The right age for marriage?

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I've been with my current boyfriend for two years now (exactly one month ago today). We haven't been the make up/break up every week type and we've laid everything out. We struggled with some things early on, but we overcame them, and we're a better couple for it now. To be honest, our relationship is what I've always pictured as the 'perfect' relationship.
We don't have marriage plans as of yet, and I don't think we'd consider them any time soon...
However, I did overhear his sister and mother talking about some plan he apparently has for me on New Years Eve this year. I could be totally wrong and jumping to conclusions, but I wonder if he's thinking about proposing. (I've always talked about how cute it would be to propose at midnight.)

But I'm wondering if it does happen, should I say yes?
Are we too young?
Have we not been together long enough?

I've always thought you would just know if someone is right, and I do know that he is. But should I maybe give it more to time to play out and see how things go?Are we too young to be making decisions like that?

Btw, we're both 19, I'm about to be 20. Lol
 
I got engaged at 19. I was engaged like two years. So I was like 21 when we got married. Besides you have to plan a wedding and send invitations and stuff. That takes a little time. If you really want to get married just say yes, why not? I moved to a difference state with only one months rent and my car. We still made it.
 
I think you're ready to get married when you can actually carry a marriage. It sounds like an obvious statement, but it carries a lot of implications. It means that you can both live independently from parents, that you can both afford your own expenses, that you have the maturity to carry a family with kids if such thing happens, that you have lives and careers somehow settled or at least well planned and a bunch of other things. In my opinion it's not about age, it's about certainly meeting all the requirements you need to carry a successful marriage. For some people it might be at the age of 21, for others 67.
 
Totally agree with Henry.

Along those same lines, I think marriage is between a man and a woman. Not a boy and a girl.

If you feel like a WOMAN and he feels like a MAN, then go for it. But if you still have the mentality and lifestyle of children, then it's probably not time.
 
It just matters your maturity level and if you are able to support yourselves. Make sure you finish whatever schooling you plan to do before you get married. A career won't wake up one morning and tell you he doesn't love you anymore.
 
There is no 'right age'. There are 18 year olds mature enough and goal oriented enough to marry... and there are 40 year olds still not mature enough or ready for marriage. It comes down to the individuals. Though i do agree with others, make sure to finish schooling, etc and not abandon plans you previously had to 'fit' the marriage in. Better to slow down, take it easy and do it right than rush off and realize 5 years later you made a mistake.
 
amstrick said:
It just matters your maturity level and if you are able to support yourselves. Make sure you finish whatever schooling you plan to do before you get married. A career won't wake up one morning and tell you he doesn't love you anymore.
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Someone's never been laid off!
 
amstrick said:
That had nothing to do with the statement. Women need to be able to support themselve; that point of the statement.
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It had everything to do with the statement.

I get what you mean though about being able to support yourself. Men and women both should be able to take care of themselves before entering a marriage.
 
Henry_YZ said:
I think you're ready to get married when you can actually carry a marriage. It sounds like an obvious statement, but it carries a lot of implications. It means that you can both live independently from parents, that you can both afford your own expenses, that you have the maturity to carry a family with kids if such thing happens, that you have lives and careers somehow settled or at least well planned and a bunch of other things. In my opinion it's not about age, it's about certainly meeting all the requirements you need to carry a successful marriage. For some people it might be at the age of 21, for others 67.
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I agree with Henry on this.:) If you feel you are prepared for all the responsabilities, maybe you are.
By the way Henry, long time no see, I read a superman joke today :rolleyes:
 
As long as you're compos mentus, and you really understand and accept what 'till death us do part' means, then there's little stopping you, and certainly your age is no impediment.

Two years courting though? I'm surprised you're not already married.
 
Honey12 said:
I've been with my current boyfriend for two years now (exactly one month ago today). We haven't been the make up/break up every week type and we've laid everything out. We struggled with some things early on, but we overcame them, and we're a better couple for it now. To be honest, our relationship is what I've always pictured as the 'perfect' relationship.
We don't have marriage plans as of yet, and I don't think we'd consider them any time soon...
However, I did overhear his sister and mother talking about some plan he apparently has for me on New Years Eve this year. I could be totally wrong and jumping to conclusions, but I wonder if he's thinking about proposing. (I've always talked about how cute it would be to propose at midnight.)

But I'm wondering if it does happen, should I say yes?
Are we too young?
Have we not been together long enough?

I've always thought you would just know if someone is right, and I do know that he is. But should I maybe give it more to time to play out and see how things go?Are we too young to be making decisions like that?

Btw, we're both 19, I'm about to be 20. Lol
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A marriage proposal does not mean you have to get married the next day. If you believe that he is the one, and you feel that God wants you to accept, than by all means do. Just pray about the situation and listen to what God says.
 
Elizabeth619 said:
I am 30, and never married. I guess I cannot answer this topic.
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I fell to see how never having been married fails to mean you cannot answer. I've never been married, and yet I've had enough friends who have, to see which ones made it and which ones failed, and it was never because of age.
 
I agree with everyone else on this one .. it all boils down to the maturity. I am 30 and have been with what I thought was the love of my life for 7 years. We married back in December and in June around my birthday he texted me and told me he wasn't ready to be married. That was it..haven't seen him since. So make sure the maturity and foundation is there for a marriage. If it's not you will end up in this boat with me and let me tell you...the water isn't very calm right now. Do not rush into anything..and finishing what you want to do as a career is very important. Make sure you can always support YOU. Do not come to the point that you depend on someone else to care for you and the things you need in life. Look after you first and put yourself first!!!
 
I agree with everyone else too. I've dated the same guy going on three years the end of the month and have been engaged to him for a year of that and I'm 23 years old. As long as you feel ready for it and are able to support each other and remain loyal to the other, by all means go for it when the time comes.
 
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