The feel of being isolated and so lonely after opening my heart to the Lord

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Boatman

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Hi all

I am very new this this and I must apologize in advance if it does not make sense.

A year ago, I was introducer to the Lord and shorly after the Holy Spirit came to me. I tell you, I have never ever felt so loved as when that happend!

The thing is that I cannot explain to others (my family) is how wonderful it is the give your life to the Lord and try to follow Jesus in his amazing walk of joy and unconditional love.

So here I am, in a World of love of joy with the Lord and in a world (on earth) where I have never been so lonely. I know that my marriage cannot go on and, at some point, I have to choose to follow the Lord. What breaks my heart is that I cannot understand that I have to choose - there must be a way that you can enjoy love with the Lord and be able to share this with the person you wake up with every morning.

Am I the only one that have found so much love and end up being so lonely?

Again, I can only apologize and I know that it may not make sense. At least I did try to share my feelings with you guys :)

Lots of joy fra Carsten
 
AbideinVine

AbideinVine

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Hello Boatman,

Welcome to the family of God! You are among brothers and sisters around the world who have, like you, come to saving faith in Jesus Christ. Rejoice! You have been purchased by the blood of the Lamb and your name is written in heaven!

Now you have the great privilege of walking day by day with Jesus. Talk with Him all through your day. Make HIM your very best friend. Ask Him to teach you to love your wife with His love. You are His emissary to Your wife, while you lay your life down for her. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her" Ephesiahs 5:25 Show her Jesus by the way you treat her! Ask Jesus each day how you can pray for her and how you can tangibly show her love (even if she does not return it!). Forgive her for her wrongs.

Let the Lord lead you about your new found faith. Let Him teach you and show you how to express His love to others, for certainly you cannot keep it to yourself. Ask Him for fellowship and communion with solid followers of Christ.

The wonderful thing about 'sowing love' is that it returns to you. You may not see it in a day, like sowing the seed of a great oak tree, but in time, you will see that the love you are sowing to others will return to you. God fills and refills us. As a new believer in Jesus, you no longer lack for any good thing! "Even strong young lions sometimes go hungry, but those who trust in the LORD will lack no good thing." Psalm 34:10

God bless you in the joyous journey of walking with Jesus!
AbideinVine


 
PrynceNY

PrynceNY

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Glad you have chosen to follow Christ. I encourage you to meditate on the scriptures. It is possible to have both your loved ones & Christ in your life. You are not required to choose either or. The Lord however expects us to put him above everyone else and he is deserving of it.I hope you continue to try to encourage your loved ones to have a relationship with the lord as well.
 
Desertsrose

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Hi Boatman,

Welcome to CC. And welcome to the family of God! We all share in your joy!!!

I'm so sorry that you're feeling lonely. Do you have fellowship with others believers?

Abide gave you some wise counsel. My bible study teacher's husband is not a believer. She lives her life with her husband as an example of the love of Christ to him in hopes that she will be used of the Lord to draw him to Jesus.

You mentioned your marriage can't go on like it is. I wanted to encourage you - I have a friend who married an unbeliever. It took a few years, but he finally came to the Lord.

I'll say a prayer now for you and your family; your marriage.
 
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workinprogress

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Boatman said:
Hi all

I am very new this this and I must apologize in advance if it does not make sense.

A year ago, I was introducer to the Lord and shorly after the Holy Spirit came to me. I tell you, I have never ever felt so loved as when that happend!

The thing is that I cannot explain to others (my family) is how wonderful it is the give your life to the Lord and try to follow Jesus in his amazing walk of joy and unconditional love.

So here I am, in a World of love of joy with the Lord and in a world (on earth) where I have never been so lonely. I know that my marriage cannot go on and, at some point, I have to choose to follow the Lord. What breaks my heart is that I cannot understand that I have to choose - there must be a way that you can enjoy love with the Lord and be able to share this with the person you wake up with every morning.

Am I the only one that have found so much love and end up being so lonely?

Again, I can only apologize and I know that it may not make sense. At least I did try to share my feelings with you guys :)

Lots of joy fra Carsten
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Can you explain why you need to choose? Usually when people see you have something good - soon they will be asking you what it is and if they can have it too ;) Live, and shine Jesus and they will want the same thing your having :)
 
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Ariel82

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Boatman said:
Hi all

I am very new this this and I must apologize in advance if it does not make sense.

A year ago, I was introducer to the Lord and shorly after the Holy Spirit came to me. I tell you, I have never ever felt so loved as when that happend!

The thing is that I cannot explain to others (my family) is how wonderful it is the give your life to the Lord and try to follow Jesus in his amazing walk of joy and unconditional love.

So here I am, in a World of love of joy with the Lord and in a world (on earth) where I have never been so lonely. I know that my marriage cannot go on and, at some point, I have to choose to follow the Lord. What breaks my heart is that I cannot understand that I have to choose - there must be a way that you can enjoy love with the Lord and be able to share this with the person you wake up with every morning.

Am I the only one that have found so much love and end up being so lonely?

Again, I can only apologize and I know that it may not make sense. At least I did try to share my feelings with you guys :)

Lots of joy fra Carsten
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The Bible says to stay married to an unbeliever, not get divorced.

You share your faith by allowing God to change your heart, attitude and responses to those around you...they see the change and realize that your faith isn't fake and shallow and God uses that to lead them to Him. For example, someone does something that would normally make you mad and explode with anger..,instead you forgive and give mercy and grace.

People watch Christians as we go through life to see if faith in God is really worth having.
 
tourist

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Why would you have to give up your wife to follow the Lord? I recommend that you and your wife share daily prayer and devotion and to put God in the center of your marriage. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
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NewWine

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When I first began to follow The Lord, I also felt lonely and isolated. It wasn't that my friends didn't want me around, it was that I was changing. God was isolating me internally, so I would rely on Him to fulfill me instead of relying on my husband and friends. I hadn't realized it yet but I was placing them above God, when it came to who truly fulfilled me, and God needed to show me to rely solely on Him, and through relying on God to fulfill me, I was better able to be the tool He needed to change those around me.

You don't need to leave your wife. The Bible states not to leave her in fact, but instead to be her light to Christ. You will be showing her God by loving her in the way God shows you.
Peace!!
 
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The key is persistance----we inherit God's promises through faith and patience (Hebrews 6:12)---- after serving God for 40 years I can tel! you He is faithful----a movie that impressed me concerning being persistant----going forward--- and seeing victory---LIVE. DIE. REPEAT. --- a war movie with Tom Cruise...
 
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AmmaBev

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The Lord is solidifying His relationship with you as His Beloved. This is normal when you first meet Him and so it feels rather estranged from people who aren't on the same page as you. I hope you are in a Bible study and have a good church fellowship, which your wife may not want to go to. She may on special occasions attend with you. Remember the big picture is that God called you to be saved and now He is calling you to serve Him. You do this where you are first, in your home as the Holy Spirit leads you. He changes hearts as you pray for eyes to be opened to spiritual things and hearts to turn towards Godly things.
God knows you were to respond first, so I am praying your wife will be next! AmmaBev
 
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