I am glad that you have been in church 35 years. I have been in church about the same length of time. I can see it is difficult for you to understand my answer. Maybe you are wanting me to answer in a certain way so you can attack? Are we to be obedient the answer is yes, that is all through the Bible. For what purpose are we to be obedient? Because we love God. It is even mentioned in the ten commandments in Exodus. Anything other than being obedient out of love is wrong. Israel tried to be obedient in their own strength and failed every time.
I believe there are two ways one can view Jesus teachings. Either we try and obey each and every literal command of Christ(something as I previously said I have never met any Christian who has tried to do that) Or we can view Jesus teaching as being summed up by ''Love God and love thy neighbour'' I have wondered if that is why Paul wrote. ''Carry each others burdens and so fulfil the law of Christ Gal 6:2