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Relena7
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By being thankful for what you already have, you focus less on what you (or they) don't have.
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zaoman32
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I think it also helps to realize that everyone is human, we all make mistakes, and we're never going to be flawless
Love this opinion from Relena though too.
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GreenNnice
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This is the definition of what I think leads to a long, happy marriage.
The word is simple, Paul uses it in Philippians 4:12. Can you guess which word
" I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need."
Actually, the word I'm thinking of is not in this KJV translation.
Hint: Maybe you better go online or to your bible that is not KJV and in there you will, I assure you find the right content in that verse
I suppose I'm kind of like this too...but I try to live up to the same standards, for the most part, that I hold for anyone I would date as well. Which is why I got from this post. lol Though, I don't know of any that are unrealistic. :/
As long as he can come along side me to fight off zombies during the zombie apocalypse, we'll be good.
Zombies? Where? I've got em covered!
Hmm thanks Relena. I think you are probably right. I've tried to make myself fall for someone before though and it was a complete disaster. People certainly aren't perfect but I'm not exactly looking for perfect, there are some faults that I would be completely content with, some personality things though. Hmmm.
I feel once married it is a completely different story, you have no choice, which is a good thing.
Till then, hmm, thankful for what you have, very wise I think.
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oracle2world
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As the saying goes, "Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not."
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nw2u
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This cliche is what I was thinking.
Women not liking me for who I am and not being honest with themselves or me about it.
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Chrissy77
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They actually think that women shouldn't talk so much.
I mean seriously what kind of world do we live in that
a man thinks we women don't talk. That would be some
warped universe.
I mean seriously what kind of world do we live in that
a man thinks we women don't talk. That would be some
warped universe.
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Tandemtruths
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Identified Expectation I have for others: That they are as skilled as I am, or better in at least a majority of tasks I would be called to do on a daily basis. They better know what they're doing, or get the heck outta my way. You either are a peer, or you get to jump off a pier. GET IT? GOT IT? GOOD
Expectations of myself (from others): That I be interested in everything they're interested in. I can't tell you how tedious it is to act like you really give a hoot.
Other Expectation: That I was born yesterday. Yes, some guys are really quite clever. We can see the man behind the curtain, as it were.
Expectations of myself (from others): That I be interested in everything they're interested in. I can't tell you how tedious it is to act like you really give a hoot.
Other Expectation: That I was born yesterday. Yes, some guys are really quite clever. We can see the man behind the curtain, as it were.
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Jullianna
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Everything is seeming pretty unreal to me right now, particularly expectations...my own and those of others as well.
I've been a dancer since the age of six, but I've learned some new ones the past couple of years.
- There's the dance that will take you too close to the fire, and if you resist, you can be left alone on the floor...which is still better than being in the fire.
- There's the dance where he takes a step toward you, but for every one you take, he steps back two, then begins again. This one is the most difficult to understand.
- There's the dance you expected to be tango, but it seemed like something happened to the fire, so you stepped off the floor, only to learn that the fire was there all along.
- And then there's the dance where he takes your hand and leads you to the floor, matching you step for step. You think this is a dance you should finish or at least stay for the whole song, but at this point you're not sure you recognize the music.
I've been a dancer since the age of six, but I've learned some new ones the past couple of years.
- There's the dance that will take you too close to the fire, and if you resist, you can be left alone on the floor...which is still better than being in the fire.
- There's the dance where he takes a step toward you, but for every one you take, he steps back two, then begins again. This one is the most difficult to understand.
- There's the dance you expected to be tango, but it seemed like something happened to the fire, so you stepped off the floor, only to learn that the fire was there all along.
- And then there's the dance where he takes your hand and leads you to the floor, matching you step for step. You think this is a dance you should finish or at least stay for the whole song, but at this point you're not sure you recognize the music.
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valerie
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a man should not expect me to love him more than i love GOD. should not expect all my time be given to him. and..
never expect super-lady-like clothes on me.
never expect super-lady-like clothes on me.
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arwen7
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Ugly
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Women communicating in 'signals and hints' rather than saying what they feel.
My first online interaction ended up being semi-romantic. We developed feelings for each other, and on and off over the years we talked about getting involved. One time we got together in person, we went for a walk at night, a moonlit sky, we sat on some swings chatting. It was an amazing time, and i so wanted to kiss her, but being a bit shy, and not in the habit of kissing women i'm not already dating i didn't. A few days later on the phone, we were discussing the walk, i admit to her i had wanted to kiss her, she says 'i was using my eyes to tell you to kiss me'. *blink blink. I"m sorry. Whats that? I'm supposed to interpret 'eye talk' now? Things did not work out with her in the long run.
My first online interaction ended up being semi-romantic. We developed feelings for each other, and on and off over the years we talked about getting involved. One time we got together in person, we went for a walk at night, a moonlit sky, we sat on some swings chatting. It was an amazing time, and i so wanted to kiss her, but being a bit shy, and not in the habit of kissing women i'm not already dating i didn't. A few days later on the phone, we were discussing the walk, i admit to her i had wanted to kiss her, she says 'i was using my eyes to tell you to kiss me'. *blink blink. I"m sorry. Whats that? I'm supposed to interpret 'eye talk' now? Things did not work out with her in the long run.
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MrsMusic8810
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Well..right now the only unrealistic expectation I can think of is this guy i love (and who has confessed he loves me as well). Problem is he also loves another girl...what ticked me off was how he acts like I should be understanding and not feel offended or hurt when he says "I want her back. I want her to be my girl again." ..So what I'm nothing? .... :/
I think there are quite a few.
-Getting gussied up every time I see you. Sometimes I don't feel like spending two hours to get myself put together. I just want to roll out of bed, throw my hair up in a wad on the top of my head, put on a baggy pair of sweats and be done with it. That's basically what you guys do anyway! I'd love to see a straight guy put on make up, straighten their hair, pluck their eyebrows, shave their legs and armpits, and wear uncomfortable clothing for the sake of fashion everyday.
- Cooking for you. If you want something to eat, make it yourself. I don't come to your house and expect you to cook when I'm hungry. I'm perfectly able to get it myself.
-Calling and texting. I do not want to message you every moment of the day. Unlike some people, I don't walk around with my phone attached to my hand. Sometimes I just want to be alone. What's so wrong with that?
-Getting jealous of my guy friends. Get over it. It makes you look insecure. I'm with you for a reason, and not with them for that same reason. There's no romantic interest there. I just relate to them better. I don't care when you hang out with your friends that are girls, so lay off it, okay?
Geez.
-Getting gussied up every time I see you. Sometimes I don't feel like spending two hours to get myself put together. I just want to roll out of bed, throw my hair up in a wad on the top of my head, put on a baggy pair of sweats and be done with it. That's basically what you guys do anyway! I'd love to see a straight guy put on make up, straighten their hair, pluck their eyebrows, shave their legs and armpits, and wear uncomfortable clothing for the sake of fashion everyday.
- Cooking for you. If you want something to eat, make it yourself. I don't come to your house and expect you to cook when I'm hungry. I'm perfectly able to get it myself.
-Calling and texting. I do not want to message you every moment of the day. Unlike some people, I don't walk around with my phone attached to my hand. Sometimes I just want to be alone. What's so wrong with that?
-Getting jealous of my guy friends. Get over it. It makes you look insecure. I'm with you for a reason, and not with them for that same reason. There's no romantic interest there. I just relate to them better. I don't care when you hang out with your friends that are girls, so lay off it, okay?
Geez.
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Ugly
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I have seen guys like that actually. I've heard of guys that do exactly what you said. 2 hours of plucking, makeup, shaving, washing, moisturizing, hair and dressing fancy. Course a big part of why you don't see many men do that is because even if the guy is straight, they are usually so effeminate everyone thinks they gay, no matter how much they deny it.
Men wearing makeup can go the other way.
Boris Karloff, when he was in makeup for the 1931 movie 'frankenstein', had to wear
a hood and gloves when he walked around universal studios because he actually cause a woman to faint
once while he was in full makeup!
This is the way I feel when I notice a man too gussied up,.......squeamish.
Boris Karloff, when he was in makeup for the 1931 movie 'frankenstein', had to wear
a hood and gloves when he walked around universal studios because he actually cause a woman to faint
once while he was in full makeup!
This is the way I feel when I notice a man too gussied up,.......squeamish.
Expecting me to be a mind reader. And then getting mad at me when I'm not. Communication is critical. Don't give me hints, if you're gonna get mad if I don't crack your code.
Interrupting me when I'm obviously doing something else. I get easily side tracked, so if it looks like I'm not paying attention I'm probably not. I had a friend over here the other day to carpool to church and she was chatting my ears off while I was working on tasks necessary to be completed before church.
Her thought process? I should be a smashing host when she's here and put away my work. My thought process? I've got things that need to be done and you came over early.
Don't assume I'll pay for your meal, at least reach for your pocketbook/purse and let me say, don't worry about it I got it.
Interrupting me when I'm obviously doing something else. I get easily side tracked, so if it looks like I'm not paying attention I'm probably not. I had a friend over here the other day to carpool to church and she was chatting my ears off while I was working on tasks necessary to be completed before church.
Her thought process? I should be a smashing host when she's here and put away my work. My thought process? I've got things that need to be done and you came over early.
Don't assume I'll pay for your meal, at least reach for your pocketbook/purse and let me say, don't worry about it I got it.