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TemporaryCircumstances said:
I Think I found a therapist

I was also told that my mom is thought to be narcissistic, so due to that and just feelings like I'm either being treated unfair, or I'm not good enough lead me to have situational irony.
I was also told that my social anxiety is because of how crazy all my parent figures have been so it just leaves me not knowing what other people will do or how they will react towards me so I start thinking way too much and freak myself out.
And that when something is wrong with the kid it is usually result of something of the parent.


Anyway; basically what they said was that they never had success with a narcissistic person; they never listen because they don't know they are doing anything wrong therefore can't admit to it; so the only way to help me would be to help me cope, but that usually happens when people move out.
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You do have one thing to be thankful for.......... that you were never under my command with that pitiful, "It's all their fault", attitude. You are fully old enough to begin taking responsibility for your own actions.

My father kicked my mother out before I was even born... because he didn't want a child. And my mother slept with just about every man she ever met... because she wanted to feel wanted.

I chose, at about nine years of age, not to end up like either of them.
 
Can you get away and be alone for perhaps a weekend? I'm no therapist but it sounds like at least some of your problems are in your immediate environment. If you can, grab your Bible and a good devotional (I like My Utmost For His Highest, Chambers) and find a safe remote hotel, unplug the TV and meditate on the Lord; His power, love, and grace- that may take your mind off of the people in your life who are not helping you. Again, I'm a better prayer warrior than therapist but in my 58 years I've seen some things and had my share of issues. This has worked for me, even though others may think I'm running away from my problems. Some truth to that, but while I'm running away from my problems I am running into the arms of Jesus. Praying for you...
 
Willie-T said:
You do have one thing to be thankful for.......... that you were never under my command with that pitiful, "It's all their fault", attitude. You are fully old enough to begin taking responsibility for your own actions.

My father kicked my mother out before I was even born... because he didn't want a child. And my mother slept with just about every man she ever met... because she wanted to feel wanted.

I chose, at about nine years of age, not to end up like either of them.
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Yes I am old enough to take responsibility,
and I have and will continue to do so, I've already decided long ago I'm not going to end up like any of them.

But I mean, let's be fair here Willie I can not blame myself for ruining me and my mother's relationship. I can take responsibility to try and do something about it, or deal with it, which I have been doing

Taking blame and taking responsibility are two different things
 
Didymus said:
Can you get away and be alone for perhaps a weekend? I'm no therapist but it sounds like at least some of your problems are in your immediate environment. If you can, grab your Bible and a good devotional (I like My Utmost For His Highest, Chambers) and find a safe remote hotel, unplug the TV and meditate on the Lord; His power, love, and grace- that may take your mind off of the people in your life who are not helping you. Again, I'm a better prayer warrior than therapist but in my 58 years I've seen some things and had my share of issues. This has worked for me, even though others may think I'm running away from my problems. Some truth to that, but while I'm running away from my problems I am running into the arms of Jesus. Praying for you...
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Um no....
I am 14, I have school are volleyball and drill team not to mention parents would be ridiculous if they just let me run off like that
 
Willie-T said:
You do have one thing to be thankful for.......... that you were never under my command with that pitiful, "It's all their fault", attitude. You are fully old enough to begin taking responsibility for your own actions.

My father kicked my mother out before I was even born... because he didn't want a child. And my mother slept with just about every man she ever met... because she wanted to feel wanted.

I chose, at about nine years of age, not to end up like either of them.
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Yes I am old enough to take responsibility,
and I have and will continue to do so, I've already decided long ago I'm not going to end up like any of them.


But I mean, let's be fair here Willie I can not blame myself for ruining me and my mother's relationship. I can take responsibility to try and do something about it, or deal with it, which I have been doing, and I can admit that I am some of the problem that me and my mother don't have the best relationship. I know that, but again, I can't take ALL THE blame for that because it is not all my fault.


I can't take responsibility for her phone replacing me
I can't take responsibility for her lying to me every chance she gets about every little thing
I can't take responsibility for her never seeing that ANYTHING is her fault


I can take responsibility for my snappy attitude sometimes
I can take responsibility for arguing with her
I can take responsibility for not being patient enough, and ruining certain situations


Taking blame and taking responsibility are two different things

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Yes I am old enough to take responsibility,
and I have and will continue to do so, I've already decided long ago I'm not going to end up like any of them.


But I mean, let's be fair here Willie I can not blame myself for ruining me and my mother's relationship. I can take responsibility to try and do something about it, or deal with it, which I have been doing, and I can admit that I am some of the problem that me and my mother don't have the best relationship. I know that, but again, I can't take ALL THE blame for that because it is not all my fault.


I can't take responsibility for her phone replacing me
I can't take responsibility for her lying to me every chance she gets about every little thing
I can't take responsibility for her never seeing that ANYTHING is her fault


I can take responsibility for my snappy attitude sometimes
I can take responsibility for arguing with her
I can take responsibility for not being patient enough, and ruining certain situations


Taking blame and taking responsibility are two different things

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I just want to encourage you not to give up. For some people, childhood and youth-hood can be the roughest waters they will ever encounter. Young people sometimes seem to be Satan's favorite victims. I have heard many say that childhood was the best time of their lives. Not so with me. If I had the chance to go back, I would not. Sounds like Willie wasn't born in an ivory tower with a silver spoon in his mouth either. I am so glad that you came to CC. Being able to pray for you is such a great privilege and really gives me life meaning and a sense of purpose. May these troubles and tribulation turn to gold for you in the long run. It is a long run in some ways, but in other ways, this time we have on earth to help each other is of very limited duration. It is a window of precious opportunity to be there for one another. It will never happen again in all the endless eons of eternity.

So glad to be here with you, but even more glad that the Lord is here with us. He knows our frame. He will not give us more than we can bear. Let's just keep riding on down this road together.

(Jas 1:12 [KJV])
Blessed [is] the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.

God bless you.
 
TC, I'm so sorry- my bad. I had no idea you were that age. That really limits your options. I like what you wrote earlier about what you can and cannot take responsibility for - you are wise beyond your years my friend.
 
Didymus said:
TC, I'm so sorry- my bad. I had no idea you were that age. That really limits your options. I like what you wrote earlier about what you can and cannot take responsibility for - you are wise beyond your years my friend.
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It's all good! And thank you
 
TemporaryCircumstances said:
Yes I am old enough to take responsibility,
and I have and will continue to do so, I've already decided long ago I'm not going to end up like any of them.


But I mean, let's be fair here Willie I can not blame myself for ruining me and my mother's relationship. I can take responsibility to try and do something about it, or deal with it, which I have been doing, and I can admit that I am some of the problem that me and my mother don't have the best relationship. I know that, but again, I can't take ALL THE blame for that because it is not all my fault.


I can't take responsibility for her phone replacing me
I can't take responsibility for her lying to me every chance she gets about every little thing
I can't take responsibility for her never seeing that ANYTHING is her fault


I can take responsibility for my snappy attitude sometimes
I can take responsibility for arguing with her
I can take responsibility for not being patient enough, and ruining certain situations


Taking blame and taking responsibility are two different things

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Exodus 20:12 (It really does mean something.)
 
TemporaryCircumstances said:
Yes I am old enough to take responsibility,
and I have and will continue to do so, I've already decided long ago I'm not going to end up like any of them.


But I mean, let's be fair here Willie I can not blame myself for ruining me and my mother's relationship. I can take responsibility to try and do something about it, or deal with it, which I have been doing, and I can admit that I am some of the problem that me and my mother don't have the best relationship. I know that, but again, I can't take ALL THE blame for that because it is not all my fault.


I can't take responsibility for her phone replacing me
I can't take responsibility for her lying to me every chance she gets about every little thing
I can't take responsibility for her never seeing that ANYTHING is her fault


I can take responsibility for my snappy attitude sometimes
I can take responsibility for arguing with her
I can take responsibility for not being patient enough, and ruining certain situations


Taking blame and taking responsibility are two different things

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In my opinion in your case it's good to live with the conscious that you have done everything you could and if you haven't, you at least realized what you can do. I can never imagine how hard it is for you, but if someone doesn't want to be helped then just leave them alone and focus on your life (I take great inspiration from Scars by Papa Roach). Do the best you can do now so that in the future you can be free and successful. God Bless!!!
 
Try a hospital, no joke.
If you go to a children's hospital, you might get better care.

Lord, please help TC find a healthy counselor, one who will help the teenager.
Help it to be affordable, or long-term beneficial, or both!
Help the counselor to be sensitive to Your Spirit.
And help TC to be in agreement on the person's Christ-oriented advice.
Lord, also help the adviser to listen to/for what's bothering TC, etc.
In Jesus' name, amen.
 
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