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Well I really wanted to seek out some wisdom, some advice, some guidance in the Lord for a relationship I am involved in currently.
I Know this girl that I have met online, we met back in September and I wasn't interested in her fully then as dating our having a relationship outside of friendship with her. Then we had a dispute, an argument over a difference of opinion or belief with some Christian values, so I got upset and we had a falling out and stopped talking to eachother for nearly two months.
Then I was really motivated and had a desire to patch things up, apologize for not respecting her, and I learned to respect and honour her more, and we have been talking for a good month so far. I've been seeking her best, learning to walk in Love as God would have me do so, pray for her, offer her Biblical perspective, and share the Word with her, and overall just enjoy learning from her as well, and everything she has to offer. We really do share a mutual like and love for one another.
However I know we rushed things a bit, because last week she told me she loved me, and I told her the same, then things got tough, she was distant for a couple days, I had to talk to her again and we did work through it, and she repented for her sins in life and became saved, as she has had a rough past, and has been hurt, used and abused quite a bit in her life.
I really have nothing less than seeking God's highest and very best for her and myself, and I am always look to just serve her, her needs, her interests, and how she wants things to go in the relationship, to be a support for her.
Well, a couple days ago we had a falling out and gave into some sexual temptation, and it really hurt us alot.. we both realized right away what we did was wrong, and we both went to God and repented for it on the spot, and let it go.. yet we both realized that we can't afford to rush things, or hurry it up, and she really had the character to step it up and tell me she wanted to go back to before, as good friends, mutual interest, and while we can't ignore or deny that we love one another, we ought to be walking in an honorable relationship, that honours God, and puts God first and at the center of our relationship, and we want to really learn to walk this thing out to be succesful, to prosper and let it grow and blossom in due season together.
I believe the hurt I feel is due to having something too fast, ahead of time and letting ourselves fall into a temptation where we connected to a place that we ought not of, or should not have connected to until we are married. While we both realize this, and care enough for one another to just let it go, and go back to what we had, it's tough on me, and I know my emotions will pull me in so many directions, or try to distract me from the greater purpose God has set before me, and her as well.
Though I believe that if we continue to look to have honour and love for one another, that we can work things out and have a wonderful, faith based, love based, God centered faith filled relationship without regrets or sorrows. We both have been through a lot, and have endured a lot for another, and put eachother through a lot, yet something God keeps reminding me of is the fact that if we really keep working things out like we do, and look for God's best, then we will eventually develop our relationship to a point that we do have marriage one day, and we do grow in a mutual foundation built up on the Word of God as our rock and solid base.
Yet I am so impressed and really taken by how she really is willing to do what it takes to make it work, and get it right. It's easy to just give up, cave in or quit, or allow sin the rule, but we're both looking to really honour God and one another in this thing.
I really want to gather insight, perspective, some support from others, and I also plan to bring this to the attention of two close personal friends of mine so I can seek out counsel and at least see if the choices being made are right, or if I need to correct anything else, or anything more between ourselves.
I can't be selfish, I can't be seeking what I want, I can't allow sin to steal, kill or destroy. I keep myself in prayer and faith, and have been fighting and not giving into doubt or unbelief, or fear. I just kept praying and seeking the Word, declaring my Victory, as the Scripture says,
2 Thessalonians1:4And this is a cause of our mentioning you with pride among the churches (assemblies) of God for your steadfastness (your unflinching endurance and patience) and your firm faith in the midst of all the persecutions and crushing distresses and afflictions under which you are holding up.
5This is positive proof of the just and right judgment of God to the end that you may be deemed deserving of His kingdom [a plain token of His fair verdict which designs that you should be made and counted worthy of the kingdom of God], for the sake of which you are also suffering.
I am not some sad, sick defeated Christian. I know that greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world, as no weapon formed against me shall prosper, gain ground, or have a foot hold in my life. I win every battle I face, I triumph over every conflict I am involved in. My God always causes me to triumph in Christ, Jesus. I am more than a conqueror through Christ Who Loves me.
I really seek only God's Highest and very best between us, and what we can do to love one another, to serve one another, and to have God's approval on both our lives, so we can walk this things out succesfully, with full confidance and assurance through the Love of God which is unconditional, and in which we shall base our love walk towards one another and others as well.
Thank you.
I Know this girl that I have met online, we met back in September and I wasn't interested in her fully then as dating our having a relationship outside of friendship with her. Then we had a dispute, an argument over a difference of opinion or belief with some Christian values, so I got upset and we had a falling out and stopped talking to eachother for nearly two months.
Then I was really motivated and had a desire to patch things up, apologize for not respecting her, and I learned to respect and honour her more, and we have been talking for a good month so far. I've been seeking her best, learning to walk in Love as God would have me do so, pray for her, offer her Biblical perspective, and share the Word with her, and overall just enjoy learning from her as well, and everything she has to offer. We really do share a mutual like and love for one another.
However I know we rushed things a bit, because last week she told me she loved me, and I told her the same, then things got tough, she was distant for a couple days, I had to talk to her again and we did work through it, and she repented for her sins in life and became saved, as she has had a rough past, and has been hurt, used and abused quite a bit in her life.
I really have nothing less than seeking God's highest and very best for her and myself, and I am always look to just serve her, her needs, her interests, and how she wants things to go in the relationship, to be a support for her.
Well, a couple days ago we had a falling out and gave into some sexual temptation, and it really hurt us alot.. we both realized right away what we did was wrong, and we both went to God and repented for it on the spot, and let it go.. yet we both realized that we can't afford to rush things, or hurry it up, and she really had the character to step it up and tell me she wanted to go back to before, as good friends, mutual interest, and while we can't ignore or deny that we love one another, we ought to be walking in an honorable relationship, that honours God, and puts God first and at the center of our relationship, and we want to really learn to walk this thing out to be succesful, to prosper and let it grow and blossom in due season together.
I believe the hurt I feel is due to having something too fast, ahead of time and letting ourselves fall into a temptation where we connected to a place that we ought not of, or should not have connected to until we are married. While we both realize this, and care enough for one another to just let it go, and go back to what we had, it's tough on me, and I know my emotions will pull me in so many directions, or try to distract me from the greater purpose God has set before me, and her as well.
Though I believe that if we continue to look to have honour and love for one another, that we can work things out and have a wonderful, faith based, love based, God centered faith filled relationship without regrets or sorrows. We both have been through a lot, and have endured a lot for another, and put eachother through a lot, yet something God keeps reminding me of is the fact that if we really keep working things out like we do, and look for God's best, then we will eventually develop our relationship to a point that we do have marriage one day, and we do grow in a mutual foundation built up on the Word of God as our rock and solid base.
Yet I am so impressed and really taken by how she really is willing to do what it takes to make it work, and get it right. It's easy to just give up, cave in or quit, or allow sin the rule, but we're both looking to really honour God and one another in this thing.
I really want to gather insight, perspective, some support from others, and I also plan to bring this to the attention of two close personal friends of mine so I can seek out counsel and at least see if the choices being made are right, or if I need to correct anything else, or anything more between ourselves.
I can't be selfish, I can't be seeking what I want, I can't allow sin to steal, kill or destroy. I keep myself in prayer and faith, and have been fighting and not giving into doubt or unbelief, or fear. I just kept praying and seeking the Word, declaring my Victory, as the Scripture says,
2 Thessalonians1:4And this is a cause of our mentioning you with pride among the churches (assemblies) of God for your steadfastness (your unflinching endurance and patience) and your firm faith in the midst of all the persecutions and crushing distresses and afflictions under which you are holding up.
5This is positive proof of the just and right judgment of God to the end that you may be deemed deserving of His kingdom [a plain token of His fair verdict which designs that you should be made and counted worthy of the kingdom of God], for the sake of which you are also suffering.
I am not some sad, sick defeated Christian. I know that greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world, as no weapon formed against me shall prosper, gain ground, or have a foot hold in my life. I win every battle I face, I triumph over every conflict I am involved in. My God always causes me to triumph in Christ, Jesus. I am more than a conqueror through Christ Who Loves me.
I really seek only God's Highest and very best between us, and what we can do to love one another, to serve one another, and to have God's approval on both our lives, so we can walk this things out succesfully, with full confidance and assurance through the Love of God which is unconditional, and in which we shall base our love walk towards one another and others as well.
Thank you.
