What I have found for me is this:
God says no. Simple.
He can do that. Now, it's up to me, to accept that.
I cannot tell you the anguish I have put myself though, but not just accepting that God says no.
See, God really does know best. My heart tells me HE doesn't, but the more I try to help others see the TRUTH, the more I see it.
So, when you pray, and HE just says NO. Make sure to not let your HEART get unforgiveness or hatred.
It only hurts me, when I do that, and I have fought that so many times...
I like to think of it as this, God knows what is going to happen. I know it sounds tough, but HE really does know best. NOW, I will tell you that my human side, screams out sometimes...and I am sure I know best, but man....HE knows best.
I am just GLAD that HE always takes me back when I surrender to HIM.
One more thing. Don't for ONE moment think you are alone on this..... Because you are not...
The key for me is "submission". OBEY.
You see those soft drink commercial all the time, "Obey your whatever" and other commericals, we listen to them against your will more often that naught, but when we obey GOD, we are in HIS WILL.
There is no better place for me to be, than in the WILL of God, whatever that might be....