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babarainbowsheep
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It is easier to footle/handle if one has friends, family support but not everyone has this always.
If one is all alone the loss hurts deep enough and without friends it can be extra bad.
One can turn to God and Jesus ofcourse.
be extra kind and understanding to oneself.
Lovebomb one self.
One should not behave badly as no good will come from it.(had a partner who x partner did eeeeeeeeverything to hurt me )
Ask for help.
It can cause many sideeffects like no sleep, pain , depressions etc to go through it.
If it is a clear breakup then one can not forse oneself onto someone who is not interested and should accept and show respect to their will and feeling.
Maybe stay with family for a while.
Depends on situation and what kindof breakup it is.
I had a really bad one and was in church mourning and praying.
Tak extra love and care of self and ask for understanding.
Had someone who "oh feel sorry forself" in belittling hateful tone.Avoid people like that and turn to those who have ability to feel compassion and understand and support you.
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Victoria
If one is all alone the loss hurts deep enough and without friends it can be extra bad.
One can turn to God and Jesus ofcourse.
be extra kind and understanding to oneself.
Lovebomb one self.
One should not behave badly as no good will come from it.(had a partner who x partner did eeeeeeeeverything to hurt me )
Ask for help.
It can cause many sideeffects like no sleep, pain , depressions etc to go through it.
If it is a clear breakup then one can not forse oneself onto someone who is not interested and should accept and show respect to their will and feeling.
Maybe stay with family for a while.
Depends on situation and what kindof breakup it is.
I had a really bad one and was in church mourning and praying.
Tak extra love and care of self and ask for understanding.
Had someone who "oh feel sorry forself" in belittling hateful tone.Avoid people like that and turn to those who have ability to feel compassion and understand and support you.
Love
Victoria
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Jullianna
Guest
I watched the movie yesterday...again..and this was on my mind. I think this is one thing I'm reeeeeeeeeeeally bad at...letting someone know it's not going to work out or saying no. I always think people should be mature enough to end things well, but not everyone can.
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Santana
Guest
2 breakups have pretty much defined my existence.
I know its sad but I tend to pour a lot into relationships and when all is lost, I tend to take it personally.
Some people call it a character flaw but, I wouldn't want it any other way. If I can't love someone with ALL my heart, I wouldn't want to love them at all. It is really rare to find someone who has the capacity and the ability to love in a full spectrum kind of way.
The first was someone beyond me. We were too young and I learned a lot about myself and about women but, at the end of the day, I was just another sailor on the ocean, who couldn't be there.
The second was lost in a car accident, so I can't really begin to explain how that felt. We made plans about forever and then in a moment there were no plans and I was alone.
I know its sad but I tend to pour a lot into relationships and when all is lost, I tend to take it personally.
Some people call it a character flaw but, I wouldn't want it any other way. If I can't love someone with ALL my heart, I wouldn't want to love them at all. It is really rare to find someone who has the capacity and the ability to love in a full spectrum kind of way.
The first was someone beyond me. We were too young and I learned a lot about myself and about women but, at the end of the day, I was just another sailor on the ocean, who couldn't be there.
The second was lost in a car accident, so I can't really begin to explain how that felt. We made plans about forever and then in a moment there were no plans and I was alone.
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Jullianna
Guest
I've been thinking alot about the "emotional unavailability" thread, wondering whether this was truly an issue for me, and I don't believe it is. I have loved and learned, but those relationships are over and they aren't coming back. There might actually be someone out there who is even better suited for me than those two were, right?
I truly believe it is the breakup thing that gives me pause. OTHER PEOPLE think you should get out there and date, blah, blah, blah, but you know in your heart that you won't love/be happy with just anyone. To settle like that seems incredibly foolish and selfish.
I'm a risk tasker, yes, but I take CALCULATED risks, not foolish ones. Unless someone comes along who really stands out above the crowd to me, I'm simply not willing to take the risk of hurting anyone else, as I have those I've dated for fun just because other people thought I should. Does that make sense to anyone but me?
Maybe not... haha
I truly believe it is the breakup thing that gives me pause. OTHER PEOPLE think you should get out there and date, blah, blah, blah, but you know in your heart that you won't love/be happy with just anyone. To settle like that seems incredibly foolish and selfish.
I'm a risk tasker, yes, but I take CALCULATED risks, not foolish ones. Unless someone comes along who really stands out above the crowd to me, I'm simply not willing to take the risk of hurting anyone else, as I have those I've dated for fun just because other people thought I should. Does that make sense to anyone but me?
Maybe not... haha