Divorce and the Sabbath day
Mark 10:1 And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judaea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again. 2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. 3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? 4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
There is so much here, but I think it should be covered as several points. Obviously divorce is a really big point, we have to cover. But also the commandments of Moses are another.
So let's start with Divorce since many people in the US are divorced, this must impact many believers. If you are divorced does that mean you are guilty of making your former spouse commit adultery? That is not what Jesus said. He said "if you put away your spouse". It is the person who initiates and forces the divorce. No verse is of its own interpretation. In another place Paul said that if your spouse demands a divorce you are free, we are not in bondage in such a situation.
Now even if you still feel guilty of adultery in how your divorce went down, the Lord's blood will wash away all sin. You must confess and repent. So then repent of that old lifestyle that led you to divorce your first spouse.
This point is also in Genesis. If you marry someone and you become one flesh and they then go and commit adultery, what does that mean? That is clearly a corruption to the one body. Are they one with you or are they one with their adulterous partner? In other places Jesus places this word on divorce with cutting off a body part that "offends you". If your eye, or hand or foot offends you, cut it off. This compares divorce to amputating a part of your body. Why would you do that? Because it has gangrene and if you don't the entire body will die.
My understanding is this, if your spouse sins, you are not to ignore that. You have to deal with it and you must deal with it according to Matthew 18. First you go to the spouse and tell them privately what the issue is. If they won't listen to you then you take two or three brothers or sisters. This is a great safety precaution because maybe you are making a mountain out of nothing. These two or three brothers or sisters would have to agree with you that this is truly a big deal because if your spouse continues to ignore you then it could lead to divorce. If the spouse refuses to listen to them you go to the elders. Now at this point the elders should be able to discuss what must be done to reconcile the situation. This puts the sinful spouse into a situation where they cannot continue as is, the only way to continue in the marriage is to follow the prescribed reconciliation. This would include confession of sins, but also a repentance which might mean changing your job, moving to another town, etc. Jesus said you can't serve two masters, you will love the one and hate the other. This is where the spouse must decide which of the two masters they love. At this point they may ask for a divorce and if they do then you should give it to them, you are not in bondage and neither are they.
However, in another place Jesus made it clear the only offense that should potentially result in divorce is adultery.
The second point are the commandments of God. I realize that the commandments about what is clean to eat and what isn't were dealt with by Peter's vision. It would be impossible to bring the gospel to Africa, India, and China if the evangelists could not eat or even enter into the house of unbelievers to have fellowship. Even if they did not serve you something unclean the fact that they prepare those items in their kitchen would make everything unclean. So the Lord explains He made those things clean by the cross of Christ.
However, what about keeping the Sabbath, that is one of the ten commandments. It is one thing to say that the ordinances about food were done away with by the cross, but surely the ten commandments were not.
I heard one teaching that the five commandments on one tablet corresponded to the five commandments on the other. It is as though if you look at each commandment in the mirror it gives you the other one. For example "keeping the sabbath. holy" is opposite to "thou shalt not be a false witness". You proclaim that you are a Jew by keeping the sabbath. So if you claim to be a Jew when you go to the synagogue, but then at work you are willing to do various things on the sabbath that would not be keeping it holy, then you are a false witness to your coworkers.
But as a Christian I celebrate the Lord's day, the 8th day, the day of resurrection. My understanding is that the fulfillment of the sabbath rest was when Jesus was in the grave. He was dead for the entire sabbath day. As Christians we must be crucified with Jesus. This is not simply one day a week, but all seven days. The reality of keeping the sabbath day holy is if your testimony is that "I have died with Christ and it is no longer I that live".
But then what is the issue with keeping the sabbath as the seventh day adventists do? I have no problem, if they claim that celebrating the Lord's day is a violation of God's word and they want to be faithful to God's word, fine. The sabbath day is marked by the moon. The word moon means month. In the Bible you had a "new moon sabbath" which was 2-3 days, and then the 7th day was when you had a quarter moon, the 14th day was the full moon, the 21st day was the other quarter moon. That was the initial calendar.
During Jesus day they had both the Julian calendar and the Hebrew calendar and the days were off. Jesus ate the passover with his disciples one day, and then was crucified as the Passover lamb the next day. Two different calendars, two different days. Today we are in the Gregorian calendar which is off from the Julian calendar by a few weeks. As a result there is no set day to celebrate the Lord's table, Paul says "whatever day". Some people today still use the Julian calendar, others the Gregorian calendar and still others the Hebrew calendar. I consider it hypocritical that someone tells me I am celebrating the Lord's death and resurrection on the wrong day and that it should be on the sabbath day when they also are not celebrating on the sabbath day but on a day named after Saturn, signifying Satan.
This brings us to the spiritual significance. Marriage is a covenant. The Ten commandments were part of the Old Covenant. If you die you are free from all covenants you made in your life. If we die with Christ we are free from all covenants that we or our ancestors might have made with Satan.
Mark 10:1 And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judaea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again. 2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. 3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? 4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
There is so much here, but I think it should be covered as several points. Obviously divorce is a really big point, we have to cover. But also the commandments of Moses are another.
So let's start with Divorce since many people in the US are divorced, this must impact many believers. If you are divorced does that mean you are guilty of making your former spouse commit adultery? That is not what Jesus said. He said "if you put away your spouse". It is the person who initiates and forces the divorce. No verse is of its own interpretation. In another place Paul said that if your spouse demands a divorce you are free, we are not in bondage in such a situation.
Now even if you still feel guilty of adultery in how your divorce went down, the Lord's blood will wash away all sin. You must confess and repent. So then repent of that old lifestyle that led you to divorce your first spouse.
This point is also in Genesis. If you marry someone and you become one flesh and they then go and commit adultery, what does that mean? That is clearly a corruption to the one body. Are they one with you or are they one with their adulterous partner? In other places Jesus places this word on divorce with cutting off a body part that "offends you". If your eye, or hand or foot offends you, cut it off. This compares divorce to amputating a part of your body. Why would you do that? Because it has gangrene and if you don't the entire body will die.
My understanding is this, if your spouse sins, you are not to ignore that. You have to deal with it and you must deal with it according to Matthew 18. First you go to the spouse and tell them privately what the issue is. If they won't listen to you then you take two or three brothers or sisters. This is a great safety precaution because maybe you are making a mountain out of nothing. These two or three brothers or sisters would have to agree with you that this is truly a big deal because if your spouse continues to ignore you then it could lead to divorce. If the spouse refuses to listen to them you go to the elders. Now at this point the elders should be able to discuss what must be done to reconcile the situation. This puts the sinful spouse into a situation where they cannot continue as is, the only way to continue in the marriage is to follow the prescribed reconciliation. This would include confession of sins, but also a repentance which might mean changing your job, moving to another town, etc. Jesus said you can't serve two masters, you will love the one and hate the other. This is where the spouse must decide which of the two masters they love. At this point they may ask for a divorce and if they do then you should give it to them, you are not in bondage and neither are they.
However, in another place Jesus made it clear the only offense that should potentially result in divorce is adultery.
The second point are the commandments of God. I realize that the commandments about what is clean to eat and what isn't were dealt with by Peter's vision. It would be impossible to bring the gospel to Africa, India, and China if the evangelists could not eat or even enter into the house of unbelievers to have fellowship. Even if they did not serve you something unclean the fact that they prepare those items in their kitchen would make everything unclean. So the Lord explains He made those things clean by the cross of Christ.
However, what about keeping the Sabbath, that is one of the ten commandments. It is one thing to say that the ordinances about food were done away with by the cross, but surely the ten commandments were not.
I heard one teaching that the five commandments on one tablet corresponded to the five commandments on the other. It is as though if you look at each commandment in the mirror it gives you the other one. For example "keeping the sabbath. holy" is opposite to "thou shalt not be a false witness". You proclaim that you are a Jew by keeping the sabbath. So if you claim to be a Jew when you go to the synagogue, but then at work you are willing to do various things on the sabbath that would not be keeping it holy, then you are a false witness to your coworkers.
But as a Christian I celebrate the Lord's day, the 8th day, the day of resurrection. My understanding is that the fulfillment of the sabbath rest was when Jesus was in the grave. He was dead for the entire sabbath day. As Christians we must be crucified with Jesus. This is not simply one day a week, but all seven days. The reality of keeping the sabbath day holy is if your testimony is that "I have died with Christ and it is no longer I that live".
But then what is the issue with keeping the sabbath as the seventh day adventists do? I have no problem, if they claim that celebrating the Lord's day is a violation of God's word and they want to be faithful to God's word, fine. The sabbath day is marked by the moon. The word moon means month. In the Bible you had a "new moon sabbath" which was 2-3 days, and then the 7th day was when you had a quarter moon, the 14th day was the full moon, the 21st day was the other quarter moon. That was the initial calendar.
During Jesus day they had both the Julian calendar and the Hebrew calendar and the days were off. Jesus ate the passover with his disciples one day, and then was crucified as the Passover lamb the next day. Two different calendars, two different days. Today we are in the Gregorian calendar which is off from the Julian calendar by a few weeks. As a result there is no set day to celebrate the Lord's table, Paul says "whatever day". Some people today still use the Julian calendar, others the Gregorian calendar and still others the Hebrew calendar. I consider it hypocritical that someone tells me I am celebrating the Lord's death and resurrection on the wrong day and that it should be on the sabbath day when they also are not celebrating on the sabbath day but on a day named after Saturn, signifying Satan.
This brings us to the spiritual significance. Marriage is a covenant. The Ten commandments were part of the Old Covenant. If you die you are free from all covenants you made in your life. If we die with Christ we are free from all covenants that we or our ancestors might have made with Satan.