Grace and peace to all.... I see no one here having a pity party merely speaking on an observation. I can only speak of my personal experience and what I have witnessed here. I have been in the room for several days. I have watched people come in and TRY to fellowship, TRY to engage or join in a conversation or ask questions only to be ignored and people continue to talk around them. It's not about ATTENTION it is about fellowship. I believe this is why some just resort to pming without asking.
People sought out a CHRISTIAN chat for a reason. We never know how a person is feeling when they click on that chat now button. A smile or a kind word can turn someones day around, you never know what is on their mind.
No one is trying to tear anyone down....what I see here is a suggestion on being more gracious to newcomers. Since it's more than one newcomer saying that they feel out of place or unwelcomed or the room seems clique(ish) why not extend and olive branch to them? I know the room is so busy and all, surely that isn't to much to ask.
I mean we are to lift up one another up right? If more than one newbie is saying it could there possibly be a ring of truth to it somewhere?
No life does not revolve around any of us. We ALL should watch what comes out of our mouths. Surely we all have opinions and suggestions newcomers or not. I guess it's all in how it is voiced.
Hebrews 13:2
Forget not to show love unto strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
Colossians 4:6
Let the words you speak always be full of grace. Season them with salt. Then you will know how to answer everyone.
2 Timothy @:24-25
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth.....
As I've said maybe instead of automatically popping in the lounge there could be a list for the user to choose which room they would like to join.