So yeah, I'm trying to work on my SA and Social Skills...

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dothackzero

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Does anyone have some tips for helping me get better with this? I'm really tired of being shy, not having a girlfriend, and scaring girls off because of my lack of social skills.

Could you guys also pray for me so God will fix this, and yes I am praying about this for my self too.
 
No matter how shy you are, your shyness is nothing in comparison to mine. ;) I will pray for you to overcome social anxiety, but please do likewise for me.

Also I don't mean to be offensive, but please stop making a new thread every time. You already have a thread on this topic called " So how do I gain self confidence"

Too many threads on the topic of why you can't get a GF man. I am having the same problems as you, but (and I don't want to be offensive again, but this is for your own good) I don't whine about it.
 
My casual wear is very casual. Since it's fall now, khaki shorts, t-shirt, and hoodie if it's sunny. If it's rainy, jeans, t-shirt, hoodie, and possibly a rain jacket. If it's snowing, jeans, t-shirt, hoodie, and a definitely a jacket of some sort. Get the pattern yet? ;) lol
 
me too i'm trying not to be a shy person, I think it's because I don't think I have anything interesting to say. I think i used to be funny and then some dumb relationship happened and now I'm boring and dull.....
 
dothackzero said:
Does anyone have some tips for helping me get better with this? I'm really tired of being shy, not having a girlfriend, and scaring girls off because of my lack of social skills.

Could you guys also pray for me so God will fix this, and yes I am praying about this for my self too.
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You know a lot of people don't look back at themselves and ask 'am I doing enough?' I find it's our nature to expect it to just happen, the fact you recognise that you need to work on yourself means your already half way to where you want to be.

All I can suggest is that you start to challenge yourself in your choice of social activities, don't just keep doing what you've been doing, go to different places and try to reach out to new people even if it is just striking up a conversation with someone random, you just have to step outside your comfort zone and involve yourself in things you might not have chosen in the past.

You might also want to confide in a friend and ask them if they would be wiling to try and help you and give you some moral support so that if you have a hard time and get depressed you have a person there to help you through it, there are bound to be some diifficulties so it would help for you to have someone giving support and encouragement.

You need to remember this is going to be a daily struggle and it might not change that fast, just keep focusing on what you want to achieve and try not to fall back into old behaviour patterns.
 
eugenius said:
Also I don't mean to be offensive, but please stop making a new thread every time. You already have a thread on this topic called " So how do I gain self confidence"

Too many threads on the topic of why you can't get a GF man.quote]

LOL...you're right. There's sooooo many others as well. Many Christians,and even none-Christians are single and can't find a girl or guy...but we don't whine about it. We trust in God,focus on, rely on, and seek Him. There's so much more to life. If we're so busy looking for someone, more than likely we won't find them. A totally true saying is ''if you go looking for someone special in life, you probably won't find them, it'll never last, as you're seeking too hard. If you be friends first, and allow things to develope on their own, you have a better chance, and will eventually find the one.''.

You can't sit around and expect them to just show up, but don't push things, or rush them either. Focus on way more imortant things in life, than being with someone.
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My casual wear is very casual. Since it's fall now, khaki shorts, t-shirt, and hoodie if it's sunny. If it's rainy, jeans, t-shirt, hoodie, and possibly a rain jacket. If it's snowing, jeans, t-shirt, hoodie, and a definitely a jacket of some sort. Get the pattern yet? ;) lol
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No i dont, do you think you can expound on that :rolleyes:
 
I used to be real shy too... good friends are awesome tools used by God. They always encourage me,when i was supposed to be funny and couldn't be they'd always let me know it's okay............... I hope you find some of these friends Dothack, then you will know that there is nothing wrong with expressing yourself. Some won't like what you express....but again since when was it possilble to please the whole world?
 
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