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I need prayer, my family hates me. My fiancée hates me too. Everything I do is wrong. I can't handle the cruel negative things coming from them. They expect me never to react to what they say or do to me but it's killing me inside and I can no longer cope. What's wrong with me? Why do they hate me so much. I can't defend myself and I need God to intervene right now. I feel suicidal because I feel bullied. If its my fault then Lord change my heart. I just want peace in my life.
 
I'm so sorry to hear you are suffering in this manner TenderHeart. I will keep you in my prayers.

Isaiah 41:10 "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."

I hope God's words can grant you some peace and comfort as you struggle. Don't give up, God is fighting right along side you and He will see you through this season of pain.
 
i dont think ur family hates you, maybe you would benifit from some alone time? Maybe you need to lash out and voice how you feel? Maybe you are taking things differently than they are being intended. Im praying for internal peace as well, i hope you find yours, please dont kill yourself its not the answer. I think if you blow off some serious steam and let your family know how you really feel..spare no expense let it allllllllll out!
 
Well, Jesus is still in control.
You go to Him with all your heart.
He will never leave you or forsake you.
Do you know Him as your Lord?
 
My sister and my cousin said I should just go and kill myself because I am worthless. My family talks about me behind my back even though I haven't done anything to them. I stay away from them because they curse at me and yell a lot, accusing me of things all the time. If I wear nice clothes it makes them mad. If I have a boyfriend it makes them mad. If I do well they get nasty with me. Most of the time I stay away from them and just don't speak other than hi and goodbye out of fear. They have hit me and beat me so bad in the past and slander me to anyone that will listen that I am afraid of them. I have been a good sister but they hate me anyway. They call me fat all the time which I don't understand because they are all bigger than me, 60 to 200lbs bigger than myself so why are they calling me fat? I go to the gym and try to keep my weight down, they do not but I don't call them names.

My fiancee is acting the same way, he bullies me. He keeps telling me I'm fat. When I went on a diet he said I was losing too much weight and that I should stop, so I did. Now he says I'm fat. I don't understand, he's dated women that were really obese and he didn't bother them about what they were eating or their size. He constantly tries to make me jealous of other women. When I say I am not he says yes you are because you know she looks better than you. It hurts so bad cause I don't feel that way. It hurts that he would want to make me jealous when I am not. When I do get angry from his taunting, we argue. Or I should say he gets to speak. He cuts me off and I can never express how his actions make me feel. If I shutdown then he gets angrier, if I cry he gets even angrier. At this point I feel grieved inside and I don't know what to do. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. If I react to what they say or do then they get mad as if I am not supposed to. I feel so sad like I just want to give up on life because I can't take it anymore. They blame me for everything and call me names all the time and I'm tired.
 
It's sad, but sometimes the family we are born into doesn't treat us the way we deserve. You do have another family in God though. I think it is important for you to break out and make connections away from your family like in a church or on here. Let other followers of Christ be the family that you need. It is also important to realize that you don't deserve to be treated in such an awful manner. God never created anything that was worthless and it is through Him that you can find your worth.
 
I keep going over and over in my mind what did I do to them other than be a good sister, cousin, daughter and girlfriend? I always help them. When I am not around them I'm happy and well liked. My fiancee is the most troubling to me, he can be so sweet and out of nowhere he verbally tortures me and then takes no responsibility for his words or actions. His ex said exactly what I'm saying. He's a cool guy but as a boyfriend he tortures you verbally and mentally. I told him you remind me of my family and he gets mad but why would you want me to be jealous of other women. He ogles over women all the time and he always tells me directly and indirectly that I am ugly to him. I don't understand why he wants to hurt me if he loves me. At this point I broke things off with him today because he keeps doing things like this. I want husband that loves and accepts me not constantly picking on my looks and being abusive. I give up on love maybe God doesn't want me around the people I am. I feel lost and I don't know what to do. Year after year I pray begging for God to mend my relationships with my family and it gets worse and worse. I prayed about my fiancee too, he was great for a few months and now he's back to his old ways before he accepted Christ so I feel grieved.
 
Thank you to everyone, please pray for me...I am so sad inside. If I had wings like dove I would fly far away.
 
Tenderheart, as others have said, you are loved, the love Jesus has for you is so great and true.
He gave his life for you because of this love, overcoming death for your sake.
It sounds to me like your family has been abusive, and your boyfriend as well, sometimes we pick people like the ones we know simply because it is familier, not realising it when we do.
You need to find a good counciler, for you, and hopefully your fiance too.
The choices made now can bring so much healing and the healthy love you desire. :)
Ill be praying for you in Jesus, also your familyand fiance too.
You will overcome these struggles, I went through them many years ago, and the help Jesus, and a good councler brought to me were beyond value.
Check with some local christian churches, as they often offer free counsiling, if you cannot pay.
Plus having Jesus as the foundation of your healing, brings a whole success. :)

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
Empathize with you of your problems and how deeply you have been wounded. I am not that adequate in advising people who have family issues.

Nevertheless, would like to draw your attention to these verses:

Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. Luke 23.34

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: Matthew 6.14

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them for despitefully use you, and persecute you; Matthew 5.44

You need to cultivate this substance called love on your family. This is the love from God. Having love, you will find it easier to forgive, forbear and forgo. It is a tiresome and herculean task which may go on in a lifetime, but will be a very meaningful giving as you realize later on.

Easier said than done, but it is the Way. You may not become perfect in your giving of love, but you may turn better and better in regarding your family and yourself. Perhaps your family don’t know how to treat or love themselves either, I don’t know whether it is, but maybe because of their over-sized physiques. You may happen to be a replica of what they hate themselves for.

They call me fat all the time which I don't understand because they are all bigger than me, 60 to 200lbs bigger than myself so why are they calling me fat?

Yea, sometimes a problem may be so irresolvable, and the best ideal solution may have to be ‘fly far away’.

Hope you don’t mind me to have this to say, those are signs negatively manifested of the ‘love’ your fiancé has for you. Someone truly loves you won’t bring you so many causes to suffer for, and through such deliberate means. I hope you can or have already faced the fact, as you said you 'broke things off with him'. Know what you ought to do, and a right one.

May our Loving Father in Heaven have mercy on you, strengthen and keep you moving on. Amen.
 
TenderHeart said:
I need prayer, my family hates me. My fiancée hates me too. Everything I do is wrong. I can't handle the cruel negative things coming from them. They expect me never to react to what they say or do to me but it's killing me inside and I can no longer cope. What's wrong with me? Why do they hate me so much. I can't defend myself and I need God to intervene right now. I feel suicidal because I feel bullied. If its my fault then Lord change my heart. I just want peace in my life.
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Jesus said you will be hated by all for His name sake, but you must endure to the end, I would love to give you a simple plan to make you feel better, but the fact is that those who are truly walking the narrow road with Christ, and very few are, will be highly persucuted by many they love and stand as a witness to. But you must love them as commanded,.

You must hold fast, and understand thay are not of God, just make sure you are in the faith, and God will give you all the strength you need to survive.

Its not about flesh and blood, but evil spirits trying to pull you down to thier pit, dont buy it, stand firm in the truth and they will flee!

Jas 4:7 Therefore submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Jas 4:8 Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, sinners; and purify your hearts, double-minded ones.
Jas 4:9 Be afflicted, and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to heaviness.
Jas 4:10 Be humbled before the Lord, and He will lift you up.

Come clean befor God in repentance, fill your mind with His word and truth, turn off the world and its vain attractions and propaganda, as well as all the false teachings in the church and many ministrties, get alone with God and His word, you may be all alone, but He will be with you and guide you into all power, strtength, and comfort, even though your family and friends mock you, and hate you, but what did they do to Jesus and His followers.

Mock Him, hate him, spit on Him, rejected Him, etc,, its no different today! We must suffer with Him, to get the prize of eternal life, be strong, you are in my prayers!
 
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. THE SOFTNESS, AND GENTLENESS, IS BEING ATTACKED BY THOSE WHO ARE FRUSTRATED WITH THEIR OWN SELVES. KEEP PRAYING, THE LORD WILL MAKE A WAY OUT OF THIS," THOSE WHO LIVE GOLDY WILL SUFFER PERSECUTION" {{ BUT THE LORD KNOWS HOW TO DELIVER THEM OUT.}} CLAIM THE 91 PSALM. BE STRONGE, IN THE WRONGE ATTITUDES, THEY ARE HURTING, PRAY FOR THEM.
 

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How are you doing?
You , your fiance and family remain in my prayers in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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