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calvina
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is this important to a man.im asking these cos im often asked if im still virgin.i lost my virginity when i was 24 with my first b.f thought that he is my right one...
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DABEARS85
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I can't answer for all men, but I can for myself if that helps. I am not a virgin, and I think a large majority of the world isn't either. It's a great thing to be able to keep, but it just isn't really a common thing nowadays. Would we love a virgin? sure... but do we expect one? not at all
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calvina
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It really depends on where the guy is on a social level, socially it's very weird these days for people to keep their virginity for overly long times.
That differs from country to country as well where social expectations can differ but over in Australia I waited until I was 23 before I lost mine (again thought she could be the one). A big difference I think between the social side of things is between christian and non-christian (and that includes other religions, for instance Muslims might EXPECT the girl they marry to be a virgin especially if it was an arranged marriage).
I was a non-christian who made a choice to wait so the idea of marriage meant less to me than just a piece of paper recognizing to my state that I was committing to a serious relationship so the thought didn't cross my mind on any serious level, but it was more about how I felt for the girls I met along the way and none of them I felt loved me enough
For christians I think it matters a bit more because it kind of ties into the idea that there is some one out there for all of us and that when we meet that person we will know and hopefully then we can give our all to them, the virginity side just means that the person who is a virgin did wait.
Another aspect of it might be that they want to know where they stand (whether they are a virgin or not) and what that would mean if they in turn slept with you. One is the aspect of love and the other is the aspect about sex.
I very personally don't believe it matters one bit whether a person is a virgin and that isn't because I am not one myself anymore but rather because the person I was before I lost it was very set on finding some one he loved enough and the person after having sex is just as determined to find a person he loves. Lust should have nothing to do with love.
Likewise if the person I find in life is a virgin or not won't change one bit the way I feel about them so it simply doesn't matter to me
So in perspective if a person is asking you whether or not you are a virgin as them why they're asking before you give them the answer, make sure you let them know you're going to tell them but it's a curiosity of yours why they're interested in knowing
Just thinking about it again it's a really judgmental question to ask a person, what I mean is even if they say they are curious to know it means that the status of a persons virginity obviously plays a part in the way they see some one!
Over here I was the odd one for being 23, should have seen the weird looks I got lol
Hope it's given you some insight ^_^
That differs from country to country as well where social expectations can differ but over in Australia I waited until I was 23 before I lost mine (again thought she could be the one). A big difference I think between the social side of things is between christian and non-christian (and that includes other religions, for instance Muslims might EXPECT the girl they marry to be a virgin especially if it was an arranged marriage).
I was a non-christian who made a choice to wait so the idea of marriage meant less to me than just a piece of paper recognizing to my state that I was committing to a serious relationship so the thought didn't cross my mind on any serious level, but it was more about how I felt for the girls I met along the way and none of them I felt loved me enough
For christians I think it matters a bit more because it kind of ties into the idea that there is some one out there for all of us and that when we meet that person we will know and hopefully then we can give our all to them, the virginity side just means that the person who is a virgin did wait.
Another aspect of it might be that they want to know where they stand (whether they are a virgin or not) and what that would mean if they in turn slept with you. One is the aspect of love and the other is the aspect about sex.
I very personally don't believe it matters one bit whether a person is a virgin and that isn't because I am not one myself anymore but rather because the person I was before I lost it was very set on finding some one he loved enough and the person after having sex is just as determined to find a person he loves. Lust should have nothing to do with love.
Likewise if the person I find in life is a virgin or not won't change one bit the way I feel about them so it simply doesn't matter to me
So in perspective if a person is asking you whether or not you are a virgin as them why they're asking before you give them the answer, make sure you let them know you're going to tell them but it's a curiosity of yours why they're interested in knowing
Just thinking about it again it's a really judgmental question to ask a person, what I mean is even if they say they are curious to know it means that the status of a persons virginity obviously plays a part in the way they see some one!
Over here I was the odd one for being 23, should have seen the weird looks I got lol
Hope it's given you some insight ^_^
To most men it is not important. At least thats how it is here in America. In America, it is rare to find a girl (or a guy) in their twenties who is still a virgin. And when I say virgin I am talking about the act of fornication, and not just other lesser acts that others people consider as losing virginity.
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When there is deep true love it probably will not be an issue. It may hurt the other person but they will overcome. Also if they ask you must be completely honest, if you must lie to someone to keep them then there is no love there.
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calvina
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if you want a virgin, i guess you're looking for a 20+ year old who was raised christian (of these the rate of virgin to non-virgin is about 50/50, unfortunately), or a non-christian who lived in the 18th centuary or prior. Perhaps you can find a very rare christian who did not lose their virginity whilst being a non-christian, either due to unattractiveness or poor dental hygiene. Either way, I personally would like to marry a virgin. It's important to keep my genetic line pure. But I might reconsider if the person is really nice, and didnt make the mistake too often. I just could never marry a non-virgin who had a fling with a group of bikies after a late night out on the town. If you're one of the lucky ones to still be a virgin, praise God for your poor social skills or unattractive personality or appearance. It's worth it in the long run. I would rather an unattractive virgin than attractive non-virgin. The thing with facial hair on women is there are products available now to make sure it doesn't grow back after shaving. You can get all sorts of cosmetic surgury these days if needed, including that cream stuff that stretches your face out, so it's not a biggy.
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Well just because someone is still a virgin doesn't mean they have poor social skills, an unattractive personality or appearance. Perhaps they'd rather wait until marriage because they choose to not because they don't have a choice.
For me (although I'm a female) I'd rather my husband be a virgin than not.
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sportygirl
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Well I am still a Virgin a fact most people would probably not believe in this culture. When it comes to whether the guy I eventually marry is a virgin or not, honestly I know people make mistakes and honestly its a deceisison if my ex had considered it I may have made the same choice thinking he was the one, its hard to say now. I think more than their virginity for me it would b e what they thought about sex, if they had slept with every single girlt ehy had had dated prior to me that would be a deal breaker...but if it was one or even two in the past, it wouldnt be if our relationship itself was good.
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calvina
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Yeah you're right. Hey being poor or living at home with mother is another two reasons I just thought of.
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jimmydiggs
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I'm a virgin. I am proud to say I am. I know that is a very uncommon thing for a male to say.
I am waiting until marriage. I very much would prefer she be a virgin.
My views on virginity might differ from others.
I think that for one, waiting until marriage for sex is a sign of, Responsibility, Future Commitment, a bit of Health-Consciousness, and other minor reasons I can't think of at the moment.
For a male to be a virgin, is generally looked down upon in society. To see that there are some pink names here stating that they to, are virgins, gives me a sense of pride.
I am waiting until marriage. I very much would prefer she be a virgin.
My views on virginity might differ from others.
I think that for one, waiting until marriage for sex is a sign of, Responsibility, Future Commitment, a bit of Health-Consciousness, and other minor reasons I can't think of at the moment.
For a male to be a virgin, is generally looked down upon in society. To see that there are some pink names here stating that they to, are virgins, gives me a sense of pride.
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calvina
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true christians will never look down to a virgin male,rather they will be delighted.keep up the Faith!