Thank you so much for your honest, thoughtful response. Also, your English is just fine! Just to clarify, our son was the one who stopped talking to us after the fight. He was trying to figure out how to talk to us about not being Christian and becoming "bi". From our standpoint the silent treatment wasn't going to be tolerated very long, but from a neutral standpoint it's understandable why he needed that time. My husband said he was going to force the conversation if the silent treatment went on longer than a week. When our son finally said he wanted to talk to me and brought it all out to light, he expected me to kick him out of the house. I actually didn't respond with much right away. All I told him was that I needed some time to think through everything he just said and that I wasn't going to kick him out of the house. It did take me a couple days to emotionally calm down, but he understood I was going to discuss it with him again.
My husband and I have discussed both sons' circumstances with each other many times over, he's reached his limit. I can't get into what he does for work, but a big reason he no longer has the mental capacity to talk about it is because the stress levels at work are extreme where every day is a crisis. His words "I'm not allowed to be human." Since we're pretty much at an impasse with it all, we've concluded that only prayer is what can be done right now. Our elder son has seen a therapist in the past and he told me it was a waste of time. At this time he's OK. He's staying busy with work and trade school and is doing really well. If he gets through the rest of school and passes his certification exams, he'll e starting is career mid next year or early the following year. It's a positive thing that's kept him from devolving. I've offered our youngest to see a counselor when he was showing signs of depression but he sees no value in it. He's been doing positive activities apart from gaming, so at least he's not on the computer all day every day. Once college starts back up that should keep him busy on a full-time basis.
You're right, the teen years are very tough to navigate. So many changes are being thrown at them all at once. That's why we're giving them both time to mature. That said, I'm not so sure the unnatural sins are just a phase. Time will tell and may God miraculously show up in their lives to turn their hearts to Christ. That is my hope and prayer.
