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I would like to ask for prayer...I have a 1 year old and am 4 months pregnant. My husband and I planned this pregnancy when i was with him overseas. I recently came back to the states for some appointments I had to attend. After I got to the states my husband asked me to get an abortion. I told him no and then he asked for a divorce. Days later he said he wanted to work things out with me but doesnt want me to go back with him overseas. Just yesterday and today I found chats that he had online with random girls asking them to send him nude pictures of themselves. I spoke to him about it and he said that when he gets angry at me thats his way to get over it. I have always had issues with him talking to other girls. Just today I saw he told this girl that he's not suppose to be talking to that he's always liked her and wants her to visit him overseas.
When I was pregnant with my first son I had also came back to the states because of complications with the pregnancy and a month after I had left he had another girl in his apartment. I feel like I keep giving him chance after chance and he doesnt seem to get the point that I'm his wife and his needs to respect me.
All this is stressing me out and I already have high blood pressure as it is. I don't know if I should end my marriage, I just feel like God has a better person for me out there somewhere.
What to do? i'm so confused please help.
 
Sorry to tell you this but I think the best decision you can make is to separate yourself from him as soon as possible. You don't want your children to be raised in an environment as such. To me it has been way to many really horrible offenses towards you from him, and from what I can see I can only predict more suffering if you stay at his side. Move in with your parents or with whoever will allow you in their home, but for yours and your children's sake stay away from him and ask God to give you wisdom, strength, and the way to provide to raise your children because the father of your children is no man at all and isn't able to raise children wiith they way he is behaving, he is not the leadership that Christ would want for you to submit to.

Before taking my advice pray over it, and ask the Lord to truly reveal his will. But with these circumstances you are more than allowed to leave him and pursue your life apart from him. More than anything walk with God and depend upon Him, He will carry you through the trial. May God Bless you and lead your way.
 
I totally agree with Adraianv125!

stayingstrong, I went through something similar with my now ex-wife. We didn't have any children, but she cheated on me multiple times with multiple people. We had our problems and all, but that is just something that shouldn't be accepted. I gave her chance after chance and nothing changed. She kept on in her ways of doing that behind my back. I caught her everytime, and she would still lie to my face until I gave her proof. It was the hardest thing for me to say good-bye to her, but I really couldn't take getting hurt anymore.

Like Adraianv125 said, pray about it, and let the peace of God rule in your heart! God knows your heart and your situation. I'm praying for you and your family!
 
Im fighting for my marriage right now too. Though my husband isnt even with me, hes with his whore. He left me last February and still hasnt gotten me a divorce. I dont know if I believe once a cheater always a cheater, because I know our God is big and he can change any persons heart. I admit that after my husband left, I was with another man (mind you, my husband and I waited 6 years till our wedding night) and God changed the man i was withs heart and mine. Now God has told me to fight for a marriage I dont even know I want. Either way, I know if we get divorced God has someone else out there for me, but I would pray about it. I would really seek God with everything you have. God hates divorce, but God knows your future. I dont know if im fighting for something that will even work or that God will change my husbands heart, but God has put that FIGHT in me, to pray. I pray for my husband, thats it. My husband knows im here, fighting, seeking God. Just pray before any rational feelings or thoughts come to mind. I went to a divorce class and they told me, to never trust my emotions or feelings because you will always have a rollercoaster of a ride for the first 6 months. Its true!!!!!
 
Thank you guys so much. Your messages are just a confirmation to what god is trying to tell me. After my son was born my husband had asked me for a divorce, I prayed about it but went against god and allowed my husband to emotionally hurt me then got back with him. Now our 2nd one is on the way and I can finally see that things are never going to change. May be a little late but god allowed me to get pregnant for a reason I guess. Keep me in your prayers please.
Thank, again
 
Praying for you and your children in Jesus Christ is Lord.
Praying for salvation for your husband as well.

God bless
pickles
 
RachelP03 said:
Im fighting for my marriage right now too. Though my husband isnt even with me, hes with his whore. He left me last February and still hasnt gotten me a divorce. I dont know if I believe once a cheater always a cheater, because I know our God is big and he can change any persons heart. I admit that after my husband left, I was with another man (mind you, my husband and I waited 6 years till our wedding night) and God changed the man i was withs heart and mine. Now God has told me to fight for a marriage I dont even know I want. Either way, I know if we get divorced God has someone else out there for me, but I would pray about it. I would really seek God with everything you have. God hates divorce, but God knows your future. I dont know if im fighting for something that will even work or that God will change my husbands heart, but God has put that FIGHT in me, to pray. I pray for my husband, thats it. My husband knows im here, fighting, seeking God. Just pray before any rational feelings or thoughts come to mind. I went to a divorce class and they told me, to never trust my emotions or feelings because you will always have a rollercoaster of a ride for the first 6 months. Its true!!!!!
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It would be beautiful to see our God change her husband's heart completely and to know that God was able to restore their relationship to a much better one, but the thing is that she has to fight for her children now. At the moment that children are born it is expected that both parents are on the same page to raise the children, and since now one of the parents is not being the best representation of Christ towards her wife or children and has committed adultery against his wife, it is not only acceptable in God's eyes that she leaves him to pursue her life, but it is better for the children and for her to leave because her attention focus now turned mainly to her children and not to the relationship with her husband because the children are dependent on her. They are or should be the new main focus of attention because they will start to have reason soon, and they must be raised in a Godly environment.
 
Honestly, I think I'm a bit too young to know.......... but there is a book out called The Love Dare. It's by Alex and Stephen Kendrick and is from the movie Fireproof. It's a 40 day challenge to help married couples out when they're struggling. There's also devotional and movie clips to go along if you want to get them. I would HIGHLY ENCOURAGE trying this. My parents did and I'm seeing some great changes in their relationship.

I'll be praying for you!!!
 
I have prayed for you and your children...your post made me cry...I have to say I agree with Adraianv125.
Ask God for wisdom and strength.

James 1:5
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.
James 3:17
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
 
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