What would you like in a guy?

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Dream Husband/Boy Friend

  • (Some of this I cant/wont change I am just curious to know) (Dont choose this I just ran out of room

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Brunette

    Votes: 4 23.5%
  • Blonde

    Votes: 2 11.8%
  • Red Head

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Black Hair

    Votes: 2 11.8%
  • Other Hair Color (Specifify)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Sensitivity

    Votes: 7 41.2%
  • Randomness

    Votes: 6 35.3%
  • Seriousness

    Votes: 8 47.1%
  • Protectivenss

    Votes: 12 70.6%
  • Loving and Compassionate

    Votes: 14 82.4%
  • Muscular

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Semi Muscular (Like not really overweight just not much muscle)

    Votes: 7 41.2%
  • Chubby

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Blue Eyes

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • Brown Eyes

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Green Eyes

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • Other Color Of Eyes (Specifiy)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Smart

    Votes: 12 70.6%
  • Dumb (AKA like a total Jock)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Musical

    Votes: 8 47.1%
  • Works With Hands

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • 6-Infinity ft.

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • 5 6- 6 ft

    Votes: 2 11.8%
  • 0- 5 6 ft

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Compromiser

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • One Track Mind

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Grease Monkey

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Confident

    Votes: 10 58.8%
  • Low Self Confidence

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Protestant

    Votes: 6 35.3%
  • Catholic

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Dreamer

    Votes: 2 11.8%
  • Realist

    Votes: 7 41.2%
  • Optimist

    Votes: 9 52.9%
  • Pessimist

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • What type of job would he have? (Specify)

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Where could he be from? (Specifiy)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Technology Lover

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • Food Lover

    Votes: 3 17.6%

  • Total voters
    17
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TheJesusFreak

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Yes I know I am only 13 but TECHNICALLY I am single so I am allowed on this forum.

This is more for the younger crowd but any lady can vote lol.
 
a guy who does the chasing.....


Nothing more obnoxious than a guy who sits around and makes the girl do all the work.
 
You wouldn't know what chasing was if it was sitting in your front yard with a thermal camera and tranquilizer gun. ;)



hahahaha i love that!!!

buuuuuut! i do know what chasing is and isnt, and i would much rather have someone sittin in front of my house with a thermal camera and tranquilizer gun, then not do anything at all.
 
hahahaha i love that!!!

buuuuuut! i do know what chasing is and isnt, and i would much rather have someone sittin in front of my house with a thermal camera and tranquilizer gun, then not do anything at all.

Stalkers of the world UNITE! Wait, if we have permission, doesn't that take the fun out of it?
 
*Raises hand*

What about the "short", "furry", and "funny looking" options?
 
Ok What i would really REAAALLLY reaaaaaaaaaaaallly like in a guy is if he spent suspicous amounts of time doing his hair.

I would like it if he was from scotland................. or actually you know what, he could be from any place that ended with land.

Not being able to understand what he's saying is always a plus. That way i can ''listen'' without really having to listen.

And above all else. He must have beiber fever
 
lol kooper sorry I used all 40 poll options

Lol it says no one voted for low self confidence so that takes me out of everything lol
 
Okay, where is the 'goofy' option? 'Funny' option? Okay, what about 'great cook?' ha! Who made up this poll, lol??
 
He's got to be able to cook, I like guys with "emo/scene" Hair, Nice body is preferable but not an overiding thing. Good kisser, fun, good taste in music, films etc... Gotta be a gamer. Has to be a little psychotic and have a messed up sense of humour. And also I cant go out with someone who smokes or thinks they need to get wasted to have a good time I think their kinda sad and pathetic.
 
Hmm...looking at your poll so I can answer appropriately. haha

- Don't have a preferred hair color. Don't like comb-overs though. Embrace your baldness. Shave your head and get a tan. It can be hot, right, ladies?
- Sensitivity is fine as long as you aren't more of a girl than I am. J
- Randomness is awesome. Surprises keep the spark in a relationship.
- Seriousness. Sure, but not ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL the time. Ya gotta loosen up sometimes. A great sense of humor is a must.
- Protectiveness. Some of the guys in these threads have shown this toward the ladies and it's AWESOME. We don't NEED it most of the time, but that's not the point. Ignore what most ladies say, heroes make ladies smile.
- Loving and compassionate. It's an absolute and not in a mushy kinda way. In a strong, loving Jesus and people kinda way. Someone who is not afraid to show affection is important too. :)
- Muscular/non-muscular. I don't expect a guy to be totally ripped, but healthy is good. If I’m being complete honest, I’d have to say that I’m normally more attracted to guys who aren’t too thin.
- Eye color. Color doesn't matter, but a mischievous sparkle always rocks :) (Smile! It makes your eyes look nicer)
- Smart/dumb. Intelligence is often not as important as a willingness to learn/try new things. It’s good to have a lot of things to talk about because some of us are not good at small talk. Guys who like to talk a LOT might not like me. I’m a good listener, but I’m actually pretty quiet in person.
- Musical. Playing an instrument is GREAT, but an interest in music is good enough because music is a huge part of my life
- Height. No issue with heights, but some guys are not comfortable with taller women (I’m nearly 5.9 in heels).
- Work. What a guy does for a living isn't as important as his willingness to work and his having a good work ethic, but it seems like guys who have less stressful jobs don't really seem to understand a lot of the pressures/deadlines that women who do are under. I do try to make it clear up front that the pressures of my job can put quite a strain on relationships. It’s been an issue more than once….
- Confidence. THIS is one of the most attractive things about a guy, no matter what he looks like. Guys with low self-esteem tend to lean on women rather than taking the lead in a relationship and that's not very appealing.
- Faith. No relationships with unbelievers or with someone who is not interested in growing in God even if they are a Christian.
- Technolover – Not a problem. I’m a bit of techno geek myself, but I’m not a gamer.
- Food lover. I LOVE to cook and I like guys who like to cook.

P.S. - I noticed you said this was for the younger crowd, but I don't think it's likely that many 13 y/o girls are gonna answer and what the other ladies have to say might be helpful in the long run. :)
 
um, I am sooooooo picky when it comes to guys-which might make me doomed to singleness for the rest of my life, unless by a miracle of God He gives me the desire of my heart-God and me knows what (or who) that is. Anyways. Heres my list. Please everyone pray for me that God gives me these things.
1. Christian (someone in ministry, like a preacher, prophet, evangelist)
2. someone masculine (someone kind of muscular, not short, not to skinny). I want a man who works with his hands for a living
3. country boy (with an accent)
4. blonde or light brown
5. sensitive
6. willing to work through problems
7. soft hearted
8. generous (would give the shirt off his back for someone)
10. good conversationalist
11. very knowledgable about the bible (can challenge me in areas of my life and my knowledge of the word)
12. wants to live in the country or in the mountains
13. between the ages of 21-33
14. doesn't drink
15. doesn't smoke
16. no tattoos
17. knows what it's like to be lonely and feel rejected
18. abnormal
19. handsome
20. doesn't have tons of friends
21. in touch with the spirtual realm, but doesn't believe in anything fake
22. believes in one God-not a trinity, but one God who is manifested in the form of the father, son, and holy spirit
23. believes salvation is by faith and faith alone
24. smart even if he's never been to college
25. loves to cuddle, physically affectionate
26. wants to keep purity in our relationship before marriage
27. forgiving
28. understanding
29. honest
30. open
31. expresses his heart
32. has life experience
33. romantic (without crossing boundaries)
34. respectful
35. conservative but not legalistic
36. believes that marriage is a sacrement, and takes relationships very seriously
37. protective
38. Doesn't believe in controlling women, and isn't against women ministers
39. believes that marriage is a partnership-the woman and man work together to get things done
40. loves to minister to other people
41. emotional, yet shows self restraint
42. stands strong and fights for what he believes in
43. a gentleman-will pay for my meals when we go out (if he can), open the door for me, ect.
44. sweet to me
45. will walk with me and support me in anything I do that is of God, and I him
 
um, I am sooooooo picky when it comes to guys-which might make me doomed to singleness for the rest of my life, unless by a miracle of God He gives me the desire of my heart-God and me knows what (or who) that is. Anyways. Heres my list. Please everyone pray for me that God gives me these things.
1. Christian (someone in ministry, like a preacher, prophet, evangelist)
2. someone masculine (someone kind of muscular, not short, not to skinny). I want a man who works with his hands for a living
3. country boy (with an accent)
4. blonde or light brown
5. sensitive
6. willing to work through problems
7. soft hearted
8. generous (would give the shirt off his back for someone)
10. good conversationalist
11. very knowledgable about the bible (can challenge me in areas of my life and my knowledge of the word)
12. wants to live in the country or in the mountains
13. between the ages of 21-33
14. doesn't drink
15. doesn't smoke
16. no tattoos
17. knows what it's like to be lonely and feel rejected
18. abnormal
19. handsome
20. doesn't have tons of friends
21. in touch with the spirtual realm, but doesn't believe in anything fake
22. believes in one God-not a trinity, but one God who is manifested in the form of the father, son, and holy spirit
23. believes salvation is by faith and faith alone
24. smart even if he's never been to college
25. loves to cuddle, physically affectionate
26. wants to keep purity in our relationship before marriage
27. forgiving
28. understanding
29. honest
30. open
31. expresses his heart
32. has life experience
33. romantic (without crossing boundaries)
34. respectful
35. conservative but not legalistic
36. believes that marriage is a sacrement, and takes relationships very seriously
37. protective
38. Doesn't believe in controlling women, and isn't against women ministers
39. believes that marriage is a partnership-the woman and man work together to get things done
40. loves to minister to other people
41. emotional, yet shows self restraint
42. stands strong and fights for what he believes in
43. a gentleman-will pay for my meals when we go out (if he can), open the door for me, ect.
44. sweet to me
45. will walk with me and support me in anything I do that is of God, and I him

So Wait you say blonde or light brown hair, so if it was a black guy who dyed his hair that color and fit everything else in that description would that be acceptable? lol
 
lol. good question.Right now the guy I like fits all of that, and he's white. But it would literally take the miracle working hand of God for him to want to be in a relationship with me-though I have faith that unexpected things will happen Lord willing. But if I don't get him, than...let me think here. hmmm.......I dont think blonde hair looks good on black guys...honestly, but hay if i meet a black guy who can pull it off i would be truly impressed. If he fits all the description, I might consider it, though I'm not biologicaly attracted to black guys. i knew a pastor who said that he would never get remarried, and he would never marry a black woman. Not to long after he remarried a black woman from brazil (sweet lady to).
 
um, I am sooooooo picky when it comes to guys-which might make me doomed to singleness for the rest of my life, unless by a miracle of God He gives me the desire of my heart-God and me knows what (or who) that is. Anyways. Heres my list. Please everyone pray for me that God gives me these things.
1. Christian (someone in ministry, like a preacher, prophet, evangelist)
2. someone masculine (someone kind of muscular, not short, not to skinny). I want a man who works with his hands for a living
3. country boy (with an accent)
4. blonde or light brown
5. sensitive
6. willing to work through problems
7. soft hearted
8. generous (would give the shirt off his back for someone)
10. good conversationalist
11. very knowledgable about the bible (can challenge me in areas of my life and my knowledge of the word)
12. wants to live in the country or in the mountains
13. between the ages of 21-33
14. doesn't drink
15. doesn't smoke
16. no tattoos
17. knows what it's like to be lonely and feel rejected
18. abnormal
19. handsome
20. doesn't have tons of friends
21. in touch with the spirtual realm, but doesn't believe in anything fake
22. believes in one God-not a trinity, but one God who is manifested in the form of the father, son, and holy spirit
23. believes salvation is by faith and faith alone
24. smart even if he's never been to college
25. loves to cuddle, physically affectionate
26. wants to keep purity in our relationship before marriage
27. forgiving
28. understanding
29. honest
30. open
31. expresses his heart
32. has life experience
33. romantic (without crossing boundaries)
34. respectful
35. conservative but not legalistic
36. believes that marriage is a sacrement, and takes relationships very seriously
37. protective
38. Doesn't believe in controlling women, and isn't against women ministers
39. believes that marriage is a partnership-the woman and man work together to get things done
40. loves to minister to other people
41. emotional, yet shows self restraint
42. stands strong and fights for what he believes in
43. a gentleman-will pay for my meals when we go out (if he can), open the door for me, ect.
44. sweet to me
45. will walk with me and support me in anything I do that is of God, and I him

Let me just say i love a lot of this list because you are looking for a man that has a strong faith because God is the most important thing in life. However, sometimes i feel like girls are a little selfish and want things that are not important. Does God want you to have a guy that is blonde? does that really matter? I think its good to be open-minded to what God wants for us, and forget about the little details like eye and hair color. Also, isnt the thing that really matters on the inside? Stop putting guys on a pedestal that is impossible for them to mount, because they will never do it. Love a man for who is and see him as perfect no matter what. God sees us that way despiste our flaws. We all have flaws and as hard as it is to believe, so do girls. You would never see a list like this one about what a guy is looking for in a girl, but if you did it would be full of the same types of superficial things: body type, hair and eye color, personality, background. My advise is to throw out your list and find the guy or girl that God wants you to be with. Follow God's plan.
 
I'm disappointed that the most obvious option isn't on the list. After all, it's the thing that I really want in a woman.

A skeletal system and internal organs.

Ba-dum tchsssss!