of them (not all) have those "crushes"...

 

[sc81]

maybe christian men should just gouge out their eyes, lest they linger for a few seconds too long on a woman and be accused of adultery by their insecure wives

 

[mystikmind]

maybe christian men should just gouge out their eyes, lest they linger for a few seconds too long on a woman and be accused of adultery by their insecure wives

And yet even blind people are still sinners, so what have you gained??

Possibly pretending to have a neck injury is a better way...... you can look at whatever comes past your line of sight, but never turn your head (unless you need to for other reason of course, like crossing the road etc).