God's original design for marriage is arranged. Adam didn't ask for a wife, it was God who determined that it wasn't good for him to be alone; it was God who made an Eve out of his own body; it was God who joined them together.No. I just got done watching it - was a nail biter. You’ve already heard my points but you’re more interested in winning an argument than anything else. Either way, here’s what I see going on today.
God made the woman as a helpmate to the man. And before the fall, they were perfectly in sync. There’s a lot we don’t understand about life before the fall, but we can expound on what we know after the fall. God gave one curse to the man - toil sweat in work; three curses to the woman - pain in childbirth, control your husband, he shall rule over you.
Now, fast forward to today and how these curses have played out, in regard to the current state of sexual immorality. First some time, most men have had easy access to sexual immorality on their phones and many have further engaged in it. This has warped everything about sex in marriage and has given the enemy a foothold - men consumed with sexual desire, women consumed with “he only wants me for sex” and have used sex as a form of control - divorces, sexless marriages, overall sexual immorality.
From this, help groups have emerged, and there is a new focus on “coming out” of sexual immorality. With these groups there is much insight on repairing the damage that the man has done to the woman, as well as the woman’s current view of her place in the relationship. There have been some key books that have encouraged women to cast off sex and “duty” until their environment is ideal and safe. While in a temporary sense this is fine, but it has resulted in women entering a newfound life path and empowerment from a non sex marriage.
This new idea for women to no longer have to “perform” for their husbands, and not have the husband “rule over them” is very tempting and playing out in today’s couples. In my opinion this is a grasp from the enemy on couples where the man is in the process of coming out of sexual immorality. I also feel this could be what Daniel was talking about “…in those days, some of the most gifted in God will stumble and fall, but these trials will only purify them to greater holiness.”
There’s a lot there, but I’m sure you guys will unpack it for 100+ pages.
These don't exist any more. If you have an authority who makes an edict for you to marry, who pairs you up with a mate, and brings this mate to you, you can call that a godly marriage. I didn't make any of these up, it's all in Gen. 2, right?
But how does it work in reality, since the 20th century? YOU feel not good being alone; YOU seeks out a mate to your own liking; YOU bring yourself to them. And you call that godly marriage, even though every step of the way is the direct opposite of God's original design.