To be single or not is the question!??

[Michaelarc]

After 13 years alone a man looses hope in having another..Ya know? Now I was not raised a Christian. I'm a Christian guy that was from the school of hard knocks for the Lord to get my attention. And I'm a strong tattooed looking guy. See.me on the streets might think I would mug you. And that's the looks I get in Churches. My countenance has been rigid my whole life smiling hurts. No joke. But in all this time alone I think sometimes the Lord used this so I would really appreciate and be good to who like a guy like me. A sleeved out Christian girl is rare and where on earth is she!!!?? So I try to take joy in the Lord for my strength I heard Paul Washer say in a sermon when people say that when your down sometimes you want to hit them with a chair! I don't go to that extreme but it's hard to do. So one way or another I stay in the word psalms mostly and trudge. Please pray anyone who reads this lonely life style ends soon. My heart feels heavier year for year. Love to all my peeps
Michael

 

[Magenta]

Welcome!

 

[faithlife]

Hi Michaelarc, what's hopeful is there are many single Christian ladies who would love to be married too. Hang out here in the Single's Forum and get involved with the Threads. There has recently been a couple match-up here on CC so be patient. Start thanking God for your future mate as one of His promises is Mk 11:24 "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours"). It emphasizes faith, trust in God, and confidence in prayer. Welcome to CC and God bless you

 

[Gideon300]

After 13 years alone a man looses hope in having another..Ya know? Now I was not raised a Christian. I'm a Christian guy that was from the school of hard knocks for the Lord to get my attention. And I'm a strong tattooed looking guy. See.me on the streets might think I would mug you. And that's the looks I get in Churches. My countenance has been rigid my whole life smiling hurts. No joke. But in all this time alone I think sometimes the Lord used this so I would really appreciate and be good to who like a guy like me. A sleeved out Christian girl is rare and where on earth is she!!!?? So I try to take joy in the Lord for my strength I heard Paul Washer say in a sermon when people say that when your down sometimes you want to hit them with a chair! I don't go to that extreme but it's hard to do. So one way or another I stay in the word psalms mostly and trudge. Please pray anyone who reads this lonely life style ends soon. My heart feels heavier year for year. Love to all my peeps
Michael

I was married in my 30's and divorced after 9 years. Marriage can be hard too. I resigned myself to being single after a few shots at dating. That lasted about 25 years. I've been married getting on for four years. I'm nearly 75. I love being married. I was content being single also. One of the things that helps is some friends who know Jesus and can be a help to you.

I had friends who kept telling me I could find a wife easily. There are 4 billion women on the planet after all. It does not help! My advice is to keep asking God to cause you to be the kind of person that He wants you to be. The right kind of woman is drawn to that kind of man.

I also suggest that you check out Mark Gungor. He is a marriage/relationship counselor, knows what he's talking about and very entertaining. You can find him on youtube.

 

[Lanolin]

Be a good husband (you can train yourself to be one) and then you'll find a good wife.

Good husbands...know how to fix things. They pay their bills on time. They treat others kindly. They would do anything for their children. They keep others safe. They don't lose their tempers...

 

[cinder]

As a long term single you do kind of get used to it after a while, I think the most important thing regarding that is to not put the rest of your life on hold. Don't listen to the social voices that say but single people don't do that.

Community is also important to us singles so keep hunting around for a church and find smaller groups (security team, running sound board, men's bible study, etc) to connect with. After all if your first impression isn't the best you're going to have to keep showing up to make second and third impressions.

And remember no matter how hopeless or unlikely it seems God can still surprise you. And if he saved you, he can save a girl from a similar background (or a whole bunch of them, he likes saving people). In the meantime, he's promised to provide what you need, even if it's not everything you want right when you want it.

 

[Edith]

After 13 years alone a man looses hope in having another..Ya know? Now I was not raised a Christian. I'm a Christian guy that was from the school of hard knocks for the Lord to get my attention. And I'm a strong tattooed looking guy. See.me on the streets might think I would mug you. And that's the looks I get in Churches. My countenance has been rigid my whole life smiling hurts. No joke. But in all this time alone I think sometimes the Lord used this so I would really appreciate and be good to who like a guy like me. A sleeved out Christian girl is rare and where on earth is she!!!?? So I try to take joy in the Lord for my strength I heard Paul Washer say in a sermon when people say that when your down sometimes you want to hit them with a chair! I don't go to that extreme but it's hard to do. So one way or another I stay in the word psalms mostly and trudge. Please pray anyone who reads this lonely life style ends soon. My heart feels heavier year for year. Love to all my peeps
Michael

Hi Michael, welcome to CC, yeah it does feel heavier some days but most days we get too busy to notice single hood. After 10 years I have become used to. Some time like you with your tattoos I think it's my size. yet it just the will of God for me in Christ.
So the matter for me is how busy I am in the vine yard. I am one of those who contend that all are called in one way or another. if you can brother get busy in service to God forget tattoo and the eyes others and your worries just enjoy God. when it's time Bam! God will make everything beautiful.

 

[Michaelarc]

Thanks. I'm be patient

 

[Michaelarc]

After 13 years alone a man looses hope in having another..Ya know? Now I was not raised a Christian. I'm a Christian guy that was from the school of hard knocks for the Lord to get my attention. And I'm a strong tattooed looking guy. See.me on the streets might think I would mug you. And that's the looks I get in Churches. My countenance has been rigid my whole life smiling hurts. No joke. But in all this time alone I think sometimes the Lord used this so I would really appreciate and be good to who like a guy like me. A sleeved out Christian girl is rare and where on earth is she!!!?? So I try to take joy in the Lord for my strength I heard Paul Washer say in a sermon when people say that when your down sometimes you want to hit them with a chair! I don't go to that extreme but it's hard to do. So one way or another I stay in the word psalms mostly and trudge. Please pray anyone who reads this lonely life style ends soon. My heart feels heavier year for year. Love to all my peeps
Michael

I saw a reply and I'm too late I guess! Phone off for a while! Take care

 

[Michaelarc]

Hi Michaelarc, what's hopeful is there are many single Christian ladies who would love to be married too. Hang out here in the Single's Forum and get involved with the Threads. There has recently been a couple match-up here on CC so be patient. Start thanking God for your future mate as one of His promises is Mk 11:24 "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours"). It emphasizes faith, trust in God, and confidence in prayer. Welcome to CC and God bless you

Thanks!!! Blessings many!!!

 

[Michaelarc]

Hi Michaelarc, what's hopeful is there are many single Christian ladies who would love to be married too. Hang out here in the Single's Forum and get involved with the Threads. There has recently been a couple match-up here on CC so be patient. Start thanking God for your future mate as one of His promises is Mk 11:24 "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours"). It emphasizes faith, trust in God, and confidence in prayer. Welcome to CC and God bless you

Ever do anything on this website and get ganged up on? This place is my only reach to other Christians. I'm getting beat up. I just speak some stuff in my Bible that I know or how I interpret. Saved only 2 years. And I'm getting beat up by a lot of elders. You might not care . If I can't socialize with the body in some form it's not healthy. And being here is not feeling healthy now. I'm really trying to learn how to love. I've had a very self centered life for 47 years. I wish I could just get a physical beating from them cause wounds of the physical heal faster. Just had to talk to someone I knew that was kind. Peace out man.

 

[Snackersmom]

Ever do anything on this website and get ganged up on? This place is my only reach to other Christians. I'm getting beat up. I just speak some stuff in my Bible that I know or how I interpret. Saved only 2 years. And I'm getting beat up by a lot of elders. You might not care . If I can't socialize with the body in some form it's not healthy. And being here is not feeling healthy now. I'm really trying to learn how to love. I've had a very self centered life for 47 years. I wish I could just get a physical beating from them cause wounds of the physical heal faster. Just had to talk to someone I knew that was kind. Peace out man.

Hey @Michaelarc, I'm sorry you're having trouble. I would advise staying out of the Bible discussion forum, it's not really a good place to learn if you are a new Christian. Just post whatever you want to talk about here in Singles, we're a lot more chill and the discussions are more fun here. It's totally fine, just start a thread and as long as the moderators approve it you're good to go!

 

[Michaelarc]

Hey @Michaelarc, I'm sorry you're having trouble. I would advise staying out of the Bible discussion forum, it's not really a good place to learn if you are a new Christian. Just post whatever you want to talk about here in Singles, we're a lot more chill and the discussions are more fun here. It's totally fine, just start a thread and as long as the moderators approve it you're good to go!

K

 

[Lanolin]

Ever do anything on this website and get ganged up on? This place is my only reach to other Christians. I'm getting beat up. I just speak some stuff in my Bible that I know or how I interpret. Saved only 2 years. And I'm getting beat up by a lot of elders. You might not care . If I can't socialize with the body in some form it's not healthy. And being here is not feeling healthy now. I'm really trying to learn how to love. I've had a very self centered life for 47 years. I wish I could just get a physical beating from them cause wounds of the physical heal faster. Just had to talk to someone I knew that was kind. Peace out man.

?? Who's ganging up on you?
I'm younger than you so def not an elder.
You can report them if you feel like you being bullied. Just button on your left below whoever is posting rubbish. Sometimes I ignore people who are affecting my mental health.
I looked at some of my old threads and some of the things others were saying about me (because I ignored them) were horrible. I can't do much about that now cos some of them have been banned so yea. But they were not kind, and I am like I am not from the US! I have been but of course it's a huge country but why does a huge rich country have to bully the smaller poorer ones?

I want peace too! Jesus had compassion on the least of these. If its in BDF you probably need to expect it, it's called Bible Bashing in my country.
Shalom

 

[Michaelarc]

?? Who's ganging up on you?
I'm younger than you so def not an elder.
You can report them if you feel like you being bullied. Just button on your left below whoever is posting rubbish. Sometimes I ignore people who are affecting my mental health.
I looked at some of my old threads and some of the things others were saying about me (because I ignored them) were horrible. I can't do much about that now cos some of them have been banned so yea. But they were not kind, and I am like I am not from the US! I have been but of course it's a huge country but why does a huge rich country have to bully the smaller poorer ones?

I want peace too! Jesus had compassion on the least of these. If its in BDF you probably need to expect it, it's called Bible Bashing in my country.
Shalom

K I was informed avoid Bible discussion. Thanks

 

[Michaelarc]

K I was informed avoid Bible discussion. Thanks

I'm bi polar. It's controllable but too.much is too much. I just have to know when to exit stage left. Thanks

 

[faithlife]

Ever do anything on this website and get ganged up on? This place is my only reach to other Christians. I'm getting beat up. I just speak some stuff in my Bible that I know or how I interpret. Saved only 2 years. And I'm getting beat up by a lot of elders. You might not care . If I can't socialize with the body in some form it's not healthy. And being here is not feeling healthy now. I'm really trying to learn how to love. I've had a very self centered life for 47 years. I wish I could just get a physical beating from them cause wounds of the physical heal faster. Just had to talk to someone I knew that was kind. Peace out man.

Around here there are some that can sound self-righteous and that's just the way they are, not mature Christians. I know the majority of members here are kind and I've known them for years. As in any discussion, don't take anything personal, they don't know you. Of course it's not right to be harsh with fellow believers but none of us are perfect and some think belittling others makes them superior, which in reality, is just the opposite. You have an option to avoid them or put them on ignore, at least for a while.
If you look at some of the Threads, esp in the BDF, you'll find quite a few squabbles going on between members, so trust me, it's not just you. I got flooded with jabs when I first signed on bc I mentioned something about Socialism, like SSA That was over 7 yrs ago and I survived. Hang around and avoid caustic ones, that's what I do. God bless you and btw I'm a her. Ik it's hard to tell by some of our titles

 

[Michaelarc]

Around here there are some that can sound self-righteous and that's just the way they are, not mature Christians. I know the majority of members here are kind and I've known them for years. As in any discussion, don't take anything personal, they don't know you. Of course it's not right to be harsh with fellow believers but none of us are perfect and some think belittling others makes them superior, which in reality, is just the opposite. You have an option to avoid them or put them on ignore, at least for a while.
If you look at some of the Threads, esp in the BDF, you'll find quite a few squabbles going on between members, so trust me, it's not just you. I got flooded with jabs when I first signed on bc I mentioned something about Socialism, like SSA That was over 7 yrs ago and I survived. Hang around and avoid caustic ones, that's what I do. God bless you and btw I'm a her Ik it's hard to tell by some of our titles.

Thanks! A name like that I thought a female. That's cool. soulsearch is kind too. Y'all women don't worry. I'm shy to women kinda til I know them a little and celibate for 13 years so ya kinda seem alien to me. I will be a gentleman. I'm so rusty but friendly. Take care.

 

[Michaelarc]

Thanks! A name like that I thought a female. That's cool. soulsearch is kind too. Y'all women don't worry. I'm shy to women kinda til I know them a little and celibate for 13 years so ya kinda seem alien to me. I will be a gentleman. I'm so rusty but friendly. Take care.

Hope ya don't think bad of me. I'm in a Christian group home. Getting my life back together. All men. Just want friends and a oppose gender is good. I have one in a row 350 miles away but since I was a client and she works there my sister can't talk to me for 2 years. A real Jesus loving lady
So I will always be respectful to the girls here. I'm not chasing anyone. I lost my self care cause of 3 different websites, Christian dff, salt, Christian Filipino. 47000 dollars and did not care what happened to me anymore so no I'm not looking for no one and no sympathy needed. I trusted the wrong people too much. I'm paying the debts off in this place. 3 wedding rings, sold a car for 1500 to pay a loan and draw another for one of them. Have a car audio 4000 for only 5 hundred,gifts like furniture for there arrivals. Clothing and $ I sent plus the loans all of this sum. So ya not just saying friend only? Just don't want no one to here to think I'm chasing girls. Just enjoy some chat. Have a good night.

 

[faithlife]

Hope ya don't think bad of me. I'm in a Christian group home. Getting my life back together. All men. Just want friends and a oppose gender is good. I have one in a row 350 miles away but since I was a client and she works there my sister can't talk to me for 2 years. A real Jesus loving lady
So I will always be respectful to the girls here. I'm not chasing anyone. I lost my self care cause of 3 different websites, Christian dff, salt, Christian Filipino. 47000 dollars and did not care what happened to me anymore so no I'm not looking for no one and no sympathy needed. I trusted the wrong people too much. I'm paying the debts off in this place. 3 wedding rings, sold a car for 1500 to pay a loan and draw another for one of them. Have a car audio 4000 for only 5 hundred,gifts like furniture for there arrivals. Clothing and $ I sent plus the loans all of this sum. So ya not just saying friend only? Just don't want no one to here to think I'm chasing girls. Just enjoy some chat. Have a good night.

You're fine, keep chatting and mingling, relax and enjoy the fellowship CC offers. You have a good night as well!