The human issue of sexual desires

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Blain

Blain

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Okay so we are all human, We have sexual desires. I am actually surprised at how many kind of sexual desires there are, Many not natural and before you jump to conclusions i am not talking about the gays so don't go there. The thing is sexual desires appear to be the hardest to resist, There are ways to help with controlling them such as hobbies But for my own testimony i wish i didn't have them at all. Call me crazy but really they just get in my way, They can turn an honest person into a sexual predator. Sure sexual desires come with being human and people get offended by them,With good reason because as i said many are not natural- those are the kinds you gotta watch out for. God understands these issues but i am sure he also would love for us to get a little self control over them. Honestly I came across a porno of a teenager one time because my idiot cousin was on a laptop I borrowed from my other cousin and was horrified. I just can't get myself to even think of a girl now. So what do we do about this issue? I mean it's never going to go away but we also have to be able to say no to our bodies urges somehow right? I was never really had issues with urges only because my body is still in kid form from cancer, But i know of the problem. I am not going to lie i have them but i refuse to allow it to get in my way of my search for god.( I won't i get in trouble for this thread will I?)
 
I say this which is in my siggy

"The true nature of a man is decided in the battle between his conscious mind and the desires of the subconscious. The evil my subconscious is too strong to resist and the only way to win is to deny it battle. "
 
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Yes we are humans with a natural sexual desire but God planned this beautiful act for marriage pure and simple.

I have just finished reading an awesome book about women's sexuality called 'Every Women's battle' By Shannon Ethridge which I found so inspiring around this area. It help me to see my sexuality from God's point of view.

Stephen Arterburn wrote 'Every man's battle' around the area of man's sexuality I believe it should be just as good a read as the women's version and really helpful in this area.

I also think that the flesh longs to be fulfilled so I reckon its best to deny it than entertain it cause its a huge can of worms once you take the lid off.
 
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I understand what you mean... I fight my hormones everyday and sometimes it just gets so tiring! I also wish I didn't have sexual urges... It really does seem to get in the way
 
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Well This is one of the ways the devil temps us into sin, but i guess if we were to look at it through god's view it's just a mountain to be climbed. And Since anything is possible with god i am going for it. I have not seen this anything is possible with god result in my own life but i believe it anyways.
 
I also forgot to mention i am cured of cancer now but my body is still recovering from the damage, sorry for being misleading. But please pray for my friend sheila, her story is in the prayer forums called need 10,000 prayers. She has two weeks to live according to the doctors but i know that with the power of prayer those doctors can be proven wrong
 
Blain said:
I also forgot to mention i am cured of cancer now but my body is still recovering from the damage, sorry for being misleading. But please pray for my friend sheila, her story is in the prayer forums called need 10,000 prayers. She has two weeks to live according to the doctors but i know that with the power of prayer those doctors can be proven wrong
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I will pray for your friend! I think sexual desire is normal to an extent, but acting on it is a different thing altogether. We are programmed to be attracted to others when finding a mate, but as humans we can have a deeper connection that extends beyond just the physical aspect. This is what makes us different from other animals. We have to ability to not just act on primal urges. It does say not to look at someone lustfully in the bible, so the line can be easily crossed.

I wouldn't beat yourself up too much for what happened. God is forgiving and you need to forgive yourself as well. I have dated non believers and hung out with other people who exposed me to things that were far from what God teaches. Pray about it. Whenever I think about anything I am not supposed to I force myself to think of something else. Staying busy helps a lot, as well as surrounding yourself with positive people. (I hope the message I am trying to convey makes sense.... I have had very little sleep!!!)
 
Esarin said:
I will pray for your friend! I think sexual desire is normal to an extent, but acting on it is a different thing altogether. We are programmed to be attracted to others when finding a mate, but as humans we can have a deeper connection that extends beyond just the physical aspect. This is what makes us different from other animals. We have to ability to not just act on primal urges. It does say not to look at someone lustfully in the bible, so the line can be easily crossed.

I wouldn't beat yourself up too much for what happened. God is forgiving and you need to forgive yourself as well. I have dated non believers and hung out with other people who exposed me to things that were far from what God teaches. Pray about it. Whenever I think about anything I am not supposed to I force myself to think of something else. Staying busy helps a lot, as well as surrounding yourself with positive people. (I hope the message I am trying to convey makes sense.... I have had very little sleep!!!)
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Hmm... you quoted his post on having cancer, and told him not to beat himself up? haha. Was that a sleep deprivation boo boo, or WoF poo poo?
 
ew. porno.

It's very gain very low self esteem when falling in this area, and a lot of it is actually birthed by low self esteem. One thing you would do good to remember is that there is absolutely nothing you can do that will keep you from the love of God. There is absolutely nothing you can do that will keep God from loving you. There is absolutely nothing you can do that will keep the shed blood of the lamb from forgiving you. Keep your eyes on Jesus, if you fail, repent, no matter how many times you have failed, and God will not keep his hand from you. Yes it is still a sin, and yes repeated behavior will put distance between you and God, but remember that's not God pushing you away, that's you choosing (yes it is a choice regardless of how difficult it is to repeat) to walk away, God's still standing there with his arms open. God says he will provide a way out, and he will, but a lot of times, you just need to say no, and pray your butt off.
 
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Hmm... you quoted his post on having cancer, and told him not to beat himself up? haha. Was that a sleep deprivation boo boo, or WoF poo poo?
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I think she was referring to his reaction to seeing porn on someone else's computer.
 
Sometimes we are tempted to watch porn online. sexual desires is human nature.
there will be challenging times when we fail and sin. Sometimes, I myself find it hard to avoid temptations.
When we don't entertain our thoughts and respond in action. soon we will move on. Lets keep ourself busy.

We can do this In Jesus Name!
 
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Hmm... you quoted his post on having cancer, and told him not to beat himself up? haha. Was that a sleep deprivation boo boo, or WoF poo poo?
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No no no! I was talking about the situation about what was on the laptop! :( Anyone who goes through cancer has to have a lot of strength. Yikes....
 
Hello my brother blain :) Good post !

I see such desires like a sleeping giant.. you go near the giant it will stir, you
Mess with the giant , it will wake up...
we then make a concious decision to feed this giant allowing it to grow , or you cut off the source of it's food and dwindle it back into a submissive state , bringing you back to being in control of it , less it be in control over you.. you
We all have this sleeping giant in us .. We either choose to feed it or dont .. In Christ we are made to be conquerers.. To slay giants and out scorpions under foot..
Keep strong in the Lord and all His might..
He has given us the authority to do so ...

I also agree with zoamans statement ..
 
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Blain said:
Well This is one of the ways the devil temps us into sin, but i guess if we were to look at it through god's view it's just a mountain to be climbed. And Since anything is possible with god i am going for it. I have not seen this anything is possible with god result in my own life but i believe it anyways.
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Nuns_n_roses said:
I understand what you mean... I fight my hormones everyday and sometimes it just gets so tiring! I also wish I didn't have sexual urges... It really does seem to get in the way
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Blessed are those who without seeing, believe?
 
I understand what you mean... I fight my hormones everyday and sometimes it just gets so tiring! I also wish I didn't have sexual urges... It really does seem to get in the way
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I can relate to that! The flesh is definitely at war with the spirit. Even though we wish were were asexual, asexuality is not God's will for us. If you're like me, Nuns_n_roses, you will probably remain unmarried for the rest of your days. It seems that this is the nature of the cross we are being asked to carry as we follow Jesus. Is it too much to ask of an ordinary man or woman? Is it unreasonable? Is it cruel?

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Theophane said:
I can relate to that! The flesh is definitely at war with the spirit. Even though we wish were were asexual, asexuality is not God's will for us. If you're like me, Nuns_n_roses, you will probably remain unmarried for the rest of your days. It seems that this is the nature of the cross we are being asked to carry as we follow Jesus. Is it too much to ask of an ordinary man or woman? Is it unreasonable? Is it cruel?

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If it is God's will let it be done. I have more than Jesus did in His lifetime. Was Jesus not single for all His days? but I am less valuable than Him, therefore with silent humility you and I will follow our unique and divine destinies, though it may not always be easy. :)
 
God invented sex, it's completely his creation!
It was his plan for us to come together in perfect union to create new life, for his glory!
It's such a beautiful thing!

Jesus may have been single but he was a man on a unique mission. I'm pretty sure He doesn't require us to be celibate.

Perhaps some people are called to live a single life but if you wanna marry go for it!
Don't accept any guilt or shame for simply being attracted and feeling desire for someone.

: )
 
benbenjaminjamin said:
God invented sex, it's completely his creation!
It was his plan for us to come together in perfect union to create new life, for his glory!
It's such a beautiful thing!

Jesus may have been single but he was a man on a unique mission. I'm pretty sure He doesn't require us to be celibate.

Perhaps some people are called to live a single life but if you wanna marry go for it!
Don't accept any guilt or shame for simply being attracted and feeling desire for someone.

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Just a guess here but I'm guessing you don't read the bible much.
 
God loves intimacy, and sex is His idea.
He loves us and he loves it when we love each other and he loves when man and woman are joined together as one.
God likes sex. Sex between man and wife is holy before God.
It is not wrong to desire marriage and sex is meant to be a pleasurable activity.
Let us not be perverted or promiscuous, but let us recognize the good things God has given us.

Great sex is totally biblical.

: )
 
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