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Our family really needs your prayers today. We have had an 18 yr. old friend of my daughters living with us for the last few months. I will call her Emma. We met Emma and her dad at church. Emma's dad is a troubled man who many have expressed concern over. He has recently been in recovery for drug/alcohol addiction. He is not Emma's real father and there is no mother as he seemingly acquired custody of Emma while serving in the military in another country when she was only a baby. He and his family are the only family she has ever known.
Shortly after she turned 18 he kicked her out. His reasons: she wanted to talk on the phone, go places with her friends/boyfriend, and stay out til all hours of the night- 10 or 11 o'clock. Also,he wanted her to get a job and a drivers license- but he wouldn't take her to do these things himself.
We made room for her and began helping her to get on track with her life. She has really been through alot. A few days ago, she showed me scars on her wrist and forearm from cutting herself and talked about how often life feels overwhelming. She thinks about death,even as far as to how she would go about it. She wants to move on with her life but she is so overwhelmed with all the changes and has trouble adjusting to the rules and boundaries of our family. She says she knows she is better off with us but she misses what is familiar to her. I understand this totally.
Now her dad has given her a house key, is begging her to come home, and says he will help her and allow her some freedom. She hesitates because she says he never does what he promises. She has gone to spend the weekend with him now and to try to decide what she wants to do.
My husband and I agree that we do not want to stand in the way of reconciliation. We also cannot operate as a revolving door. Emma needs counseling among other things but we find ourselves unable to help her while she is so torn between us and her dad. We don't want to make a decision for her. We are asking for prayer for God's will concerning Emma's life, her dad, and what is best for our family as well. We have all been so torn and just need some guidance and peace that we are doing what God wants us to do.
Shortly after she turned 18 he kicked her out. His reasons: she wanted to talk on the phone, go places with her friends/boyfriend, and stay out til all hours of the night- 10 or 11 o'clock. Also,he wanted her to get a job and a drivers license- but he wouldn't take her to do these things himself.
We made room for her and began helping her to get on track with her life. She has really been through alot. A few days ago, she showed me scars on her wrist and forearm from cutting herself and talked about how often life feels overwhelming. She thinks about death,even as far as to how she would go about it. She wants to move on with her life but she is so overwhelmed with all the changes and has trouble adjusting to the rules and boundaries of our family. She says she knows she is better off with us but she misses what is familiar to her. I understand this totally.
Now her dad has given her a house key, is begging her to come home, and says he will help her and allow her some freedom. She hesitates because she says he never does what he promises. She has gone to spend the weekend with him now and to try to decide what she wants to do.
My husband and I agree that we do not want to stand in the way of reconciliation. We also cannot operate as a revolving door. Emma needs counseling among other things but we find ourselves unable to help her while she is so torn between us and her dad. We don't want to make a decision for her. We are asking for prayer for God's will concerning Emma's life, her dad, and what is best for our family as well. We have all been so torn and just need some guidance and peace that we are doing what God wants us to do.
