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Jullianna
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If a lady or gentleman is interested in you what do you think is the best way for them to convey that to you?
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thimsrebma
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Interesting, I had this conversation with a co worker yesterday.
If a man is interested inme I want him tobe straight forward and honest. I want him to be direct and say
"Amber, I think you are an interesting person and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to have lunch with me this weekend?"
I know I joke a lot but I am so serious about thtis. I can't stand it when guys hint at liking you but never really come out an admit it. I have very strong feelings about this. I feel like saying "Grow some hair on your chest and be a man!"
If a man wants soething he goes after it. Why is it that men can chase career, status, money, loose women, but when they truely are ready to settle down they don't know how to go after the real thing?
AAAHHHHH!!!!
If a man is interested inme I want him tobe straight forward and honest. I want him to be direct and say
"Amber, I think you are an interesting person and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to have lunch with me this weekend?"
I know I joke a lot but I am so serious about thtis. I can't stand it when guys hint at liking you but never really come out an admit it. I have very strong feelings about this. I feel like saying "Grow some hair on your chest and be a man!"
If a man wants soething he goes after it. Why is it that men can chase career, status, money, loose women, but when they truely are ready to settle down they don't know how to go after the real thing?
AAAHHHHH!!!!
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Mmm.... I prefer the friends first approach.
I like for them to be around me with my people. Get to know me as my friends know me and hang around her and her people. I want them to see me as human, with responsibilities and Laundry, just like everyone else. Then we can start putting our best feet forward.
Lunch this weekend sounds too official. Like that Coffee date I accidentally found myself on last week.
I like for them to be around me with my people. Get to know me as my friends know me and hang around her and her people. I want them to see me as human, with responsibilities and Laundry, just like everyone else. Then we can start putting our best feet forward.
Lunch this weekend sounds too official. Like that Coffee date I accidentally found myself on last week.
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
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thimsrebma
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Mmm.... I prefer the friends first approach.
I like for them to be around me with my people. Get to know me as my friends know me and hang around her and her people. I want them to see me as human, with responsibilities and Laundry, just like everyone else. Then we can start putting our best feet forward.
Lunch this weekend sounds too official. Like that Coffee date I accidentally found myself on last week.
I was speaking as if you all already knew each other a bit.
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
Guest
Mmm.... I prefer the friends first approach.
I like for them to be around me with my people. Get to know me as my friends know me and hang around her and her people. I want them to see me as human, with responsibilities and Laundry, just like everyone else. Then we can start putting our best feet forward.
Lunch this weekend sounds too official. Like that Coffee date I accidentally found myself on last week.
but see coffee isnt really a date though... is it???
and how did you accidentally find yourself on one??? This i wanna hear
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thimsrebma
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I guess it really all depends on how you define "date" or "dating"
To me you can go on a simple date or several dates and still not be "dating" in the sense of GF/BF. You are just two people hanging out, Sometimes you hanbg out with others and sometimes alone.
To me you can go on a simple date or several dates and still not be "dating" in the sense of GF/BF. You are just two people hanging out, Sometimes you hanbg out with others and sometimes alone.
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FriendoftheMostHigh
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Discernment regarding a person's walk with Christ is the best way to get a direction on what way to move in a relationship with someone. If having a relationship with the person is going to distract you from what God is doing in your life at the time, or in any way hinder your walk with Him (now or in the future) you would be wise to consider how involved you become.
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Jullianna
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Oh... well if I know the person and I am still going to date them, then its probably going to be a long term relationship.
but see coffee isnt really a date though... is it???
and how did you accidentally find yourself on one??? This i wanna hear
OK, so this girl has been dying to get coffee with me for like 3 weeks. But I've been busy and kinda blowing her off. I eventually caved and was like ok.
I had never hung out with her for any period of time longer than 20 minutes at a concert we both went to. So she got there and we made small talk about coffee and work stuff. Then she ordered a small sandwich and started talking about how long its been since she's dated anyone or been in a relationship.
I was reaching for the Eject Button when she started to get misty about how all the guys she's ever dated were only into her for sex and how there aren't any good guys out there any more.
So... I didn't want to be one of those heartless mean guys who leave her crying into her chicken salad sandwich. So I sat and listened over coffee, for like 3 hours.
The killer part was when we left she followed me to me car and then had this look of expectation. I was like thinking uh oh, wait, NOOO was this a DATE!? ugh... I hate myself right now =( "bye" and drove away.
I told myself, "I am going to need to be busy for a long time." It also made me think I don't really have a good excuse for being single right now either, so I can't blame her for trying.
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FriendoftheMostHigh
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Sorry! I just posted a statement, but had missed the original question. Going back I see that the question was by Julia in regards to how would I like somebody to let me know that they are interested in getting to know me. I prefer an honest approach, and appreciate alady that is a bit reserved, yet not so shy that she cannot express herself. Feeling comfortable and confident are important, but gettting to no someone is a learning and giving experience.
"For me its body language. She just has to seem inviting.
Like this? Right? Wrong?
...no. That is kind of big turn off. Kind of reminds me of those women who have like no female friends but like 5 gay friends. I'm not sure why.
I'm usually attracted to competitive body language and sarcasm.
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
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Thats disturbing... What the crap is she doing ordering a chicken salad sandwich from a coffee place!
She sounds desperate.
I think she is desperate (which is really hot btw
) but, I invited her to our Sunday night "Small Group" which has a Load of single guys. I want her to be a part of our group but, I think its awkward for her.
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Jullianna
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
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I think she is desperate (which is really hot btw
Well it probably is if you blew her off..
desperate is hot ... So i've been doing it all wrong this whole entire time!
way to tell me now doug
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Jullianna
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So, walking over to you at church and asking if the seat next to you was taken? Acceptable? Not acceptable?
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Jullianna
Guest
I would have to agree with Nod. Humor gets me every time. Two of the guys I have cared for most in my life were guys who told me off when I didn't pay them the attention they thought they were due in a not very subtle kinda way (one actually flipped me off). I thought it was hysterical, started laughing and I will probably love him forever. I love it when a guy gives me that "I will not be taking any crap from you young lady" attitude. (Can I say "crap" here??? dunno..anyway...) Not in a bad boy kinda way, but in an "I have too much respect for myself to let you treat me badly" kinda way. I have a lot of respect for folks who respect themselves.
I love it when a guy gives me that "I will not be taking any crap from you young lady" attitude. (Can I say "crap" here??? dunno..anyway...) Not in a bad boy kinda way, but in an "I have too much respect for myself to let you treat me badly" kinda way. I have a lot of respect for folks who respect themselves.