Husband stopped in yesterday gave me bill money came over to hug me said i needed to stop bringing up the other women he calls his friend, when we are together that is all he wants, I said but you say you will still be seeing her against my wishes, he said yes to do work for her on her yard, after my Daughter and i found him in her bed passed out drunk, he still thinks i will put up with him doing side jobs for her, it will just start all over again, i can not get him to see how wrong this all is, it is not a normal friendship to drink with another women until you are so drunk you need to go to her bed and sleep it off before you can drive home "IF THAT IS WHAT REALLY HAPPENED" but that is his story and he is sticking to it. regardless it is not exceptiable to me, so i think i need to move on, all the prayers in the world will not turn his mind around, he has himself convinced he did nothing wrong. I am to much of a loyal, honest preson to put up with this all, it is killing me, I ask one more time for prayers to heal his hart and mind. I have been doing this for 2 weeks, but he keeps leaving because he does not want to talk about it.
time to give up
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Maybe he fills condemned by you and truly has not done anything with this other woman. I do not know, and I am not defending him
But I tell you truth just because something appears to be a certain way does not make it to be true
i met my wife today over 30 years ago. I met her and I had a grlfriend at the time. I went out all night on a saturday night and came back tothis boarding home where I had met my now wife today, and it was early morning Sunday I was tired and fell asleep on my todays wife's bed.
Well my girlfriend came over to this place as she was ready to watch the football game with everyone here at this boarding house. Now as she came in to this place she saw I was asleep on my wife's today bed.
Now she threw a fit when nothing happened and did not ask, Jealousy flew allover the place and I was appauled over this controlling Spirit of her and yes I broke up with her
Now to this day my wife has never been jealous ever and I have come home with lipstick on the side of my face. Now the first thing she said to me when she saw this was. You really must have made someone very happy today as she wiped it off and I was surprised that it was there. I did not know and yes I did do exactly that made that person happy and she gave me a Holy kiss on the side of my face.
Now I am elated over this and am free which is what keeps me by her side and give her respect and consideration
Now I do not know yuor husband and he could be a person that is only out for his self.
I quarantee let him be and time will tell you the truth make no mistake about it when one is not doing it right it will be revealed. So trust God in this and set your man free and if there is any love there for you he will repent if he is doing these things against you and Sister in time truth is always shown without a doubt.
Hope this to help because just the thought of this happening alone is controlling yuo to be controlling him
That is how emotions work Sister. Emotions know no right or wrong, they prdictably respond to whatever ones thoughts are.
Go to a scary movie and see this as truth because even though you know the movie is not real your emotions will predicatably respond to the movie as real
Praying for youj to see and be well in your walk with Christ
I have had women friends while in a relationship with one. The only way that works is my woman friend has to be a friend of my woman as well. But that requires my woman to be open to the friend, not jealous. Some of them ended up being better friends with my wife than with me.
But that doesn't sound like the situation here; this sounds like hubby is keeping a spare and no you should not accept it.
But that doesn't sound like the situation here; this sounds like hubby is keeping a spare and no you should not accept it.
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Hi Doe, i am terribly sorry you are going through this and will be praying for You and Your husband.
Please hang in there and keep praying so that God's will is revealed before you. I truly wish that it doesn't come down to a broken marriage, this is such a sad thing that keeps escalating by the day
God Bless you much good friend and we pray to God that he shows you the way!!
Please hang in there and keep praying so that God's will is revealed before you. I truly wish that it doesn't come down to a broken marriage, this is such a sad thing that keeps escalating by the day
God Bless you much good friend and we pray to God that he shows you the way!!
I agree with you about controlling, I did forgive him for what i saw, and belived his story however it is hard as he was in his underwear, he said it was hot and she was downstairs at the time he went up to sleep it off. All i asked is he not see this women anymore as to not put himself in the same situation,(she likes to drink with him) at first he said ok and i took him back, then a few days later he said he could not promise not to see her again as he does side jobs for her around her home. I said the money was not worth our marrige, but he would not listen this is when he said he was sick of hearing it and left again, I have backed off now it is up to the Lord and him.We have been togither 28 years married 24 he is my best friend and i he could always talk to me about anything before he met this women. I just need to take care of me and my Daughter right now. Thank you for your wisdom and It helps seeing it from a mans point of view, as I have tried to understand what he is thinking.God Bless You.
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JanGar
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I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. Even if your husband is innocent in this situation.....perception is reality. When I first got married my husband had a female friend that he kept in contact with. Not really a problem for me until it seemed he was talking to her more and more. I told him how I felt about it and after talking and talking....he decided not to speak with her any further. She did keep trying and so he had me get on email one day and tell her that I will be answering any emails from her. That stopped it. God can change your husband, however, out of respect for you and your relationship he should want to stop seeing this woman. She is obviously leading him in the wrong direction if he is going there and getting drunk. Things can happen...whether the intent is there or not. I will be praying for your family. God will show you the way. God Bless.
Itmight be time to move on and by this he might cometo his senses he will have to make a descicion you or the (Jezebel) that is offering flesh desire to thwart your marriage. I know demanding him not only causes more to and evewn if not demanding to he is still apparantly decieved by you know puberty whether he follows through with this or not is not on you it is on him and is his guilt not yours. Also I know ultimatum(s) are not well either, but I am nowafter hearing what is going on the foot needs to be set down, this is your life not just his life, So maybe you eed to sit down without condemnation, listen to him afte asking him what is it that he wants, because you got tolive in peace and by his continued action(s) you can't and youwant to respect his wants, but whatever they are there are consequences. By this you are letting him know where you stand wiothout condemnation and there are consequences to his action(s). The ball is thus inhis court to decide and thus you can react no more in madness over this in reality over this. Iy is what it is ask god for this Spirit of proverbs 15
A gentle answer turns away wrath
Proverbs 15:1A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Seek for God to give you what and how to say what needs to be said with confidence and such logic in reality that your opponent(s) are not able to reply, read Matthew 10 it is written to the disciples but I think what it states to them about trusting is extended to us
1 Peter 3:15But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,
Its not that he doesnt love you, he is currently possessed bewitched in another world,he is headed for the pits but be merciful to him as God is merciful to us. When he wakes up, I pray its before you make rash decisions his guilt will punish him, there are many crosses to bear,some light some heavy,some unbearable as Christ did for us. Men can become silly children expecialy in mid life or approaching. I pray for the Holy spirit to give you peace and for the other woman to leave the area