We're all different

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Its also a pain when everyone asks you, even in church, what your do for a living because they are trying to suss out how much you earn, so that they can calculate how much tithe they can expect from you.

At first I didn't know why I kept being asked this...but then I figured it out. :( 🤷‍♀️
 
Its also a pain when everyone asks you, even in church, what your do for a living because they are trying to suss out how much you earn, so that they can calculate how much tithe they can expect from you.

At first I didn't know why I kept being asked this...but then I figured it out. :( 🤷‍♀️
I don't know what kind of church you go to, but mine is the opposite.

Our pastor even said he intentionally does not ever look at who gives what in tithes. He doesn't want that information to affect how he prays for somebody.
 
Some churches just have automatic payment or a box at the door, they don't make a show of passing round the bag. I mean what happens if you don't have cash or change, and the only thing you have in your pockets are minties?
 
For what it may be worth - I like the idea of having a "drop box" (installed in a wall - same general idea as a bank night deposit box - and sealed against theft) where folks could just place their monetary offerings into it [whenever] and skip the plate-passing during church services.
 
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Yea I don't know why churches keep doing that, it's one of the silly things about some churches. In some Islander churches they compete over who puts the most money in, and their offerings get read out in front of everyone in the pulpit.

I've heard there are rent-a-pews in some churches where the rich folk can reserve and they usually get the best seats near the front.
Some ladies wear their gold jewellery and pearls to church so I kind of want to tell them about 1 Timothy 2:9 but then they might think I'm judging them.

I mean if we're all different then I suppose some people are allowed to be richer than others.
 
Yea I don't know why churches keep doing that, it's one of the silly things about some churches. In some Islander churches they compete over who puts the most money in, and their offerings get read out in front of everyone in the pulpit.

I've heard there are rent-a-pews in some churches where the rich folk can reserve and they usually get the best seats near the front.
Some ladies wear their gold jewellery and pearls to church so I kind of want to tell them about 1 Timothy 2:9 but then they might think I'm judging them.

I mean if we're all different then I suppose some people are allowed to be richer than other
My mother in law lives very close to a catholic church and we have seen some sights going in and out of there . I wish I could take photos of them because to just tell people won't work because I don't think people would believe me . Cleavage , skin tight pink leggings , mid riffs totally exposed , night club make up , stinky perfume , seriously short skirts and very high heels . I wonder if these people don't have any friends or relatives that might say to them ; ' do u think that's appropriate ? ' obviously not 🤷 . Honestly , we've seen genuinely gross outfits .
 
Are you sure it's a church and not a night club? Some Catholic churches are deconsecrated and get turned into nightclubs, there was one in Singapore called Chijmes.

Although I do have skin tight pink leggings...for exercise. I usually wear shorts over them or a long top though.

If in doubt - wear a sackcloth and ashes dress. Always in style.

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My mother in law lives very close to a catholic church and we have seen some sights going in and out of there . I wish I could take photos of them because to just tell people won't work because I don't think people would believe me . Cleavage , skin tight pink leggings , mid riffs totally exposed , night club make up , stinky perfume , seriously short skirts and very high heels . I wonder if these people don't have any friends or relatives that might say to them ; ' do u think that's appropriate ? ' obviously not 🤷 . Honestly , we've seen genuinely gross outfits .
Maybe it was bingo night :) It isn't showing respect if it was a church service is it. Was you close enough to smell the perfume ? lol
 
Everyone should wear crocs to church with little Jesus fish jibbitz.
 
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Maybe it was bingo night :) It isn't showing respect if it was a church service is it. Was you close enough to smell the perfume ? lol
No it was a church service for sure and , we could smell the perfume twenty yards away 🙀 .
 
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No it was a church service for sure and , we could smell the perfume twenty yards away 🙀 .
Are you sure it wasn't the perfume that cost a whole years wages?

I'm not judging after all Jesus took in Mary Magdalene and I'm not sure how she was dressed.
 
My mum didn't care how I was dressed, she thought it was perfectly normal to wear trackpants out and I have some friends that wear lots of jewellery even in places where they don't have to. I guess everyone's different.

But yea I don't know about belly-dancers in church service, but I do recall one church service where they had a comedy act, and the pastors where wearing skinny jeans and chucks, and the lady pastors/pastrix wore their skinny jeans with high heels.
This was a like a non-denominational pentecostal/prosperity church though. And some of the ushers wore matching t shirts that had scripture prints on them. You can also get Christian hoodies at the Christian bookshop.

I'm not the fashion police and I don't really pap people. I mean, maybe they ARE committing fashion crimes, but I don't dob them in. If the whole church is like that, then I'd just go to a different church that dresses in the clothes I like to wear. IDK

As mum said, 'we're all different'.
 
Oh wait you said was a catholic church. Catholic churches are known for women to dress like Madonna. Crucifixes, bangles, underwear on the outside...whatever is in Vogue.
 
Is this true or not?
Sometimes, when I'm out with someone, and we don't agree on something or the other, I get told 'we're all different'. Sometimes, I just get plain tired of being different. I try not to take it personally, but all my life it's like I people constantly want to remind me, I am in a minority, a minority of one.
I think something in me wants me to be all the same. Maybe it's just I want to belong somewhere, and not constantly be told I'm different, unusual, or not normal.

What do you think? Is being different a good thing, or bad?
Christians have as many denominations as there are flavours of ice creams it seems. All different, unique, and special. But mix them all up together I don't know if multi-flavoured ice creams taste that nice. Maybe each scoop needs to be separate or some combos are better than others.

Sometimes, I get confused and can't tell any difference, for some people are to me like penguins, and all look the same, and act the same, as everyone else. For sure it's easier to group and classify things by size, shape and colour. But it gets annoying when you are a square peg in a round hole, or a fish out of water, an outsider looking in...

I sometimes wonder if in pretending to fit in or assimilate, maybe we are just fooling ourselves. Individuality has it's perks, but invisibility and camouflage, being able to blend in helps you to survive.

The Hebrews were God's chosen people, different, special, set apart, supposed to be God's holy righteous ones, and example to everyone else. How they tried and kept failing at that assignment. Do we as Christians find it easier to become as Christlike and Godly as He wants us to be? How bout always being told we are members of the body, but sometimes being treated as superfluous? Or of no use?
generally, in most of life's goings about, we're all the same. you possibly could be bored in a few areas of life. do you feel like you have been searching for a while? if yes, that can lead to wanting a change. never change the natural you, in other words, don't adapt to people, it's dangerous. if you do, in the future when you look back, you'll be disappointed. being different shows you are yourself as an independent woman. your make your own decisions without influence. being different tells people you can make trustworthy choices. my wife & i attended a huge party last saturday & i left around 8:00. everyone, more or less, sat around & talked. i thought it to be boring. definitely, when someone acts to fit in, that person is a fake. i used to do that decades ago, because i was in the "nobody likes us" group. we were outcasts, sort of speak. poor, not attractive to girls, low grades in school, nobody of any worth in other words. as Christians, we better try to be Christ like for the rest of our lives. & it should be easier with each passing year, that shows you are growing in grace. members of the church body should be 1 big happy family. i am quite different than most people & it has hurt a bit in the friendship category. for instance, i never liked the hard party crew, don't like staying out late or staying up late, don't take drugs, don't smoke, nearly never will attend drinking bars, etc. if i'm assembled with people, i prefer to talk about science, music, antiques, history, the pleasantly memorable past, etc. buy nearly no one wants to converse on those subjects.
 
We aren't particular about what you wear to church. Most who show up in an inappropriate dress don't know it's inappropriate.
The ushers seat them near the rear so as not to embarrass them. Usually after their first service, they return wearing a more appropriate dress.

You will hear God's word preached.
 
What do you think? Is being different a good thing, or bad?
even we, the "called out" have our differences. It's rare to find someone that has all the same beliefs and "wants" as you do.
Even two of the giants of early Christianity had differences.... Paul and Barnabas had differing ideas of how their ministry should go forward, and they split up their missionary journey because of it. Neither one was "right" or "wrong"... just different. But they had the same goal.... advancing the kingdom...
 
I'm pretty sure my ancestry is a hodgepodge of different people so, I have no problems thinking of myself as "all that." :cool:
 
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My mum didn't care how I was dressed, she thought it was perfectly normal to wear trackpants out and I have some friends that wear lots of jewellery even in places where they don't have to. I guess everyone's different.

But yea I don't know about belly-dancers in church service, but I do recall one church service where they had a comedy act, and the pastors where wearing skinny jeans and chucks, and the lady pastors/pastrix wore their skinny jeans with high heels.
This was a like a non-denominational pentecostal/prosperity church though. And some of the ushers wore matching t shirts that had scripture prints on them. You can also get Christian hoodies at the Christian bookshop.

I'm not the fashion police and I don't really pap people. I mean, maybe they ARE committing fashion crimes, but I don't dob them in. If the whole church is like that, then I'd just go to a different church that dresses in the clothes I like to wear. IDK

As mum said, 'we're all different'.
Oh no , I don't care what people wear either , my hubby's nick name for me is ' scruffcat ' so that should tell u something , I just think that people who r going to church should , actually , wear , clothes . Cover their flesh !