Why I gave up on online dating and offline dating.

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Seeking-Christ

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Starting in 2002 until 2013 I kept putting myself out there, the best I could. And I always hit a road block. I live in Northern Indiana, not that far from the Michigan line. I remember trying dating site after dating site, and social sites etc. I hardly ever met anyone in my area. Most of the time, the closest I would find were people that lived in Michigan some where. Or maybe way down south Indiana. But one time I met a woman that lived in my nearest City. She called herself a Christian. So finally a winner? Nope! She did drugs, and swore like crazy. I still remember the very last woman I spoke to on the phone. She acted like she really wanted to talk me on the phone. But as luck would have it, I got sick with a cold. So I wasn't able to do it right way. But as soon as I got well, I did. Then she answered and said, "oh I should of told you that I already found someone, God Bless". I thought to myself, why does this crap always happen to me? So as soon as I got a chance, I logged into my okcupid account and deleted my profile. I haven't been back to an online dating site since!

I know that some of you probably think you got some suggestions. But let me tell you something. There is so many road blocks in my life, that no matter what suggestion you come up with, I can guarantee that there is already a road block in place to counteract one of your suggestions. These road blocks can not be knocked down. If I were to start knocking down these road blocks, my whole life would fall down. They are like pillars holding it up.

So your probably wondering. Why on earth would you write this blog? Sometimes I just feel like I need to write it again...
 
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Even though I had to give up. I wish I didn't haft to give up. But as I look around, I don't see any way to make things better. So I just throw up my hands and quit. As they say, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results".

I often write, as a way to help me emotionally cope with this...
 
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Seeking-Christ said:
Even though I had to give up. I wish I didn't haft to give up. But as I look around, I don't see any way to make things better. So I just throw up my hands and quit. As they say, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results".

I often write, as a way to help me emotionally cope with this...
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I am very sorry that you are going through this.
 
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Seeking-Christ said:
Starting in 2002 until 2013 I kept putting myself out there, the best I could. And I always hit a road block. I live in Northern Indiana, not that far from the Michigan line. I remember trying dating site after dating site, and social sites etc. I hardly ever met anyone in my area. Most of the time, the closest I would find were people that lived in Michigan some where. Or maybe way down south Indiana. But one time I met a woman that lived in my nearest City. She called herself a Christian. So finally a winner? Nope! She did drugs, and swore like crazy. I still remember the very last woman I spoke to on the phone. She acted like she really wanted to talk me on the phone. But as luck would have it, I got sick with a cold. So I wasn't able to do it right way. But as soon as I got well, I did. Then she answered and said, "oh I should of told you that I already found someone, God Bless". I thought to myself, why does this crap always happen to me? So as soon as I got a chance, I logged into my okcupid account and deleted my profile. I haven't been back to an online dating site since!

I know that some of you probably think you got some suggestions. But let me tell you something. There is so many road blocks in my life, that no matter what suggestion you come up with, I can guarantee that there is already a road block in place to counteract one of your suggestions. These road blocks can not be knocked down. If I were to start knocking down these road blocks, my whole life would fall down. They are like pillars holding it up.

So your probably wondering. Why on earth would you write this blog? Sometimes I just feel like I need to write it again...
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Have you ever thought that the road blocks may be that you are on the wrong path? Maybe forget the girl and ask God what it is he wants for you to do with your life. He probably wont answer straight away (but he might). Follow what God says and he may surprise you and bring a girl your way in time. Insisting that it happen now and trying to make it happen will only leave you in the land of frustration like you sound that you are presently in. I have also been in the land of frustration and followed my own advise. I can now say that I dont want to go back there.
 
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Ruby123 said:
Have you ever thought that the road blocks may be that you are on the wrong path? Maybe forget the girl and ask God what it is he wants for you to do with your life. He probably wont answer straight away (but he might). Follow what God says and he may surprise you and bring a girl your way in time. Insisting that it happen now and trying to make it happen will only leave you in the land of frustration like you sound that you are presently in. I have also been in the land of frustration and followed my own advise. I can now say that I dont want to go back there.
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LOL thanks I guess for the comment, but did you read my title? Did you read that I haven't been to a dating site since 2013? LOL
 
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Ruby123 said:
Have you ever thought that the road blocks may be that you are on the wrong path? Maybe forget the girl and ask God what it is he wants for you to do with your life. He probably wont answer straight away (but he might). Follow what God says and he may surprise you and bring a girl your way in time. Insisting that it happen now and trying to make it happen will only leave you in the land of frustration like you sound that you are presently in. I have also been in the land of frustration and followed my own advise. I can now say that I dont want to go back there.
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I have tried all of this stuff. I can't seem to forget about the girl.

Sometimes I think Christian people want me to ask the lord what He wants for me, over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. Many Christian people assume that things aren't going right because I'm not trying to follow the Lord. Anyways that is the impression I get from your comment.
 
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LOL thanks I guess for the comment, but did you read my title? Did you read that I haven't been to a dating site since 2013? LOL
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What I am trying to say is change your FOCUS from girl, girl, girl to developing your relationship with God. This is a lifelong thing. Nobody has arrived yet and probably wont on this side of the earth. Pray and ask to meet someone (which I assume you have already done) then ask God to help change your focus whilst you are waiting otherwise the wait will seem treacherous. Submit and surrender the girl idea to God like Abraham did with Isaac knowing that God is good and in his way and timing will cause your paths to meet with someone that he KNOWS is a good match for you. Are you willing to do that is the question.
 
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Ruby123 said:
What I am trying to say is change your FOCUS from girl, girl, girl to developing your relationship with God. This is a lifelong thing. Nobody has arrived yet and probably wont on this side of the earth. Pray and ask to meet someone (which I assume you have already done) then ask God to help change your focus whilst you are waiting otherwise the wait will seem treacherous. Submit and surrender the girl idea to God like Abraham did with Isaac knowing that God is good and in his way and timing will cause your paths to meet with someone that he KNOWS is a good match for you. Are you willing to do that is the question.
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i have tried for many years. So I guess I'm not willing. I can't change my own heart and feelings.
 
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