What are your thoughts on oral sex after marriage?

[zeroturbulence]

It might keep me out of trouble on CC

Now why would anyone want to do that??

 

[DinoDillinger]

Kathleen, while I do agree that the Song of Solomon has spiritual truths foreshadowed in it what your ultimately saying is that God used something sinful to describe something pure right? Does that throw up a warning flag for you? If you see it as sin though it would in theory be sinful in your future marriage. You can not, I repeat cannot condemn something based on your consious, you say it is over the line but you can not support that with scripture. Do your parents know that your debating adult men on this topic? I think you are stepping over the line and your being here is inapporiate.

 

[Elizabeth619]

Kathleen, while I do agree that the Song of Solomon has spiritual truths foreshadowed in it what your ultimately saying is that God used something sinful to describe something pure right? Does that throw up a warning flag for you? If you see it as sin though it would in theory be sinful in your future marriage. You can not, I repeat cannot condemn something based on your consious, you say it is over the line but you can not support that with scripture. Do your parents know that your debating adult men on this topic? I think you are stepping over the line and your being here is inapporiate.

I cannot argue with this.

I agree 100%

 

[Megatron]

Just have her get the HPV vaccine and you're golden.

Lol good point, i think they make them for guys too since guys tend to carry the virus. But yeah, one virus vaccine, and it's game time.

Here is the biggest part, I highly doubt my choices with my wife have any effect on my salvation hence me not caring. No amount of oral sex, hnadcuffs, or anything else between a husband and wife is going to send anyone to hell in my mind.

 

[GreenNnice]

Lol good point, i think they make them for guys too since guys tend to carry the virus. But yeah, one virus vaccine, and it's game time.

Here is the biggest part, I highly doubt my choices with my wife have any effect on my salvation hence me not caring. No amount of oral sex, hnadcuffs, or anything else between a husband and wife is going to send anyone to hell in my mind.

--- No need to highly doubt, megaT, the only thing that will keep you from Heaven is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit and that is REAL hard to do, you need expert, we, all us, as that is something of scripture hard for even christians to understand).

====Our sin acts just hurt our relationship with God, and, yes, we all have those kinds of hurts that delay us from God's plans for our lives. Well ,everyone but Billy Graham

Your acts in life will have NO consequence on your final destination you should be happy to know, megaT

John 3:16 - You just BELIEVE and you are going to go to Heaven.

== my opinion, as, of course, there are those that do believe you can lose your salvation . I do not believe you can, once you are born again, you are His as long as you DON'T stop believing

 

[rodogg]

Read the song of Solomon

 

[rainacorn]

This is one of the greatest threads I'm not really a part of.

The subject alone is awesome. "After marriage" lol

Wish I could say more, but I'm playing with banishment as it is.

Carry on.

 

[M7777B]

I believe and I am a believer in Christ...
That if it is consenting from both parties than it is ok...Maybe some feedback during and after to make sure each feels safe and understoood is a good idea to me... Also conversation BEFORE and not forced to do something for the other cause THEY want it is selfish and not in a HEALTHY ralationship...
Be cafeful to stay in the spirit of love and not the spirit of flesh cause it can go in a bad direction like s&m... It does happen...
as long as there is communication and you don't hurt eachother psysically or emotionally " I think it's a very enjoyable experience"

 

[Megatron]

I believe and I am a believer in Christ...
That if it is consenting from both parties than it is ok...Maybe some feedback during and after to make sure each feels safe and understoood is a good idea to me... Also conversation BEFORE and not forced to do something for the other cause THEY want it is selfish and not in a HEALTHY ralationship...
Be cafeful to stay in the spirit of love and not the spirit of flesh cause it can go in a bad direction like s&m... It does happen...
as long as there is communication and you don't hurt eachother psysically or emotionally " I think it's a very enjoyable experience"

Im honestly confused why everyone thinks things like BDSM and other fetishes are somehow sinful even if kept between a man and wife? the arguments are never presented its just a blanket this is bad statement...which is kind of a cop-out in my mind

 

[princessbella]

Im honestly confused why everyone thinks things like BDSM and other fetishes are somehow sinful even if kept between a man and wife? the arguments are never presented its just a blanket this is bad statement...which is kind of a cop-out in my mind

well i for one have never said i think its sinful megatron between consenting husband and wife but i think what m777 was trying to say mainly is if its done in a wrong spirit its wrong,if it hurts the other partner physically and emotionally, if the other partner agrees just because its what the other partner wants and doesnt want to lose them if theyre not willing ort there uncomfortable with it..

Im not saying any of that stuffs wrong or your wrong wanting those as part of your sex life within marriage but if loving marrying that person is conditional on whether they are agreeable to that certain act or fetish, thats lust not love and is nothign to do with who that person is but what you can get from them..Sex shouldnt be about selfishness but intimacy...

thats my view anyway

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Ummmm it's probably not a sin but it is disgusting, I don't know of any girl that would be ok with that

Hi, my name is Holly, and im okay with that.

Now you have..

 

[Maya86]

Men give, women receive.. its biological destiny. Kidding!
Dare I say hallelujah?!
Ps. I hope I won't get banned!

 

[zeroturbulence]

Hi, my name is Holly, and im okay with that.

Now you have..

LOL way to prove a point, Nod!

 

[Jullianna]

Kathleen, while I do agree that the Song of Solomon has spiritual truths foreshadowed in it what your ultimately saying is that God used something sinful to describe something pure right? Does that throw up a warning flag for you? If you see it as sin though it would in theory be sinful in your future marriage. You can not, I repeat cannot condemn something based on your consious, you say it is over the line but you can not support that with scripture. Do your parents know that your debating adult men on this topic? I think you are stepping over the line and your being here is inapporiate.

Thank you, Dino.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Kathleen, while I do agree that the Song of Solomon has spiritual truths foreshadowed in it what your ultimately saying is that God used something sinful to describe something pure right? Does that throw up a warning flag for you? If you see it as sin though it would in theory be sinful in your future marriage. You can not, I repeat cannot condemn something based on your consious, you say it is over the line but you can not support that with scripture. Do your parents know that your debating adult men on this topic? I think you are stepping over the line and your being here is inapporiate.

This was really well said, and i totally agree.

 

[Elizabeth619]

Im honestly confused why everyone thinks things like BDSM and other fetishes are somehow sinful even if kept between a man and wife? the arguments are never presented its just a blanket this is bad statement...which is kind of a cop-out in my mind

I think why some may look at fetishes as a sin is because FETISH is usually something that arouses a person. For example. I actually know a person that has a sho fetish. He is aroused by them for some strange reason,

I mean SHOES....not a woman in the shoes.....SHOES.

If i have to use an object like that to arouse my husband then there is a problem,

 

[Megatron]

I think why some may look at fetishes as a sin is because FETISH is usually something that arouses a person. For example. I actually know a person that has a sho fetish. He is aroused by them for some strange reason,

I mean SHOES....not a woman in the shoes.....SHOES.

If i have to use an object like that to arouse my husband then there is a problem,

Ok thats just weird. Really weird. Ok if it deals with something like that ill say their might be something wrong

 

[Stephanie]

Maybe you just have the skewed view of sex cause you're young.

I wouldn't disclude her because she's young...

 

[Elizabeth619]

Ok thats just weird. Really weird. Ok if it deals with something like that ill say their might be something wrong

hahahahahaha, you ok over there????

there is alot wrong with alot of things now days. yet again if a person doesnt want to do it then DONT.

i do worry about h0w some young people look at intamacy within a marriage though.

I read in one of the threads where someone said that sex is for reproducing and that is it...well i disagree...if that was the case then why is there pleasure during sex? I personally think that if that is all intimacy is for then love would not be as important. Faithfulness would not be necessary, and divorce would not be an issue. It all ties in together.

Intimacy is vital in a relationship, it is a way to "unite" as one, obviously make a family and a way to love.


Besides, if all i am good for is making babies then I have no need to marry. I already reproduced once.

 

[dothackzero]

if that was the case then why is there pleasure during sex?

They probably just think it's another tempation of the flesh to over come.