Before the person reaches the stage of stating, the experience will not affect them in the way it was intended to, there must be forgiveness. Forgiveness is more complex that many will admit. For example, how many can say that every time they gave forgiveness to someone that the never experienced the same feelings of pain to forgive again and again. Jesus statement, Father forgive them, for they know not what they do is more than a simple forgiveness. The statement when applied to those who experienced abuse may cause the person to stop the process of healing the memories. First the statement is asking the person to forgive things done in childhood. Then the statement can be applied to those who have not experience abuse but have contributed to the pain. Many times people say and do things without realization of how it impacts another individual. As well as, our society is geared towards a sacrificial system. In this system there are some who are seen to be safe target to isolate or deemed as being not good. Many times people do not share their pain over past experiences out of fear from hearing others speak about those who experienced abuse. Truth is that many who abuse others do not believe they are doing anything wrong in the acts. For someone who has experience pain from abuse, this seems unlikely to them. Besides asking God to forgive the people who caused the pain, is letting go of wanting the people to suffer who caused the hurt. Research from the secular world has found that forgiveness is extremely beneficial in helping a person overcome abuse. Once the process of healing begins the individual will come to the realization that the abuser was manifesting their own pain towards them. Asking God to forgive the abusers assist the individual to forgive themselves in the process. Despite the perception, that those who experience abuse by their parents or others in childhood, walks away from the abusers once they realized the wrong, many individuals keep a relationship bond with those who abuse them. The problem sometimes becomes with the individuals believing because they are changing the abuser will change the way they interact with them. Another problem that may arise with those who seek healing from abusive memories is thinking that it will be an instant alleviation of the pain. The thought is that they surrender the past and committed their spirit to God but find that the pain from the memories did not instantaneously disappear. There may be a time period where the person reviews their spiritual journey to question where God was during the experience. Or why God has not change the perception of the abuser to stop the things that trigger the pain from the experiences. Jesus states this sense of despair in Matthew 27:46 and Mark 15:34 with My God, My God, why have you forsaken me. It assists the individuals in understanding that even though those events and the present events may elicit feelings that God has abandoned them, he has not. It also helps the individual not to feel defeat or guilt or shame over the experiences. As questioning God’s presence during harmful experiences is not necessarily sinful. Many times it creates in the individual the need to recommit their spirit to God. The pain that is experienced during the healing process can become overwhelming and create a sense of hopelessness of ever becoming free from the pain. Level of suffering is different for those who experience adverse childhood experiences. Some will never have the problem of digging up those memories to unleash the agony of the event. While others have the harmful event attached to them as they lived their lives. It takes great courage for any individual to let go of those painful experiences as the letting go will dread up all the pain buried beneath the surface. Forgiveness is a major source of healing. Once someone can trust someone whether that be another individual or God himself, they can begin to forgive the individuals responsible for the harm. They can begin to see the pain of those who committed the abuse to understand the suffering of those who abuse. Sometimes this leads to feelings of abandonment of God and sometimes those feelings of abandonment of God are entangle within the experiences. There is a sense of empowerment for the healing individual to voice those feelings of abandonment from God. Once the person is able to relate these last sayings of Jesus to their journey of healing they can finally say, it is finished. The statement it is finished is more than saying that the experience is over for the survivor. It is finished, is a statement declaring that the experience will no longer hold the power to control the choices, or actions of the individual. The individual comes to understand that even though the events still may present pain, it does not have to affect who the individuals are, how the individual lives, what the individual thinks, and most importantly how the individual understands the liberation of accepting Christ. The sense of freedom from breaking the chains from past abuse is experience in ways that changes the individual to progress forward. The individual is no longer control by what the message of the abuser says who they are. The individual finds the freedom in defining who they are by their own choices and actions. They may experience the ability to love more honestly, trust more openly, to accept blame only when they are to blame, and to respond better to the challenges of other events that caused pain. This may lead the individual to restate the saying, father into your hands I commit my spirit.