jknotts2, I'm sorry this is over two years after the original posting but I can relate to this. After all I have been through with my wife, she still does not want to participate in the "rehab" of our marriage- she says she is not about to go into a marriage counselor (Christian or secular) who is going to judge her. I have not been able to get her to join me in marriage counseling, even though she continues in her adulterous affair with alcohol. Like you, I don't believe in divorce- as long as she is not being abusive towards me, we will tolerate each other. It's hard, but I believe that if we as men stay true to God's Word we will see a reward at the end of the day. Please let me know how you are doing- I'm new to this group.