What is sexually immoral in marriage?

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GaryA said:
Your post has merit; however...

Do you think that it might be possible for someone who has not done the things you have done to still have a valid opinion about computers - based on other related criteria - such as user experience?

I am quite sure that I have done far more "[high-]tech things" with computers than you have; yet, I still think that there are plenty of other folks (including you) who have insights that other folks may find valuable.

The one that "knows the most" is not always the optimal solution-giver - it depends on what the intent of the question is. If the person who asked it is less interested in the 'tech' details as they are in other factors - well - they may experience "tech-overload" from the information you offer.

Of course, no doubt you could/would/did give them some good and valuable information based on your experience. Therefore, your opinion would count for something - hopefully, they decided to hear what you had to say - especially, since they specifically asked you the question.

Nonetheless, my point relative to the thread topic - with regard to what you have said - is this...

It is possible that a person (even a single person) who posts in this thread:

~ may have had sexual experience - from which some worthwhile insight may be had.

~ may have health/medical knowledge - from which some worthwhile insight may be had.

~ may have looked into what the Bible says - from which some worthwhile insight may be had.

No-doubt we could add to this list if we thought about it for a while longer.

I would agree that some "very experienced" married folks might have good insights to offer.

Someone who "glibly" gives their opinion may actually know something that has value.

Why throw such a large blanket with the word 'probably'?
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Perhaps.

As one comedian said, "I am not a helicopter pilot, but if I saw a helicopter sitting in a tree I could say with some degree of certainty that somebody has messed up."

However this discussion has strayed into matters that are much less observable than the facile sighting of a helicopter in a tree. Many assumptions have been stated as fact, and people have started arguing when their alleged facts are contested.

Either a lot of people are talking out of their butts, secretly married or living seriously backslidden lives.
 
Lynx said:
A lot is four pages so far, and counting.
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I just think you are exaggerating a bit - just like "four pages so far" - which is not actually true until you reach 80 posts.

We are [only] now close to reaching the half-way point of page 4.

However, I do get your point...
 
Based on the thread title question - just how many pages [long] do you expect that this thread might reach?

It is actually a very good question for/to which Christians should make sure they know the biblical answer(s).
 
What is sexually immoral in marriage?

Simply put, that which is done by people who got their morals in the wrong place.
 
Lynx said:
Either a lot of people are talking out of their butts, secretly married or living seriously backslidden lives.
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You forgot: or were complete heathens and sluts before they became christians. That's a possibility.

But my real questions for the OP are why do you want to know? and if God's ways do seem super restrictive, how will that affect what you choose to do?
 
I remember years ago asking the same question. I confess at the time, my thoughts were not pure and coming from selfish motives.

The activity which is described as an abomination in Leviticus and unnatural in romans is clearly not ok even for consenting husband and wife. It could be argued that anything beyond just intercourse is unnatural, so would be safer ground to avoid that activity also . We have to remember our life is spiritual , our flesh is dead to sin and the carnal world .

If you are desiring other such other activity beyond intercourse , from what motive is this arising , love or selfishness ? Even if it’s reciprocated , it’s dubious to see it as anything but selfishness
 
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cinder said:
You forgot: or were complete heathens and sluts before they became christians. That's a possibility.
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Yes, well... I wasn't going to... I mean I wouldn't have put it QUITE like... Er... Well, technically that's fairly... Um...

Never mind.
 
JamieJ3 said:
I've never murdered a man, but I can still tell you I believe it's sinful and wrong. Therefore, I will not murder.
Arguing about who is worthy or not to post in this thread is fruitless.
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Yup. Almost as pointless as asking gardening advice from a city person who only knows vegetables from a can.
 
Someone posed the question "Why?" to the OP.
I appreciate the OP's wonderings. This is why I do: I think people should have an idea where they stand on these things AND discuss it with their potential spouse BEFORE they get married. Otherwise, you're just inviting in some potential conflict that could've been avoided. Perhaps the differences would even be enough for the two involved to call it all off. I'd certainly want to be on the same page about what is considered wrong or even sin and what is acceptable. The only other way to see if you're in agreement would be to fornicate a lot together, which is clearly stated as a sin in the Bible.

Lynx said:
Yup. Almost as pointless as asking gardening advice from a city person who only knows vegetables from a can.
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It's also fruitless to debate about whether or not arguing about who is worthy or not worthy to post is fruitless or not. So I'm stopping now because I'm really struggling to hold back the smartdonkey in me.
 
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JamieJ3 said:
It's also fruitless to debate about whether or not arguing about who is worthy or not worthy to post is fruitless or not. So I'm stopping now because I'm really struggling to hold back the smartdonkey in me.
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Don't hold back. We've seen it all here. You can't be more shocking than the people who have come before you on this forum.

Let 'er rip.

Um... I mean... In a strictly non-ban-ible sense, of course. Aside from profanity, blatant heresy and other stuff that might get you banned, let 'er rip.
 
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Christians are so good at complicating the simple. Define the marriage bed, define sex then keep it between the lines... done!
 
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