Sometimes, it IS like that. In the very beginning, it's like that a lot.
Guys...marriage is HARD. It's wonderful. It's painful. It's beautiful. It's challenging. It's fun, and scary, and insane, and amazing and awful and you have to bare your very soul and trust that this person, this imperfect and fallible human being, is going to love you through it all.
What we see of other people's marriages is what they have made of it. Or maybe it's a bad day, or week, or even year; that happens. Sometimes the good days are interrupted by a couple of bad hours here and there, and sometimes the bad days are only bearable because you know, you KNOW, that eventually, the sun is going shine again.
My heart breaks for the couples who only experience storms. And unfortunately, that's mostly their own fault. It comes back to that whole "me, me, me" thing.