I have made the decision to break up with my non-christian boyfriend, it's one of the hardest decisions I've had to make in my Christian walk, I'm sitting here crying as I write about it. He initially was a good boyfriend, he didn't do anything wrong but it pushed me further from my relationship with God to be with him. I tried to break up with him four times already, but he talked me out of them, this difference with this time is I know that the longer I wait the more disasterous this going to turn out and I don't want to cause anymore pain to either of us than I already have, I won't feel peace until I do it, and I want to make sure God is first in my life. Its already painful, my emotions are going crazy, but I know I have to do it because I need to be obedient to God and live according to His will and not my own. I'm dreading and sorrowful that I have to break this guy's heart, in addition to breaking my own, I ignored the warnings I received in the beginning and throughout which In ow regret because if I had listened I wouldn't be in this mess and my relationship with God wouldn't be messed up right now. I feel like such a failure for what I have done, I'm ashamed. I've been praying and repenting for what I have done, but I feel so distant from God. I'm having a really hard time letting this guy go, but I know I need to surrender him to God. I feel so alone, I really hope God can pull me through this mess I placed myself in.
Struggling and in need of prayer and encouragement
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Now follow through with your decision and cut it off. Give away all momentos that he has given you for they sort of keep the soul ties you have. You are not so much surrendering this guy to God - you are surrendering YOURSELF.
The Lord will meet you at the place when you finally take the action you know is necessary. And He has also promised to give you back so much more than what you think you lost. He has someone else in mind for you that will bless your socks off! After a time of healing, God's husband for you will come into your life.
My granddaughter made this same decision you have - followed through - and now has the right husband. He encourages her love for the Lord and goes to church with her. He makes her happy.
Pray for your soul tie to be broken and you will be set free in your spirit for someone new. But the main thing is to let the Lord be everything to you for a season. Grow deeper in your relationship with Him - and be filled with His Spirit.
God will bless you richly. Trust Him.
The Lord will meet you at the place when you finally take the action you know is necessary. And He has also promised to give you back so much more than what you think you lost. He has someone else in mind for you that will bless your socks off! After a time of healing, God's husband for you will come into your life.
My granddaughter made this same decision you have - followed through - and now has the right husband. He encourages her love for the Lord and goes to church with her. He makes her happy.
Pray for your soul tie to be broken and you will be set free in your spirit for someone new. But the main thing is to let the Lord be everything to you for a season. Grow deeper in your relationship with Him - and be filled with His Spirit.
God will bless you richly. Trust Him.
God could be using you to make a point in his life shy girl.
Just tell him God's best children follow God's counsel and He likes His people to stay in His flock because it is safer for them.
That might make an impression on him.
It's not like you are being unreasonable when you follow the counsel of the greatest living being in the universe.
God bless and I will say a prayer for you now.
Just tell him God's best children follow God's counsel and He likes His people to stay in His flock because it is safer for them.
That might make an impression on him.
It's not like you are being unreasonable when you follow the counsel of the greatest living being in the universe.
God bless and I will say a prayer for you now.
God WILL make a point in His life.....Clod9 has it right! I just added the no doubt part...smile. I'm sure Cloud meant it that way too. And God will start by making a point in yours...You go girlfriend! Said as a pun to the subject matter...
I will be praying for you, the guy that is working out the details in his life as a godly man is just getting ready to meet you, so don't hesitate, seal the deal that God had made with you on this guy! "Lord be with Shy and help her get over this guy!...In Jesus name I pray Amen! As the famous non- christian comedian once said, or more than once actually, ," Go Getter done!"
I actually will in all seriousness now have you on my prayer list thru the coming week so this will honor God in every way ok? Stay diligent, and stay In Him the whole way! I claim victory for you, in the name of our Father!..
I will be praying for you, the guy that is working out the details in his life as a godly man is just getting ready to meet you, so don't hesitate, seal the deal that God had made with you on this guy! "Lord be with Shy and help her get over this guy!...In Jesus name I pray Amen! As the famous non- christian comedian once said, or more than once actually, ," Go Getter done!"
I actually will in all seriousness now have you on my prayer list thru the coming week so this will honor God in every way ok? Stay diligent, and stay In Him the whole way! I claim victory for you, in the name of our Father!..
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Eny
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To; Shygirl I have a question for you? How long you been with this boyfriend? Did you convert to God in a relationship with him? Or were you a Christian and met him? The reason is why I'm asking is because I believe in a God that changes hearts! Yes you must trust God but in your prayer you should ask God what is his will. Their is a saying in Spanish Alma de salvacion. Which it means soul of salvation! If is God will he will reveal to you if he wants you together or God will heal your heart and give you greater. Only the Spirit of God transform. Is not by might nor by power but by the Spirit of God says the Lord of host.(Zechariah 4:6) You know God does many miracles to show his Glory!
Thank you all so much for the encouragement and prayer. I'm more confident in my decision to go forth and break it off.
To Eny: I've know him a year. I had just got saved about three weeks before I met him, so yes, I was a new christian at the time. I met him through a couple that has been mentoring me since about a week after I gave my life to Jesus, they were mentoring him as well. We all thought he was the one, but his fruits over time showed differently. He was a christian when I first met him, but he fell away. I've been praying for him and so have the couple that mentored both of us.
To Eny: I've know him a year. I had just got saved about three weeks before I met him, so yes, I was a new christian at the time. I met him through a couple that has been mentoring me since about a week after I gave my life to Jesus, they were mentoring him as well. We all thought he was the one, but his fruits over time showed differently. He was a christian when I first met him, but he fell away. I've been praying for him and so have the couple that mentored both of us.
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Eny
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Do not worry about nothing in do time God will heal your heart. But, keep praying for him because he is a lost sheep who went astray. In due time God sometimes has to part people to work in their heart. In the mean time the couple who are mentoring you. Should do a fasting with you and keep praying. Believe me I know is not easy but God will give you the strength to endure this trial. When you feel you have nothing to say the Holy Spirit will guide you. Read the Bible that the sword. Sing to him he brakes chain that no man can do. I understand where your coming from. In order to guard are heart we must run. You will have the victory in Jesus name amen.
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jollibee
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Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.
Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.
The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.
Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.
Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.
The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.
You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.
Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.
Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not two lovers will be capable of spending their lives together: if they are able to forgive and forget.
Because love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices – choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.
They may be poor calls of judgment, lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our pasts haunt us. We move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship.
Because lovers who can’t work together don’t like to accept this fact, they have a tendency of breaking up and getting back together repeatedly.
Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. But the problem is, they’re still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons come out.
When love scars, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. When you hurt the woman you love enough, she won’t come back to you. And because you still love her, you wouldn’t take her back even if she asked you to.
You don’t trust yourself not to hurt her again and even if you did, she wouldn’t trust you not to hurt her again. Relationships are built on trust and you shattered her trust.
Chances are, you both have bruises that have never fully healed and likely will never fully heal. And that’s just something you decided that you’ll have to live with. Why?
Because you really don’t have any other options. You just hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and so you don’t have to worry about her happiness anymore.
You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old — which it can. But that doesn’t mean you will ever stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. And so is the darker side of love....
To Shygirl i know how you felt right now as i did with my ex. Hope this article can give you something that can help you with.
Pray and God will direct you to a good man you been wishing.
God bless
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.
Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.
The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.
Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.
Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.
The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.
You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.
Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.
Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not two lovers will be capable of spending their lives together: if they are able to forgive and forget.
Because love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices – choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.
They may be poor calls of judgment, lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our pasts haunt us. We move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship.
Because lovers who can’t work together don’t like to accept this fact, they have a tendency of breaking up and getting back together repeatedly.
Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. But the problem is, they’re still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons come out.
When love scars, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. When you hurt the woman you love enough, she won’t come back to you. And because you still love her, you wouldn’t take her back even if she asked you to.
You don’t trust yourself not to hurt her again and even if you did, she wouldn’t trust you not to hurt her again. Relationships are built on trust and you shattered her trust.
Chances are, you both have bruises that have never fully healed and likely will never fully heal. And that’s just something you decided that you’ll have to live with. Why?
Because you really don’t have any other options. You just hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and so you don’t have to worry about her happiness anymore.
You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old — which it can. But that doesn’t mean you will ever stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. And so is the darker side of love....
To Shygirl i know how you felt right now as i did with my ex. Hope this article can give you something that can help you with.
Pray and God will direct you to a good man you been wishing.
God bless