I am a very blunt and brutally honest person, I am not into bar scenes, and most Christian singles groups I have gone to do not have any viable prospects(forgive the language). I have been spending most of my time pursuing women on the web, which is also unfruitful. I remember one pastor saying jokingly that, “women are like parking spots, all the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.”
Ironically, I think because I have not had a real relationship with any woman, I find myself often dumbfounded by the question, “what are you looking for?”
I would say that first and foremost is a woman that is a believer, but my date from hell was also a woman who professed to be that, so I know that is a slippery slope and I give people time and opportunity to reveal their true nature.
If I could select my mate:
1. Christian (a woman sound in the true faith of traditional Protestant theology, to keep me grounded.)
2. Beautiful (I do not need a model or movie star, but I couldn’t stand to settle for low hanging fruit, or a starter wife. Better for us both to remain unmarried)
3. I believe there is wisdom in the words, “Do not marry someone you think you can fix,” and this is more for her than for me, I can surprisingly tolerate a lot from growing up with six siblings and some years in the military, but I would rather have someone who gets on me for smoking or other poor hygiene than someone who is afraid to be an unruly wife or especially and apathetic wife.
4. I would like someone who gets along better with my family than I do.
5. I love children, and I want at least 3. I was considering adopting embryos, but I would prefer all mine or none mine.
6. Raising children in a hybrid church. I come from a reformed evangelical background, I was very much in love with a girl who was Roman Catholic, and I was going to fight tooth and nail to raise our children Anglican, but God made that decision for me.
7. I believe in a shared responsibility of household duties, like changing diapers, cleaning, cooking, and washing dishes, but she would have to run point on that with me in a support capacity.
8. Fire and ice, on most topics I will be ice, but I do love passionate women.
I am sure I will think of more, but is this a reasonable series of expectations?
Be honest?
Ironically, I think because I have not had a real relationship with any woman, I find myself often dumbfounded by the question, “what are you looking for?”
I would say that first and foremost is a woman that is a believer, but my date from hell was also a woman who professed to be that, so I know that is a slippery slope and I give people time and opportunity to reveal their true nature.
If I could select my mate:
1. Christian (a woman sound in the true faith of traditional Protestant theology, to keep me grounded.)
2. Beautiful (I do not need a model or movie star, but I couldn’t stand to settle for low hanging fruit, or a starter wife. Better for us both to remain unmarried)
3. I believe there is wisdom in the words, “Do not marry someone you think you can fix,” and this is more for her than for me, I can surprisingly tolerate a lot from growing up with six siblings and some years in the military, but I would rather have someone who gets on me for smoking or other poor hygiene than someone who is afraid to be an unruly wife or especially and apathetic wife.
4. I would like someone who gets along better with my family than I do.
5. I love children, and I want at least 3. I was considering adopting embryos, but I would prefer all mine or none mine.
6. Raising children in a hybrid church. I come from a reformed evangelical background, I was very much in love with a girl who was Roman Catholic, and I was going to fight tooth and nail to raise our children Anglican, but God made that decision for me.
7. I believe in a shared responsibility of household duties, like changing diapers, cleaning, cooking, and washing dishes, but she would have to run point on that with me in a support capacity.
8. Fire and ice, on most topics I will be ice, but I do love passionate women.
I am sure I will think of more, but is this a reasonable series of expectations?
Be honest?
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